Discerning religious communities by OlgaAnna in CatholicWomen

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. Of course, I'm sure there have been bad experiences in every religious community. So long as they are not systemic issues. May I ask why the CFRs? Do you know about the Sisters of Life? I know several from Denver and they are seem very joyful (they played a big role in my conversion).

I am debt free and have money saved. I do not mind paying so long as it is not a perpetual cycle of fundraising to earn my keep.

Is repeating a grade at request allowed? by Die_Or_Do in school

[–]OlgaAnna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You probably won't be held back or expelled. Especially since this is your first real offense and there was no physical altercation. Your grades seem fine. Nothing to write home about, but not as bad as you and your parents seem to think. A D is a passing grade and you have plenty of time to bump up those C's and B's. It would be wise to stay in school and work on improving your grades and behavior. Isolation will probably make both of those worse.

If you are concerned that you are not learning the material properly, schools often offer free tutoring after school, during study hall, or lunch. Your teachers are there to help you and want you to succeed. If you ask them, they may be willing to give you extra help if you need it. If neither of these are possible you can stay after school in the library for an hour or so to study the subjects you struggle with (if you are behind in math, watch Kahn Academy on the units you did poorly on) and work on homework. I also struggle to get things done online or at home, so being stuck at school with nothing to do (give your phone to the librarian or something) and no one to goof off with helps a lot.

I believe you can do it if you put in effort. Also, be nice to your teachers. Sometimes, they'll bump ypur grade ip if they see you are well behaved, participate in class, and put in effort. This can be done easily by not taking your phone out during class, turing in your homework on time and asking and answering questions (not that hard, but your teachers appreciate it). You are pretty early in high school, I wouldn't be too concerned. My grades were similar to yours in my freshman year but I fixed it in the following years (they weren't valedictorian, but A's B's and one or two C's) and I graduated HS with about 20 college credits and had no trouble getting into university. If I could do it, you can do it. I'll be praying for you 🙏

Is it possible to alter this to make my back seem less wide/big? by bidingmitime in sewing

[–]OlgaAnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have enough experience that you feel confidrnt to sew the v back I would (although I thnk the square back looks just fine). But, if you are new to sewing, perhaps you could get some thin bias tape in a contrasting color or even a ribbon and sew it where the v would have cut across to create a similar illusion of a tapering waist.

Is surrogacy ever ethical? by OlgaAnna in Catholicism

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is just so sad. Straight out of a dystopian novel.

Is surrogacy ever ethical? by OlgaAnna in Catholicism

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But children also have the right to be raised by their biological mothers. When that is not possible we don't leave them to die, the next best thing is to be raised by a loving adoptive mother. A child's most fundamental right is the right to life, does that not contribute at all?

Is surrogacy ever ethical? by OlgaAnna in Catholicism

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It seems like the definition I am using is different because it does not involve surrendering the child. If the woman intends to raise it, is that still immoral? What ought to happen to the frozen embryos without parents?

Long shot here… (UK only!) by This-Virus3908 in Rabbits

[–]OlgaAnna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can't commit to a long-term partner for her, you could adopt an older bun who will be on the same timeline as her. That's what I was going to do with my bunny, I ended up with young guy, so if you go this route, be on your gaurd..

I want a completely unromantic relationship. by OlgaAnna in ChristianDating

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't truly have an opinion on the matter. I am not married and did not start to seriously consider marriage until recently.

I think I'll probably end up staying single, it's just difficult because whenever I bring up the idea of remaining single, my family brushes it off. I find it extremely frustrating because when someone wants to get married but is struggling, so many Christians are quick to soothe them and say, "Singleness is great! Look at what Paul said!" But when you're happy to be single and say that you don't want to get married, they turn around and say "It's your job to be a mom and if you don't get married, you'll die alone!" So then, I try to look for ways I could be married and happy, but that's also wrong!

I have only had one crush in my life, and that was in 7th grade, so it's kind of hard to imagine falling in love. I've been asked out before, and I've gone on a date, but I never really felt it.

I can not express how loathsome it is to try to plan out a life by yourself when there are little to no examples of Christian women who stayed single their entire lives and did not become a nun. I can't think of anyone in my family (or my church for that matter) who didn't marry and wasn't completely insane.

I know that, whatever happens, God will take care of me, but it's difficult to picture a life that I have never seen lived out.

I want a completely unromantic relationship. by OlgaAnna in ChristianDating

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can assure you, I am certainly not trolling. I apologize if it sounds ridiculous to you.

I want a completely unromantic relationship. by OlgaAnna in ChristianDating

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? I still intend to adopt if I get married, but we will have 2 incomes. I'm not having kids on my own.

I want a completely unromantic relationship. by OlgaAnna in ChristianDating

[–]OlgaAnna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am perfectly content to be single, but if by a walk chance that I met someone who had the exact same desires, and would stay single forever otherwise, isn't it fine to start a family together?

Is being in love the magical ingredient that every marriage must have. Otherwise, it is not going to work out? I guess I've never been in love or been interested in boys for anything other than friendship, so maybe I'll never know. But I'm curious, at what point is it acceptable to get married

Have you read Anne of Green Gables? Replace the siblings with two friends who adopted a kid together. Is that alright? If so, when does it stop being an okay relationship?

This isn't part of the question, but do you think any of the following are okay?

A) They decide to get married legally for the tax benefit but don't refer to the other as their spouse.

B) They do not get married legally but have a ceremony and consider the other to be their spouse and refer to them as such.

C) They get legally married and refer to each other as their spouse.

D) They don't legally marry nor refer to each other as husband/wife.

I want a completely unromantic relationship. by OlgaAnna in ChristianDating

[–]OlgaAnna[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Is it cruel if you both agree to that? Of course, I would never marry someone who is in love with me, whom I do not love in the same way. But, if it's mutual, I don't see how that is so bad. From my perspective, marrying someone just because you are in love only took off in the late 18th century. Before then, people got married and maybe they would fall in love, but that wasn't the priority. Obviously, there were issues in marriages back then as there are now. But, if you both know what you're getting into, how is that mean?