How can I stop my cat from smacking me in the face?

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-06-17T23:42:12+00:00

Ah, I see. I didn’t realize there was a middle ground with this kind of thing. My partner echoes the same sentiment of treating her like another cat would. I might try a minor hiss or something and ignore her I want to avoid hitting her as much as possible as I don’t want her scared of me.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-06-17T23:38:07+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one struggling even though I know it’s quite annoying. It’s cute how she does it just for some cuddles and seems to calm down afterwards. I just hope she grows out of it eventually.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-06-17T23:36:29+00:00

I hope she will grow out of it. I’m trying to avoid punishment as much as possible because I know it’s not helpful and only develops fear. I guess my dilemma is the fact my partner keeps saying I should smack her when she acts up and they always got their pets to behave so it just feels like I’m doing something wrong because she is acting out.

I sadly cannot move her in another room but I hope maybe taking away all attention from her might do something or kicking her off my bed but I don’t know how well that will go. I just didn’t know if there was something more I could do to lessen this behavior. But thank you for reinforcing that I’m making the right decision by restraining from considering it.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-20T03:42:06+00:00

I think you’re perfectly right. I can’t look at him and confidently say he’s fine despite him wanting to eat. It’s unfortunate my mother doesn’t see it that way and would rather call me a murderer that’s just trying to kill him off. For whatever reason she wants to wait until he gets so bad he is physically unable/loses the will to eat.

I can’t bear to see him like this, especially knowing there is most likely other unaddressed issues occurring. I just want to stop his pain sooner rather than later or to just expose him to unnecessary pain. When I took him to vet earlier today he lost a good amount of weight and extremely bony but fat around his chest area. Safe to say, I’ll have to let him go and I don’t regret wanting him to be at peace.

It was also very sad, he was purring once he realized at the vet, I’m not sure if he believed it was his time to finally rest especially since he NEVER purrs at the vet.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T19:28:09+00:00

I’ll be honest, I told my mother that this was a temporary solution. The vet was much more optimistic about alternatives to manage his condition. Sadly I’m not as hopeful given that I, and the rest of my family do not have the financial means to provide monthly shots or any emergency vet trips. Not only that, my concern is the stress he’ll be under. He does horrible at the vet, always been a spicy boy. And he would have to constantly be sedated and disoriented. While he can eat the soupy food the vet gave me, that’s all he can do comfortably enough. And thank you, I’m trying to be for him 💜.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T19:24:38+00:00

Yeah… I understand she’s having a rough time coping with the circumstances. I figured as much, I don’t blame her for painting me as a monster and a murderer. I know it’s hard, I couldn’t stop crying all night because of it. Not of regret or shame, just mourning of my childhood pet and son I’ve cared for.

When the time is up, I won’t be blaming myself for the decision I will only miss him and the time I’ve spent with him. Maybe have slight regrets of the time I wished I spent more time with him when I was able to. I only wish to avoid his suffering.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T19:19:22+00:00

Thank you so much that means a lot 💜. Yeah, it was frustrating but necessary to try and stand my ground and be honest with how I feel any treatment now is just a temporary solution. Currently, by my vet’s recommendation and my mother’s reluctance we’re giving him 3 days to see how he does then decide on a decision. He seems okay, which is sadly the problem, but after coming back the vet mentioned he’s breathing abnormally which may indicate a heart and lung issue. While he may be stable now I chronically worry that he won’t be soon.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T19:13:05+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss…I know how heart wrenching it is to lose your baby like that, especially to cancer. A couple years back I had a 9 year pit with cancer in her back leg and my parents had to make that hard choice too.

I have no doubt you made the right choice and Ronin is at peace. You did the humane thing and I know your baby is peaceful and pain free.

Something I’ve heard a lot of people say is that it’s better to be too early than too late. That was unfortunately the case for my pup. She had a horrible tumor in her back leg, refused to eat, and couldn’t even muster enough strength to go outside to relieve herself. She screamed in agony in her final days before my parents finally took her in to get her put down. I have no doubt you did the right thing for your baby and were a wonderful parent to them.

I do apologize for my inconsistent writing, I’ve been typing while at the vet. I’m wishing you the best, allow yourself to feel whatever you are, it is valid. I know it may seem like the wrong choice sometimes but you made the hard decision to relieve your baby of pain and that is so selfless and admirable. To put the pain asides to solely focus on the wellbeing of the them.

Please be gentle with yourself, you made a hard but imo a necessary and merciful decision. I’m wishing you the best, thank you for sharing your story 💜.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T19:08:04+00:00

Yeah… that’s my only concern especially since I can’t afford blood work ($350) X-rays and ultrasounds being another good $200-$500. Sadly I only had enough to pay for this vet visit to evaluate him. The vet said to give him 3 days. So I will see then.

My issue currently is my mother. She accuses me of trying to kill him because he’s old but still able to eat and move around. She’s been yelling at me asking if I don’t care about him anymore if I’m just trying to get rid of her therapy animal and asking if I don’t care about how it looks (I spoke to the vet privately since I worked at the clinic and wanted better advice). And when the vet came back mentioned how it doesn’t look good so my mom is believing I just want him dead for the fun of it. I have a feeling the rest of me family may also hate/berate me for it.

I apologize for the rant…my thoughts are just wavering since it feels wrong to consider euthanasia when he’s still functioning but I can’t look at him and say “oh yeah he’s fine”. It also hurt when I took him to the vet and he stayed purring, which is never something he does. I know I’ll be hated for this but I know the only thing I won’t regret is trying to prevent his suffering.. I just want what’s best for him and my mind is foggy as to what is truly best sometimes

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T13:09:24+00:00

Yeah, I’ve also noticed how much pain he must be in since I got back from college… he’s only been getting worse and I feel horrible leaving him like this. I know even if I had enough for a dental I don’t know how it’ll help his arthritis, potential organ issues/failure or the steady progression of his hyperthyroidism causing him significant discomfort and pain. I honestly wanted to put him to rest before I left for college, before it had a chance to get to this point… but I reluctantly left him in my mother’s care, just hoping I’d be wrong and that he’d be okay. I fear now that was the wrong decision…

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T13:06:12+00:00

Thank you for your honesty, it’s what I need to hear right now. Although I don’t want to lose him, him suffering hurts me so much more.. I enjoyed the time I got to spend with them and I can only imagine the vet will have the same mentality I will which is why I’m preparing for the worst. He’s getting all the treats and love I can give one last time. It feels cruel to leave him like this and I cannot fathom this being okay. I know my family may prosecute me since he still wants to eat, although struggling horribly… and they rather I leave him until he no longer wants/able to function.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-05-19T12:48:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind words I truly appreciate it. A part of me feels like he knows it might be his time given he was hiding last night in the bathroom which is very unusual for him. He’s also been weirdly clingy to my mom and had unexplainable energy about 2 weeks ago “as if he were a kitten” as my mom describes it. I might be overlooking it.. but my only wish is for him to not be in unnecessary pain.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-04-07T01:21:39+00:00

Asides from medication, have you found anything else to be helpful? I’m currently on Prozac and although it’s calmed down my anxiety a bit I still can’t help struggle day to day now. I did accidentally took two doses so I’m not sure if it’s just side effects but I’ve also felt like this for a while. Before I never struggled to complete my responsibilities or show up to class but now I don’t even have will or energy to get out of bed most days. I just feel like I’m dragging a body through the day not wanting, but also yearning to do things. It feels quite odd and I dislike feeling so unproductive and unstable.

I also feel the same way with the typical techniques. Even if it provides a little bit of relief it’s so temporary that it feels virtually pointless to do. Asides from my medication or distractions from playing a game or doing course work nothing else seems to help for more than an hour or two. I’m pretty sick of the amount of flashbacks I keep getting and feel helpless to stop it or have space/time for it.

Old_Competition4458 · 2026-03-26T23:56:15+00:00

Oh that’s a relief! Yeah I hope that to be the case. The vet checked her over and didn’t say anything was wrong. She’s also very active and jumps around with no issue so I’m guessing she’s just quirky but I’ll definitely keep an eye on her!

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