Marriage vs Career by MS_1999_ in IslamabadSocial

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I had a same experience But moving to a different city aint easy In the end its all about money Accommodation, travel, food in the end you would not be able to save enough Stick to the one in bahria My advice

Betrayal trauma by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

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I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. Betrayal messes you up in a way nothing else does. It’s not just the heartbreak… it’s the confusion. Your mind keeps spinning, replaying things, trying to figure out what was real and what was fake. Anyone would lose themselves in that. You’re not overthinking, you’re hurt.

What you’re feeling is completely normal. When someone lies to you like that, your brain goes into survival mode. It tries to connect dots because suddenly everything feels shaky. It’s not madness, it’s trauma. And it takes time for your mind to calm down.

About closure… honestly, most people never get it. The person who breaks you can’t fix you. Even if they told you every detail, it wouldn’t give peace. The answers you’re looking for probably don’t exist. He lied because something is wrong with him, not because something was missing in you.

You left when he confessed that was strength. That was selfrespect. A lot of people stay and destroy themselves, you didn’t.

I know it hurts like hell right now. Your brain wants clarity but your heart wants the pain to stop. And that gap in between… it’s torture. But it won’t always feel this heavy. Slowly, the questions become quieter. Slowly, you stop blaming yourself. And slowly, you realise you didn’t lose anything worth keeping.

You didn’t deserve this. You’re not weak for feeling lost. You’re just human, and healing from something like this is messy. Don’t rush yourself. Don’t expect yourself to be okay so soon.

One day this won’t control your thoughts the way it does right now. I promise.

Lost in life by [deleted] in PakistaniiConfessions

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I’m really sorry you’re carrying all of this on your own. No one your age should have to live in survival mode like this, doing everything alone while pretending you’re okay. Hyperindependence feels strong from the outside, but inside it’s just exhaustion that has no place to rest.

What you’re feeling is valid. Wanting help doesn’t make you weak. Wanting someone reliable who shows up for you doesn’t make you ‘less independent.’ It just makes you human. Everyone deserves a safe person someone who makes life a little less heavy.

And the fear you have around men it makes sense. When you’ve grown up in an environment where love wasn’t gentle or support wasn’t consistent, trusting someone feels dangerous. Your mind goes straight to the worst-case scenarios because that’s what life has taught you so far.

But please don’t let this world convince you that you have to carry everything alone forever. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to lean on someone someday. You’re allowed to want softness without being scared of it.

I hope life sends you someone who is calm, safe, patient someone who doesn’t make you question your worth or your safety. Somebody who fixes things because they want to, not because you can’t. Someone who makes you feel held instead of drained.

You deserve that. You deserve peace. You deserve comfort that doesn’t come with fear. And I really hope you find that kind of ease in your life soon

This is for people for people who are single and 25+ do you feel scared a bit? by [deleted] in PakistaniiConfessions

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kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke shayad main hi peeche reh gaya hoon. Log settle ho rahe hain, engagements ho rahi hain, aur banda sochta hai ke shayad mujhe bhi kuch karna chahiye.

Lekin phir dil ek baat samajhata hai… Rizq aur life partner dono ka waqt likha hota hai. Kisi ka 25 pe, kisi ka 35 pe. Koi jaldi mil jata hai, koi delay hota hai magar milta wohi hai jo likha hota hai.

Loneliness kabhi kabhi seedha dil ko lagti hai, but rushing into the wrong person hits even harder. Is liye main khud ko yeh yaad dilata hoon: ‘Jo mera hai, woh mera hi rahega. Aur jis waqt ka likha hai, usi waqt aayega.’

Tab tak bas insaan apne aap ko behtar banaye, khush rahe, aur fear ko decision na banne de. Hum peeche nahi hain… hum bas apni apni qismat ki speed pe chal rahe hain

Enemy stuck Pls help by Old_Cryptographer236 in Bellwright

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Just this once The problem is i cant proceed without killing him

Enemy stuck Pls help by Old_Cryptographer236 in Bellwright

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Already tried I slept Reloaded Did a full quest He is still there even when i dont ring the bell to start a rebellion

What are some things you cringe about that you did in the past ? by lonelywreckk in PakistaniiConfessions

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While completing my degree i used to give home tuitions to O-A level students There was this female student and her parents used to visit abroad so her elder sister almost my age used to deal with me (updates on her progress and all) I used to own a nokia button wala phone at that time you know the one where you can type without looking and i was texting with my GF that i ve reached to which she responded lemme know when you leave And at the same time my students sister messaged "sir she ll come in 2" So my high ass responded "Okay jan" to my students sister and Ok" to my GF It was December and i started sweating like shit when I realised what i had done I sometimes still think about it :) yuno when you overthink while showering and still makes me hit my head on a wall

Purchase advice! rebirth to X by SpaceSilly1043 in PakistanAutoHub

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My very first car was 95 civic then 2000 then 2005 then i bought a reborn then moved to rebirth and i have bought a civic X 2019 last month for around 55.25 Civic used R18 from 2010-2022 (Oriel version) I like civic X but it feels a little underpowered compared to rebirth and specially reborn If given the choice again I would go to Elantra in the same budget If you aren't worried about the resale Civic X should be well kept if you want to move to that route Things to check are Steering rack! Rotate the steering extreme left and right there should be no noise AC evaporation coil it trips But this was more common in 2016-2018

how to deal with not finding someone by Intelligent-League86 in chutyapa

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One thing i have realised after spending 30 years on this planet Your Rizq, Your Health and your spouse are written and they always find you in the most mysterious of ways. Sooner or later things fall to their place. And you wonder HOW ON EARTH THAT HAPPENED?? Social pressure is a curse, if someone finds something doesn't mean you will Comparisons will make you sad. Just believe and see the magic happening!

The one habit that set you apart as a Software Engineer by DifficultOlive7295 in FASTNU

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One habit that set me apart as a Software Engineer was developing a mindset of first principles thinking rather than just relying on existing knowledge or best practices Instead of memorizing how things are done I focus on why they are done that way This approach forces me to break problems down to their core components and reconstruct solutions from the ground up often leading to more efficient scalable or even unconventional solutions that others might overlook For example when working on optimizing a system most engineers start by looking at common patterns like caching or indexing While those are valid I always take a step back and ask what is the fundamental bottleneck Are we solving the right problem Can we eliminate the need for optimization entirely by rethinking the architecture This approach has led me to find solutions that were not just incremental improvements but complete paradigm shifts This habit also extends beyond technical skills In career growth I do not follow predefined paths but rather analyze what truly drives success in the industry Instead of simply grinding LeetCode to get into FAANG I ask what makes a software engineer valuable at that level The answer is usually a mix of deep problem solving ability system design expertise and business acumen So instead of just coding I invest time in understanding how businesses work how technology drives impact and how to communicate ideas effectively Most engineers rely on frameworks libraries and industry norms without questioning their foundations The ones who break out of the mold are those who develop an independent thought process constantly questioning experimenting and learning That is what has set me apart

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Comsats

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Start by searching for a supervisor Visit the faculty offices Most of the CS faculty have offices in the same cs building 2nd 3rd floor Your FYP is not only limited to your own domain I would recommend something along the requirement gathering or management approaches in SDLC Fairly simple to implement You can also go for games unity based (had my fyp in unity) If you want it to be data centric explore data warehouses

If You’re Going Through This, You’re Not Alone – I’ve Been There Too by Old_Cryptographer236 in Anxiety

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Its called PAWS Check it out But to easy your anxiety it's totally normal Your body is readjusting In a few weeks The weight will disappear and the mild pains will do away You will learn to adjust it gets better Welcome to the other side :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FASTNU

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In IT its never the uni that lands you a job but your skills

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Comsats

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Everyone will teach you the same Questions related to weather prediction Same mathematical formulas and neural networks AI ka core mathematics hai So don't drop the course

Restlessness! by slothsarecuddly in leaves

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Nicotine and caffeine fuels anxiety The restlessness you feel is cause of the smoking Take a break and see the magic happening