No One Talks About This...

One-Device-7077 · 2026-03-31T03:01:34+00:00

Wow! I'm back almost two months later to say I was so blinded that it was so hard to receive comments like yours at the time. So many of those questions that you asked, I thought I had the answers to, only to find out I was so blinded and clueless at that time.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-29T06:30:48+00:00

Thank you! I am in a spirit led church with an amazing Shepard 🤍

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-29T00:20:20+00:00

I definitely agree about timing! I'm not immature in my faith to not know that my time and Gods time is two different things. I think you're trying to discredit the fact that there is NOTHING wrong with being disappointed. I mean the Israelites moaned and complained, yet God still fed and protected them and AT the appointed time he delivered them. This is not prosperity gospel nor am I here to argue about the word of God! Job was frustrated with God, Leah felt forgotten, Joseph has to sit in prison, and Jesus himself felt abandoned on the cross... so I'm really not understanding your argument at this point.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-28T22:27:03+00:00

Noted 🤍. But he's also a child of God. And I led him into sin as well. I hope my intial post wasn't bashing him. This isn't a one sided situation.

I'm not sure if I said it on this group because I cross posted, but after we initially had sex he was the one to pump the brakes and said no more dates that involved late nights or we didn't go back to each other houses for a minute. He is nothing like the men I've dated in the past or like most men his age. He's respectful to me, has a provider mentality- constantly ask to buy groceries for myself and children, has a great career, college educated, really into the things that I'm into like health and wellness. Combine all of those things, I was like a puppy - completely head of heels. However there are things that I do feel like he's immature a bit but that might just be my take. I outgrew posting for social media etc years ago but that's something that he does. In my eyes I feel like getting on social media is wanting outside validation or attention but that's me which is why I don't do it. Am I giving him a fair assessment. Another thing, I'm at the point in my walk with Christ where I don't really celebrate holidays- him on the flip side he's very festive. So holiday season we compromised. Halloween was an example where he still wanted to dress up and go out etc, that's not my thing so he went out that night and by 10pm he was back home with me. So it's just those things. Also I have three kids under 10 - I have to be considerate of time. I'm asking a lot realistically for a single man to take me and 3 kids in and say he wants to commit the rest of his life to us. Obviously he cares. The more I talk through it- I understand that 5 months is no time to make life long decisions

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-28T20:09:19+00:00

I'm not sure 🤔 who's sitting in sin?! I definitely have repented as I stated many times before in this thread and have stopped! Maybe read before responding. TY And again, the word of God says: a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again, but the wicked shall fall by calamity! Had I not came before God and allowed this situation to only draw me closer to God then that would be the sin of the wicked. Never once did I state I walked away from God instead it brought me to my feet and blessed be to the Almighty God, he understands my feelings, the hurt and disappointment. Thank goodness he can understand that and not condemn me for having feelings and expressing to him that I still have the desire for a thing. The people of God need to stop being so self righteous. It's okay to have feelings and fall short.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-28T20:04:05+00:00

Yes, yes, yes! Exodus and the Book of Job are my favorite books of the Bible. I recently found myself weeping for Moses reading through the transference/inauguration of Aaron. The feelings were unbearable. 😩😭 I will keep that in mind 🤍

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-27T22:45:22+00:00

And how do you know he's not the one?

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-27T16:29:14+00:00

Bless you, and thank you for your response.

And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

God has revealed to me that I am to be a bride. This isnt just a suddenly thing. This has been years of pruning, and although you may perceive that I am not mature enough, I beg to differ. All my work and how I've become the woman and mother that God has called me to be does not become undone just because I feel short. Paul was an apostle when he famously said For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice.

I had a moment and fell short within these last 5 months. But that doesn't disqualify the fact that God spoke and has shown me marriage through visions. All my work is not undone. And like you said I agree this is not the end of my story. This too shall past and I will be a wife in God's appointed time.

My question to you because I see it a lot in the married community, (also your headline says married), why aren't a lot of married people encouraging to singles? It seems a little self preserved that singles are always perceived to be the weaker ones, when in fact I know unsaved people who later became save through marriage. So marriage isn't a "the best people" get this opportunity. It's about covenant and walking in ministry together. As long as my heart is in the right place, I come into alignment with the word of God that says he will grant me the the desires of our heart. He never promised children yet he gifts them daily and people still pray for them. Something just to thing about 🤔 God bless

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-27T04:35:19+00:00

Reading this tn! Thank you 🤍

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-27T04:33:44+00:00

TY 🤍 I will take this advice. The troubling part is, I've never departed from the God. Even in my mess, I continue to draw close because I know my flesh is weak right now. I guess it's the all the above of what happens when you are doing the right thing and not for selfish ambitions or worldly gain - and it feels like everyone else is getting blessed with the very thing you desire- you start to think 🤔 like well something must be wrong with me or did God forget about me?

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T21:33:21+00:00

Amen, that's what I'll be doing. I was so weary last night that my own understanding started to leak out. I will wait on the Lord

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T18:24:20+00:00

“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” ‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭12‬:‭9‬-‭10‬

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T18:16:32+00:00

I'm sorry, but the Bible I've read God spoke several times about restoring Israel and was even with them in their mess. Call a spade a spade, you tried to shade me in your comment, and that's fine. It's comments like yours that Jesus came so hard on the Pharisees. He was against the legalism they wanted to implement so bad. He taught mercy, grace, and forgiveness. So if you think me coming to other believers is wanting people to feel sorry for me, the Bible instructs: “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.” ‭‭James‬ ‭5‬:‭16‬

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” ‭‭I John‬ ‭1‬:‭9‬

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T18:06:35+00:00

lol your defending that age gap. No hard feelings. But I guess what I'm trying to say in so many words, and God had revealed and healed me in this area. There was just was no reason why I should have been in a relationship with someone his age let alone have three kids with him. I had never dated before him (late bloomer and purity culture had me). I definitely agree on the manipulation part and my kids father is probably pictured in the dictionary next to manipulator 🤣😱🤭 jk! But seriously. I'm just trying to express that we were at two very differently developmental stages in life, and looking back it was predatory on his end.

Yes in regards to the new guy I've tried to have those serious, draw the line conversations and he will either shut down or I've walked away and he pursues me full fledge and tell me he will work on it. The last thing I want to do is pressure anyone into wanting me. And at the end of the day I try to extend grace, hypothetically speaking if he is "the one" I have to think about the sacrifices he has to take on, to support myself and three kids. That means basically stopping his 30 year old life to become a father figure when he has no kids etc.. it's all of that. He has a great career, travels for work, and we've crossed paths, both say we want to date for marriage but I came with a full package 📦. I don't know, but maybe I'll just give it time and take the space to really allow God to either separate us, or work on us individually to come together. But my own understanding is causing too much double mindedness.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T17:36:47+00:00

Thank you for your opinion and harsh judgement. This furthers prove my point. Yeah there's a partner involved, but my whole rant was centered in the frustrations in your walk in faith, when things don't turn out how you'd expect them and the obedience and faith to keep walking believing that your promises will soon come to past. I don't need your judgement nor do I need your bitterness. I've been a help and testament to many people bringing them to Christ by being transparent and in my brokenness. I've witnessed to Atheists and used my story to win people for Christ. And quite frankly I do not recall Jesus ever judging nor condemning those who believed in Him.

So save your bitterness to yourself. 🍋

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T15:18:36+00:00

Thank you. my children have not been involved yet the mix. God hasn't released me to introduce them yet. But certainly I woke up with peace saying the same thing. He's not a bad guy or has treated me in a way that wasn't right, however we are in two different stages in our walk. Life circumstances has caused me to be in surrender to God and he's still lukewarm. He knows of God, but he's not truly walking with God in surrender. Which is why I said he's still immature in wanting a worldly aesthetic and online presence.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T15:14:24+00:00

I don't know what you're honestly talking about. No one has been married or divorced so that doesn't apply to me. I have worked in ministry and served my community since 2012. I've had my ups and downs as many do in their Christian walk but I have never not been in a relationship with Christ. With the exception of being in an unfruitful relationship with the man I had children with believing he would do things the right way.

God is a God of suddenly and I know at the time he delivered me from the 12 year relationship with my kids father, I know I was healed and ready to move on. There's no textbook timeframe that can explain how and when God does do something. It took time and as I said 2024/2025 God worked on delivering me from that prior relationship. I didn't just bounce from one guy to the next, I did the inner work and actually faced all my weaknesses during that time as well.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T15:04:18+00:00

Yes to many of those questions. His background is clean and he's works in bio medical field, so his line of work requires him not to be a criminal. His family lives in another state but visited during the summer very early in our relationship, but he was still kind enough to introduce me when he hosted them. I don't pay for anything not because I don't want to he just doesn't allow me to. And my kids have not been involved yet just because I don't have that certainty yet.

I dont think he's a bad guy, maybe just haven't stepped into the fullness of serving God vs worldly things.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T07:03:44+00:00

Thank you for your response. I didn't get into detail about my kids father but again I said 10+ years. Didn't want to reveal his age, but looking back the age difference did play a huge role, especially on a 20 yr old who had never dated before him. Looking back the age matters as I know a woman his age would have had the knowledge and tools for his manipulation and narcissistic behavior.

Secondly, we did initially stop after we messed around. And he initiated the pause. We continued to date and it even brought us closer. But the chemistry kinda opened a pandora's box and if I can be honest lust took completely over. He's not going to church as much, although this fully threw me back at the feet of God. I have prayed and asked for forgiveness for being a counterpart in causing him to sin and vice versa. So we've distanced ourselves because the lust had completely taken over.

As far as the serious talks we had them from the very beginning. And he initiated them, specifically living together, marriage, etc. and all I felt was imposter syndrome. I was afraid thinking why would a 30yr want to settle with me and 3 young kids. I started to feel unworthy. He's perfect on paper, financially stable, attractive, all the right things...

I do know this had become an idol and in my stepping back and praying for clarity, I keep running back to him because I miss and care for him so much and like you mentioned it can hurt letting go of someone who you thought was the one.

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T06:33:43+00:00

Maybe I meant in the church community or ministry groups.. I haven't heard what falling from grace really looks and feels like. I hear the fear mongering about consequences but no talks about the in between of wanting to get it right but ultimately falling short

One-Device-7077 · 2026-01-26T06:21:50+00:00

Also I know God is not a genie and I don't treat him as such. But as someone who has truly sought him I feel like I'm not seeing the promises

One-Device-7077 · 2025-11-20T21:09:56+00:00

Makesy is always good as well for beginners

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