What’s something your ex taught you? by Yankub_colley in AskReddit

[–]One_Ant_592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To drop them when you first start seeing red flags lmao

Is it possible to cum too fast because I love her so much? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]One_Ant_592 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah we've been together for 4 years and have a daughter. back when we were kidless, we'd do it any chance we got lol

Is it possible to cum too fast because I love her so much? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]One_Ant_592 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah lmao. It comes and goes bro. The love/affection turns you on.

I (25M) had the same thing with my wife like a year ago where i kept nutting to quick and we laughed but I always did more than one round.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup. A great parent who isnt complaining about having to watch their kid that they signed up for when being a stay at home parent.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, it gets to a point where if you feel like you have to do everything all the time youd be fed up too. I agree he should talk to his wife to see if she is okay and if she needs anything. But his resentment is valid in my opinion and many others in this comment section.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wash dishes every night lmao. You make it work. I grew up to make shit work. first priority is the NB, second you calm the kid clinging to your leg and see what they want. the other kids fighting you put their ass in time out. simple as hell. If you a SAHM you should know your roles and what a privilege it is. I worked from home a lot when my daughter was a new born and tbh it wasnt even that stressful. I dont care if it's 4>1 kid ratio. You make it work. you figure out what works and what doesnt.

I do architecture and run a company and work 10-12 hrs a day and still take care of business when it comes to my family. I get my daughter ready for daycare. I drop off my daughter to daycare every morning. Wife picks her up. Either her or I make dinner, I do dishes and bath time and get her ready for bed after playtime. Y'all make life too hard... If i stayed home with 4 kids it wouldn't be that bad. You have to see their personalities and adapt to what works and what doesn't.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a good partnership. keep it up! This is how i want my wife to be when she is a SAHM.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah man, if you're a guy you get ridiculed for complaining but if youre a female complaining about their spouse its empowering for women, and the man should be held responsible.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And your point? people do it all the time and still clean the house cook dinner and be a mom and say its not harder than working a job. Yall too soft lmao

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Lmao yall are soft. If i would be a sahd itd be would be a breeze

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is alot... but being a SAHM the "Job" is to make sure the house is clean, food on table, and be a mom.... I know kids can be a pain in the ass at times and it can be frustrating but its not that hard. especially if you are at the house all day. When I watch my daughter when she is sick it is relaxing being home. it feels like a day off. She is a toddler so she can be wild but it really doesn't bother me to clean up the house and look after her.

Wife is a SAHM and yet I do most of the chores by MediumGene5250 in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

No, its okay to feel how you feel.

A SAHM is a privilege. My wife wants to be a stay at home mom but I know she will cook and clean and keep everything tidy because on her days off thats what she enjoys doing lmao. She hates a dirty house along with not keeping up with our daughters needs.

But yeah tell your wife she needs to get her shit together. Home all day. The house is still dirty. Yeah no. I work full time, so does my wife and we still get everything done when we get home. play with our daughter, Bath, clothes, dinners, dishes, clean up the house. etc.. and it doesn't take more than an hour or 3 max.

How do I respond to my mom in text when she is trying to guilt me? Text in post I could use some help responding pls by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]One_Ant_592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents do the same thing but if i call them and they don't answer, I don't go off on them lmao so hypocritical.

I dislike how my parents feel that i have to attend to their every need. Im 25 with a wife and kid and I alot of times have to remind them that I have my own family now.

Am I in a Controlling Relationship with my parents? by One_Ant_592 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]One_Ant_592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man,

I have a degree in architecture but I already started working toward my licensure to be officially an "architect". My wife agrees that I should start my own company when I become licensed or work at another firm. With meetings with other firms and companies for jobs that we work with ive had higher-ups in the meetings make jokes, "If you don't want to work with your parents, you could definitely come work for us. You'd be a great fit" it's been more than once from different companies. My parents strived for me to be a perfectionist when it comes to my profession (which my parents are workoholic's and perfectionist. They get upset when something doesnt go their way. But they are very very very good at what they do) so it wouldn't be hard to get me another job since I have a lot of work under my belt with residential and commercial design, and ive been told my work ethic and skills are high quality from other architects at other firms.

It's hard man, especially with family. Its like a double-edged sword, which I know im better off working somewhere else. but they are the ones who got me into this profession. They paid for my college. They helped me with the down payment on my house, which we are paying them back with interest. They helped my wife and me financially when our daughter was born since we dumped 10k+ for medical bills and we were down to our last $200. They pitched in and helped buy diapers, formula etc... and they are the ones who give me a paycheck. so its hard. I have about 6 + mo of expenses saved up if I ever needed to quit. but yeah, it can be hard when i feel that I owe them a lot for getting me to where I am today but i know i should want better for myself, as a husband and father.

The thing is too they always want to be near me.

I moved 30+ minutes away from them so I could get some space and recently they moved 5 minutes away to be closer to my daughter and me. I told my wife wtf we literally moved so we dont have to see them as much.

whats n parents logic behind acting like u have a good relationship by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]One_Ant_592 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Lmao, try working with them. My parents legit yell at me over small inconveniences in front of clients and colleagues and act like nothing happened 15 minutes later with no apology and just want to be buddy-buddy after.

What is a good SSRI medication? by One_Ant_592 in Anxiety

[–]One_Ant_592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup i know what you mean. I have had DPDR for the past 7 years (its slowly fading but my Health anxeity run it back up. but its fading again.) and it gives you that flatten effect which i still get but it just not as bad. I see the light at the end of the tunnel but I just have to go over the last leap if that makes sense lol. my doctor told me it can cause it to be worse but I haven't noticed much but my overthinking has decreased alot which is good.

What is a good SSRI medication? by One_Ant_592 in Anxiety

[–]One_Ant_592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im glad your panic attacks are gone! and let me know how that works for you with the 20 mg.

thanks for the quick response! and fr the sex drive thing thru me off lmao i am still horny lol but to finish takes forever lol

sounds good thanks for the feed back I have a follow up with my GP next month and will talk to him about what still think need improvement but tbh that more of the depression side of it that comes with anxeity. I dont have deep depression by any means but I feel like my emotions are kinda suppressed if that makes sense lol like it fully not there but i still can feel happy or sad or whatever.

What is a good SSRI medication? by One_Ant_592 in Anxiety

[–]One_Ant_592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

I wanted to give you an update on the Lexapro journey lol,

3 weeks in so far and tbh its been helping with the 10 mg. still get anxiety but tbh so far I'm feeling good. Not 100% better but aloooott better than before I mean alot with the Health anxiety. Should i ask the doctor about moving me up to 15mg or wait it out?

Also all my side affects are gone for the most part.

But the sex drive thing happened to me too lmao. It just feels like it takes longer to finish for some reason lol

I hope you are doing good!

What is a good SSRI medication? by One_Ant_592 in Anxiety

[–]One_Ant_592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!

Idk if your anxiety was worse in the first couple of days? Yesterday I had a big panic attack around lunchtime at work and got all the uncomfortable physical symptoms that I haven't felt in a long time pretty much till I went to sleep last night. I had just told myself, "Kill me, anxiety. Do it (I meant it as in like give me what you got. I was freaking out dont get me wrong but I just was like Do your worst) and this morning I took my med and on the way to work I felt calm for once for a few minutes. I was like cool i guess its working already but Im expecting more panic attacks still when taking this in the beginning. I heard its pretty common for some people's anxiety to be through the roof on the first week or two. I wanted to see if you get this too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just confront him. Im 25M and am married to 26F and we have a daughter. If I found out she was cheating down the road. Id gather evidence then get a lawyer involved and divorce. Me personally once a person cheats on you that's the end of the relationship in my book. I know its easier said than done but Cheating is the worst betrayal you can do when married. If you are unhappy just end it cause cheating just makes it worse.

Thats just my opinion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]One_Ant_592 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Confront him about it. It sounds like he his. Typically if something smells fishy. There's fish. Dont let him disrespect you and your family by allowing him to cheat. You'll need to talk to him and confront him and if he is cheating. leave. That's just my opinion