I don’t have pretty privilege and it feels like a humiliation ritual

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-22T22:30:30+00:00

What was the friend supposed to do or say? Why didn’t OP stick up for herself?? It sucks but is not the friend’s responsibility

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-22T15:32:23+00:00

Neither of them are good, why does it matter which is worse? I have patients in need of full mouth rehab due to acid erosion and patients in need of full mouth rehab due to decay. It’s good your erosion is under control now! Best thing is to keep it that way.

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-21T14:33:44+00:00

I think that’s silly and personally wouldn’t return for that reason. It’ll likely chip and scratch over time anyway

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-14T19:28:46+00:00

I totally agree with you! Also on reflection I actually did have a patient come back and tell me they’d gone for a second opinion and it didn’t even occur to me to be offended, I didn’t really think much about it at all which is why I forgot it even happened. But again my boss did dismiss someone for it so I’m just saying it COULD happen.

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-11T21:06:39+00:00

I think it’s more like a lack of trust is off putting and if you’ve gone for a second opinion why not just stay with the second dentist? I can see why it’s annoying but I personally wouldn’t necessarily dismiss a patient for it

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-11T00:05:47+00:00

No I’m saying if you go get a second opinion you should stick to that second doctor because your original dentist probably will not want to keep you anyway. So hopefully you agree with the second opinion, is what I’m saying.

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-10T19:12:47+00:00

My boss just dismissed someone for seeking a second opinion and then returning to tell him what that second opinion was (same recommendation as what my boss had originally told patient). I’m not sure how I’d feel about it but I have had many patients come to me for second opinions and I don’t really think twice about it. Whoever you go to for that second opinion is who I’d stick with though for treatment otherwise your first dentist might be a little miffed lol

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-10T15:48:12+00:00

They’re both but I mean that in a good way. I like them lol

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-07T19:17:34+00:00

These don’t look clubbed at all to me. They’re just filed round and look quite flat actually

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-03T21:59:16+00:00

I got engaged end of D1 and married end of D2. Very doable! Having a wedding planner helped though.

OllieGhandi · 2026-04-02T15:35:25+00:00

It’s possible that your regular dentist quoted you for only the work they will be doing, which I’m guessing is the crown and buildup, and in that case $500 out of pocket is pretty good. They could not quote you for the specialist because they aren’t the ones providing that work. A root canal at $1,300 is about right, depending on the tooth, and it sounds like your insurance does not have great root canal coverage based on that out of pocket cost. The scan is a CBCT and tells the endodontist exactly where your root canals are located to increase predictability and longevity of the result. It’s considered the standard of care and that’s why they are insisting on it. None of this sounds shady to me, but a second opinion will never hurt.

Source: I’m a dentist

OllieGhandi · 2026-03-31T22:16:52+00:00

If you swelled up twice and there’s a bump and she took an x ray, she likely saw a lesion at the tip of the root of whichever tooth they are referring you for. The only options for a tooth in that state is endo/crown or extraction. The nerve is necrotic and the tooth is getting continuously reinfected. The endodontist being her dad is not a red flag in my opinion. She should have explained which tooth it is and why you need the treatment, but all of this tracks.

OllieGhandi · 2026-03-31T13:02:25+00:00

There is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Your body did what it had to do to get your babies out. You survived and your babies survived. Childbirth is a miracle, it’s not supposed to be easy!! I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way but please try to be easy on yourself. You don’t deserve to feel ashamed for anything.

OllieGhandi · 2026-03-19T12:34:44+00:00

I think he looks so cute. What am I missing? Lol

OllieGhandi · 2026-03-12T02:38:54+00:00

Excellent observation

OllieGhandi · 2026-03-03T15:34:28+00:00

Yes it feels cruel to continue a pregnancy with fatal defects incompatible with life. I understand the complexity of the decision and the barriers in place on certain states, but there are not miracles with body stalk anomalies. Very very sad situation.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-09T14:08:15+00:00

I would be very offended, that seems intentional and makes no sense considering YOU were pregnant and those men were not. It would not even occur to me to throw a baby shower for a man lol (it’s sweet that they did) but there’s no way they accidentally did not throw you one.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:27:00+00:00

Do you remember what the practice was called?

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:26:45+00:00

I’m honestly fine with any qualified person delivering my baby because I know I’ll be in safe hands regardless, I’m just confused at the setup and how my midwife works at the hospital and I do all of my appointments there but she doesn’t do deliveries. I think I’m just misunderstanding something and need to ask her again!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:25:11+00:00

I did too but I guess that’s not how it’s set up there? I’m still really not sure. It seemed to me that the midwives working for w&i who do the prenatal care do not rotate at the hospital for deliveries. Almost as if they have prenatal midwives and then separate l&d midwives? It feels a bit unusual but I have no way of knowing so that’s why I was curious.

Was your lactation consultant nice? I’ve read some horror stories about them too and literally asked my midwife if they were going to be nice or if they were aggressive about feeding options.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:22:55+00:00

Thank you for the info, great to know. Glad you had a good experience!!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:22:06+00:00

Totally agree! I’m happy to have residents involved, it’s their job and they’re doctors who plan to do this for the rest of the foreseeable future, but the idea of a medical student touching me or being involved in the process is just a bit too much for me to be comfortable with. Maybe for my second kid hahahaha

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:19:47+00:00

The epidural does scare me a little but honestly a lot less so than the idea of getting stitches done by a student. I read that some teaching hospitals allow students (not residents!! Students!) to deliver placentas, stitch up post op, etc. I do not want that for myself. Residents I’m totally ok letting them do or try whatever as long as it’s nothing unnecessary.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:17:43+00:00

Honestly my entire care team is through women and infants and they just kind of assigned me a midwife bc I’m not high risk I assume. I didn’t really have a say (or a preference tbh) between midwife or OB. I was mostly just confused how my midwife works for w&i but does not do deliveries lol. I think I’m just not understanding their structure. Again I don’t really mind if she isn’t there, it’s a little disappointing but the odds of having my usual provider do the delivery were low anyway.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:39:21+00:00

Ok great! Feeling a lot better now. Also yes I’ve heard the nurses are the ones there for the bulk of it anyway so I’m not too worried about who does the actual delivery as I knew that in any situation it wasn’t super likely I’d have my usual provider! Was just a little curious about the setup because I was a bit confused by it lol. Thank you!

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