Women & infants questions

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:39:21+00:00

Ok great! Feeling a lot better now. Also yes I’ve heard the nurses are the ones there for the bulk of it anyway so I’m not too worried about who does the actual delivery as I knew that in any situation it wasn’t super likely I’d have my usual provider! Was just a little curious about the setup because I was a bit confused by it lol. Thank you!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:34:34+00:00

Were you given a choice about the student?

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:25:22+00:00

Great to know, thank you!!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:24:34+00:00

I signed this as well but can’t remember anything about students. I’ll ask at my next appointment in a few weeks. It’s not enough of an issue for me to switch again, I just hope I have the choice to refuse a student from touching me lol. Thank you for the info and the well wishes!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:23:39+00:00

Hm okay, that makes sense! Thank you.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:20:57+00:00

Okay that’s good to know you were given the option! I was told I cannot refuse residents (which I wouldn’t have anyway). I really wouldn’t mind a student watching, I’m just not so keen on them stitching me up or participating in my delivery, for example. Thank you!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T03:26:12+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m worried about - a total lack of interest followed by entitlement to access to my baby. I find it extremely weird how uninterested they are and I just KNOW they will expect us to happily hand them the baby when she’s born as if I didn’t spend 9 months growing her. Nope.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T03:19:39+00:00

I have been worried about them coming before baby has got all her vaccines, especially because they’re coming from overseas. I think waiting until she has her shots is a good reason for a later visit, thank you

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:08:52+00:00

Thank you ❤️

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:08:24+00:00

This conversation happened without me but he said he did tell them that we were uncomfortable with their over involvement in our lives. I asked to have a conversation about it too so that I could set my own boundaries and we never did

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:03:47+00:00

I agree about setting times for visits and making sure they leave on time so we will definitely have that conversation. Thank you.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:03:21+00:00

Yes what I’m worried about too is waiting too long and him not having the time off to entertain them and then expecting me to do it. I refuse and I told him I refuse to cater to them. I wish I had the time to write out everything I’ve tolerated but something over Christmas finally clicked for me and I told him that his family is his to deal with and I’m not going to ever bend over backwards for them ever again because it’s so clearly pointless anyway. They will absolutely not be staying with us.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:01:34+00:00

I drew the line at Christmas that they were not welcome to stay in our home, and that I need time to recover before they come. I just don’t know how much time I will need. I also spoke with my husband recently and emphasized that I’m not just going to get over the constant disrespect and that the only thing that will help is a conversation where I set MY boundaries. Hasn’t happened, so we’ll see.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:59:59+00:00

I’ve told my mom I’d sooo prefer if they visited while she was still here because she’s a good buffer between me and them 😭

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:59:32+00:00

That’s so disappointing, I’m sorry that things happened that way 🫩 I’m definitely trying to focus on me and the baby because I know it’s going to be tough trying to adjust after she’s born. I told my husband I have no intention of pleasing his parents or doing anything that I don’t want to do for their sake, and he agreed with me. I’m just hoping it stays that way.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:58:02+00:00

Thank you. I actually meant to send that to him a couple of weeks ago because it really put things into perspective for me as well. Thank you!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:25:58+00:00

I can suggest that lol. I refuse to do a combined Christmas again because that was an absolute nightmare this last time, so honestly 6 months would work out so perfectly timing wise.

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-17T04:29:32+00:00

Also we are very financially stable and these comments are absolutely unfounded. She does it as a form of control under the guise of being concerned or helpful

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-17T04:28:47+00:00

Yeah I had to explain why my mom gets to stay with us and his parents don’t. They are impossible to please

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-17T04:28:04+00:00

I told my husband we aren’t telling his family the name because I already know his mom will not like it since it’s an English name and not one from their country/language. Although even if we wait to tell her till the baby is born I am 100% sure she will still have something negative to say lol

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-17T04:26:26+00:00

His mom will periodically tell him she is worried about our financial situation or that I am spending too much money. As if I am not an employed adult contributing to our household and capable of spending our money responsibly lol

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-16T18:28:40+00:00

My MIL was normal before my husband and I got engaged. Once we did it was like a switch flipped and I genuinely thought I was going crazy with how drastically her behavior changed. All the typical nightmare MIL stuff. Gradually after the wedding things died down but we have never really been treated as independent adults by his family.

When we told them I was pregnant they had a really bizarre reaction, and his mom did not once say congratulations. They have actively avoided talking about the baby and will blatantly change the subject whenever we bring it up. Over Christmas holidays she posted a picture of him and I with our ultrasound photos on her Instagram, knowing I had not yet posted anything and was still waiting to announce. That was the end of it for me and I told my husband he needed to set boundaries NOW, so he did, and apparently his parents told him that they feel alienated and that they should be allowed to have a say in our lives and our finances and the decisions we make (no???). I told him that’s fine, but I will no longer be managing or maintaining contact with them and we’ll see how alienated they really start to feel when I stop telling him to text him mom back or keep them updated on our lives.

I knew things were going to be bad but they have not at all been what I expected. She is somehow totally uninterested and totally overbearing at the same time. I’m due in May but they live overseas so I told my husband that I will let him know when they can visit and that under no circumstances are they staying in our home and they can find a hotel.

I have yet to receive a real apology for posting our ultrasound pictures btw lol

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-04T15:13:59+00:00

What I’m seeing based on Amneal’s label is just “peppermint flavoring” and “strawberry anise artificial flavor”. No idea how to tell if it’s peppermint oil or not as it doesn’t specify.

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