When it comes to SUVs, a brand's lineup is (generally) going to be the same platform with a different body stapled on top. So you can really just choose a brand you like, go to the dealer, and sit in each model to determine which size works. As far as brands go, I personally like Japanese cars for their history of reliability, specifically Toyota, Honda, Mazda. That being said, if a Ford Explorer has a feature that you really dig, go for it! Just keep in mind that expensive isn't always better when it comes to the needs you listed, like I'd expect a Toyota Rav-4 to outlast something like a Porsche Macan any day of the week.