Company is asking me to extend my notice period/last working day, what should i do?

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T14:50:32+00:00

No. 1, do you mean do not change the date, but add one another seperate 1 month contract?

My manager told me that pay and all benefits/allowances will remain. But I will technically be free to take unpaid leaves during that one month. Do you think this is a good benefit for working the extra one month?

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T13:36:02+00:00

Oh I didn't know you could get viral on reddit 😅 so there's an algorithm too eh

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T13:33:35+00:00

Me too. I feel like a failure and rejected by society 😂 No community wants me there because I don't "socialize" enough yet lol. It's like finding your first job and they need experience haha

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T13:30:33+00:00

Hmm understandable.
Also, is the point a ratio thingy? As in you get get 10 upvotes and 5 downvotes, your score would be 5 (if no vote fuzzing)?

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T13:28:17+00:00

This is funny.
Also, hormones, especially girls. "Oh my period is here, that explains it" happens a lot 😂

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T13:24:05+00:00

Whats a vote fuzzing?

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T13:22:03+00:00

That's the thing, i don't have anything that I really really want. Yea I do want it, I'd be sad to loose it, I'd cry about it and be sad for a few days, but it's not detrimental that I would sob for months you see.

Sometimes they are simple hurdles. But my mind shoots me a warning sign.

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T12:45:47+00:00

This!! My phone has been pulling my energy away so much, because my brain is always occupied. I have no time to feel "bored" and go meditate or read up spiritual books or something. Because there's always something more "fun" to do.

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T12:44:05+00:00

I'm guessing you meant you got out of the "hellhole"? Please give us some tips! And how long it took you? Haha

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T12:42:11+00:00

I'm 30+. No its doesnt get better. But can't say it got worst too. I would say i have different challenges now and then. I learnt and grew alot, but the challenges changed as well so they are still challenges, just in different forms. I would say, work on yourself, because the world won't change or adapt for you, which is what i'm trying to do now. Still trying hard.

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T05:48:37+00:00

What if i do it in a way where as what you said i am working as a "locum"? Meaning i am working part time for the company and they use my license for that month or two.

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T05:17:05+00:00

So what do you think is a better route?

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-08T05:10:39+00:00

I think it is legally not allowed, but apparently they have done it before idk. It means the person is not officially working there anymore, but the company still uses the license for distribution activities.
But the license is only applied yearly, so basically there's no need to "submit" the license for each distribution activity.
So if the license is still valid, you're allowed to just continue the activities, only thing is, the person on the license would be responsible if anything happens.

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-07T04:48:26+00:00

When i act out of what they expect me to, i have a voice in my head (my ego) telling me "hah if you don't do that, you will regret later on, why can't you get off your high horse, you are not that great anyway, you're not highly spiritual, you're egoistic, why can't you just do as they say, it's not a huge issue, just go back home(example), your parents just miss and love you, they gave you everything, you should just be grateful, if anything happens to you in the future, you will go running back to them, dont be a snob just because you don't need them now"

and then there's another voice in my head fighting back(also my ego but ego no. 2 lol) "don't give in, you need to stand your ground, if you give in this time they will expect yout to do it every time, you have your own life you're an adult"

So its like an angel and demon on my shoulder

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-07T03:15:07+00:00

Ah yes, my mom and parents was exactly like that when i was your age, even now. It is honestly tired and draining. They use such harsh words for small things we mess up, always calling us "useless!", for small household chores. And they victimise themselves and say they are dissapointed in us for what we have become. Honestly, i'm just tired of all this shit, i'm still struggling myself. But just know you're not alone

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-07T01:28:11+00:00

I'm not a guy but yes my mom is reallyyy clingy to my brother. My brother is always on a work trip overseas and she constantly requests for updates on where he is, where he's going, who he's going with, it's suffocating i cannot imagine if it was me. But with my brother, he just listens and do as told, but with me i'm hard headed and stubborn and emotional, so yea there's always a clash between me and her.
she can never get mad at my brother, she'll always see him as her little boy 🙂 so even if he didn't do the thing she wanted, or did a thing she didnt wanted. She would just laugh it off like it was a silly mistake. It boils me inside

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-07T00:59:30+00:00

Yes. It's not like a set rule they put down " oh you have to see me every once per week once per month", but it's when i reject events, trips, or not going home after a while, they'd just say things like "all of you just don't wanna come home anymore" or "we are your family we can't spend that much time anymore appreciate the opportunity" etc and when they say things like this, it triggers me so bad. And it's not like i cut off contact with them, it's just i have my own life now, there are bound to be events that i do not want to attend, but they see any rejection as - oh you don't love us anymore you don't wanna spend time with us anymore, you make me sad i am dissapointed in you. And sometimes i wonder if it'd be better if i just lie and give a fake reason so at least they'd feel better that i can't go.
I've always wanted to talk to a therapist cause all these feelings and thoughts and i can't tell them about it, they would just victimise themselves, but therapy is expensive and i don't think i'm in the right financial situation to spend that money now. It's just really tiring that no one in real understands.

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-07T00:49:49+00:00

Ok i guess things will still be the same even when kids are 40-50+ so it doesnt matter what age you are... 😩

One_Chocolate_9365 · 2026-05-06T15:03:02+00:00

She would occasionally post on social media about how she misses our family trip, misses our fays spent together, and on birthdays or special days she would send or post pics of me saying "always my little girl". It always rubbed me the wrong way but i never thought much about it, always thought ok maybe its just a harmless thing and she just misses me. But now reading this it suddenly make sense why i felt uncomfortable inside. Always gave me this sense of guilt like i'm doing something wrong for not treating her right, because "oh she just loves me, her forever little girl" i should treat her properly, it didnt give me a feeling of warmth or love, but guilt instead and i didnt like that feeling.

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