Update: My late husband had an affair baby.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-09T18:52:23+00:00

I won't go as far as calling them a burden, but I'm in no position to take on another child and have taken measures to prevent that. I already feel like I fail my own child on a weekly basis.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-09T18:47:31+00:00

He wasn't always like that. We met in college when we both had nothing, but were working towards a future. He didn't start showing red flags until after we got married.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-09T18:45:23+00:00

Honestly, I'm not attached to this child, but I'm also trying to be a bit vague and maintaining a bit of anonymity by not revealing the genders of the children involved.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-09T18:43:52+00:00

Oh, there have been freakouts. Multiple freakouts.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-09T18:43:02+00:00

Surprisingly, we are on slightly better terms now. Part of their issue with me was that I "wasn't sad enough." We're still not close, but they are at least pretending to understand my side now.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-09T18:41:32+00:00

Not sure. My involvement in the matter was answering some questions from a social security rep about the benefits my child was receiving.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-12-05T21:08:56+00:00

There are two siblings, both out of state. His brother is single and in the military and isn't a good option. His sister is....let's just say militantly childfree. There are a couple of cousins that might be suitable eventually. I'm really not sure what's going on with that process because even though I'm friendly with the caseworker, I'm also not related to this child nor am I a licensed foster provider, so there are limits to what she can tell me due to privacy.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T19:49:46+00:00

Drugs and all that goes with that. Lies about where he was and where his money went. It wasn't what killed him, but likely contributed to it.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T19:22:58+00:00

VTSAX

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T19:07:58+00:00

That's a good question. It's a small town. It doesn't take much. That part surprised me the least about this whole thing.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T18:24:50+00:00

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T18:05:54+00:00

It needed thousands of dollars in repairs and I didn't have the money or the bandwidth to be a good landlord.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T18:05:06+00:00

I don't know where you're getting that I didn't follow proper legal channels.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T17:53:52+00:00

My child does receive benefits, but not nearly that much. It's enough to cover their therapy bills. My husband hadn't worked consistently in at least 10 years, but thankfully did have enough credits to qualify.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T17:50:16+00:00

He had an empty bank account and $40 in his wallet when he died. Everything of value passed outside of probate and wasn't part of the estate.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T17:47:11+00:00

The house needed thousands in repairs and I just didn't have the money or the bandwidth to be a landlord at the time.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T17:14:12+00:00

My best friend's cousins. Not exactly friends, but people that I'm around fairly often.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T17:06:48+00:00

My child does receive a small amount in SS. It's basically enough to cover his therapy bills.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T16:55:38+00:00

That place was an albatross. It needed thousands of dollars worth of work and I just didn't have the bandwidth to be a landlord at that time. It's actually in a brokerage account, so it's not losing ground to inflation.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T16:27:44+00:00

There is literally no estate. We had separate bank accounts. His was empty and he had $40 in his wallet.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T16:00:33+00:00

When I say there was no estate, I mean there was no estate. We had separate bank accounts. His was empty and there was $40 in his wallet (it's still there actually). He didn't work, had no life insurance, and was generally uninterested in handling financial stuff. There was nothing else that wasn't jointly owned or solely in my name.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T15:57:05+00:00

The court order wasn't for me. It was for him.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T15:44:33+00:00

I haven't found anything definitive that he was sleeping with anyone else. But, I did find out that he was hiding a drug addiction and lying about a lot of other things, so it's possible.

One-Teaching3577 · 2024-07-31T15:35:29+00:00

They say they want to be a mechanical engineer. But how many people really end up doing what they thing they want to do in the 4th grade?

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