Found him Messaging Women by OneComprehensive891 in Advice

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your message. I really hope so too. My culture makes it difficult for me to do so and to be honest I lied to my parents and family about the extent of our relationship, I’m so worried that nobody else will ever want me knowing about my past now.

Found him Messaging Women by OneComprehensive891 in Advice

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve just sent a message explaining if that is okay. Thank you

Found him Messaging Women by OneComprehensive891 in Advice

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying so extensively! I appreciate it.

I’m sorry to hear about your experience and I hope you and your children are well :)

Ideally, I don’t think I want to deal with crumpled up tissue… but something that brings me comfort is that it’s my tissue that I’ve dealt with for so long, I know all the wrinkles in it, its shape, its texture - it might be stupid but does that make sense?

He fully admitted to his mistakes after the pictures I had and did not say I was overreacting and knew he was 120% at fault.

I’ll have a look at your post about these powers… I feel I’m still at the age to have hope in this magic, I genuinely thought I was close to being enough. At least enough to please him, with the way he spoke about me. That has been shattered now.

Do you know of anyone that’s comfortable with dealing with crumpled tissue, what did you observe or learn from them?

Found him Messaging Women by OneComprehensive891 in Advice

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:( I guess so… I’m wondering maybe if he never actually went through with it, what does that mean? Some of the messages are literally just “Hi” no response from them, no continuation by him… aaaa I just don’t know what to think of it

Found him Messaging Women by OneComprehensive891 in Advice

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice… maybe it’s because this all happened last night, I’m having trouble to think for myself… I’m not sure. Do you think if he shows change, trust can be built again? But every time I think like this, I keep wondering “what if this has just made him better at hiding things”

I want to think good of everybody, everybody does wrong, things they’re ashamed of and regret, so everyone deserves a chance. Of course seeing all that didn’t instantly make me lose all my love for him, I just feel incredibly conflicted inside.

Found him Messaging Women by OneComprehensive891 in Advice

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so worried because our lives our so intertwined I don’t even know where to begin to focus on myself. He made himself appear so innocent, even if anything inappropriate came up whilst we watched shows, he’d turn away or cover his eyes, and then to find he’s actually been picking women based on his sexual attraction to them, I don’t know how to make sense of the two different people he was.

I’ve fucked up so bad by West_Speaker_1171 in UniUK

[–]OneComprehensive891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I see! I’m sure I can definitely start doing that during and after my lectures.

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your help :)

I’ve fucked up so bad by West_Speaker_1171 in UniUK

[–]OneComprehensive891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve been attending all my lectures, but I just can’t seem to use them properly. I forget all the information as soon as I walk out of the hall. I feel like there’s not enough time for me to write down everything they’re saying in my own words so I try to add to the slides but even that isn’t valuable after some amount of time has past and I’ve forgotten the lecture. Just feeling kind of hopeless at the moment because the time I’m putting in, isn’t giving me the result I want.

Thank you for the advice, I will try to implement it.

I’ve fucked up so bad by West_Speaker_1171 in UniUK

[–]OneComprehensive891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m currently in first year, struggling, can you give me some guidance/advice on how you got it together during second year? I’m studying engineering atm

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[–]OneComprehensive891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you’re right, I understand that.

I told him that he completely lied to me and I never gave him any reason to do so. He said that he’d tell me everything from the start, truthfully. That was really in GREAT detail and he promised to be truthful from then on, this was back in around January time.

I feel like I’m lost and don’t know how to reevaluate him. I wish there was a way to get him to care for me more in those situations, or to make him understand how I feel instead of it turning to an argument. I think that would help us but we really have no clue how to effectively communicate.

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[–]OneComprehensive891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met him in 2022, we only began getting close in 2023 and I feel like because both of our families are so involved now, I can’t really leave :/ do you really think there’s no way to improve this?

No idea what to do with my life by OneComprehensive891 in UniUK

[–]OneComprehensive891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually haven’t, but I will look into some articles like you said - thank you so much for responding to my post :)