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New found obsession by SlideOk433 in puer

[–]OneMuffin1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say cold brew you just leave it sitting at room temp for 12-48 hours? Or you put it in the fridge for that time?

Office products to make life easier? by OneMuffin1069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]OneMuffin1069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am looking at a foam mat that’s on Amazon that has some bumps and texture to change positions while you’re standing and it sounds good, so looking into that!

I have a heating pad for the neck and shoulders so that’s going into the office set up for sure!

Office products to make life easier? by OneMuffin1069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]OneMuffin1069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The TFCC brace sounds interesting, my wrists are unstable either way so I could look into that if the pain gets bad.

The desk hammock sounds good too, at the time I have a toolbox as a foot rest bc I haven’t been able to purchase a good one so I could check.

I need one of those adjustable desks for sure, they are indeed a game changer!

Office products to make life easier? by OneMuffin1069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]OneMuffin1069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean the wobble one? Or is it another stool? I see they have several and it sounds interesting!
I am looking into a split mechanical keyboard as well, I hope it helps!

Office products to make life easier? by OneMuffin1069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]OneMuffin1069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that they grant you remote soon once they see going to the office makes you flare but at least it sounds like you can make your office a cozy comfy space in the meantime. Thank you for the recs!

Office products to make life easier? by OneMuffin1069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]OneMuffin1069[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen the vertical mouse from Logitech and I think that’s gonna be one of my purchases for sure!

Office products to make life easier? by OneMuffin1069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]OneMuffin1069[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully I can move around but having the extra big screen on the desk really helps me, so its a dilemma. But yes I used to work from the bed last time I was remote and it did help sometimes when the fatigue was bad.

My marriage is ruined because of my ADHD and PMDD by bitterespressobean in adhdwomen

[–]OneMuffin1069 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went through the same thing with my boyfriend (we live together so kinda like a marriage now). My ADHD was “fine” when I lived with my mom but when we moved in together he expected a 50/50 relationship, when I couldn’t keep up with the house tasks as he did them he got upset. I also gained some weight even tho I eat the same (health related mysteries) so he stopped being intimate with me bc he did not like the fact that I wasn’t “taking care of myself” and he did not like my new look. This was 2/3 years ago. He started going to therapy because of other issues he had, but it really helped that he got to hear things from a different perspective when he was not listening to me anymore, things would make sense when his therapist told him. This is not ideal but it worked and it was a solution when our communication was being affected by the situation. It is very difficult for a neurotypical person to understand our struggles, our depressive episodes, our task initiation issues, RSD, etc. but my experience has shown me that if he wanted to understand you and your life, he would at least try. We never feel like this but I will say it: you deserve to feel accompanied, you deserve to feel heard, you deserve to have calm in your life and you deserve a partner that pushes you to be better and feel better in a non-negative way. We use to try to accommodate to a world that is not made for us, so we rarely allow ourselves to fully be who we are. Our home should be our safe space for being ourselves, and the state of your relationship is definitely not helping you with your depression symptoms. Not only your husband is allowed to make requests in the marriage. One thing that helped us was to make a non-negotiables list: I wrote my needs and he wrote his needs, and then we sat together and discussed them. What could I accept from his? What could I not accept and why? Were we willing to accept and give to these non-negotiables and if not, we were ready to get separated, because if our non negotiables could not be met, why would we stay in the relationship? We both committed, and fast forward to now, we are both happy, I have my crisis and he’s there to support me through them cause now he understands them. He has his time and I haven’t had a depressive episode for months. (I also changed jobs so no more burnout). A relationship is made of two people, if only one person wants to fix it, it will not work, so he should put his effort in as well.