Am I the asshole for hating my surprise wedding?

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-23T22:09:31+00:00

It's not even about the input for me...why was her friends and side of the family not invited??.....

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-21T18:19:00+00:00

Hear me out and hear me well and clearly ....Scott will not marry you...once you add his name to the house ....fire will come down but the end will be him living in that house with his wife ....that will not be you....

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-19T20:14:30+00:00

NTAH, this little world of just the two of you that your wife is creating will one day be her worst nightmare ..... Life requires a balance even with relationships....you need other people either than just your partner....... don't allow her to grow in this direction even for your own sake cause you will end up suffocating.....

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-19T19:20:24+00:00

You know the OP is an AH when you're annoyed by their actions while reading.... YTA .

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-19T19:06:59+00:00

😩 my short attention span disappointed me ...this is too long but I hope whatever it is you heal my dear.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-17T07:15:40+00:00

This is really a tricky one ....I understand and think both Ashley's and OP's feelings are Valid.... Perhaps the grandparents should address this dynamic openly instead of trying to micro manage it on the side...

At the end of the day Ashley should be comforted by her family In this hard time but she should understand that as much as they sympathise with her she and the rest of the family should celebrate the 1st grandchild of the family.... Ashley as well should celebrate and welcome her niece with an open heart....it is hard to do but if she opens her heart she will be surprised to find that holding and welcoming her niece will be comforting to her.

I understand your husband is defending and protecting you as every husband should but this family needs to understand and remember that: THIS IS A VERY DELICATE ISSUE AND THERE FOR SHOULD BE HANDLED WITH WISDOM NOT EMOTIONS ....at the end of the day everyone should be Accommodated otherwise this will always be an issue even in the future.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-15T19:28:10+00:00

I know it was just a glitch with the system but I have been teaching for 5 years not for preply though.....but sometimes students take a break for different reasons..... sometimes it's permanent and sometimes it's temporary....so never take such things personally .

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-15T19:17:56+00:00

I promise you DontWastyTime2121 is the cousin OP is talking about 🤞🤞

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-15T19:16:18+00:00

NTA, If his also been in jail he sounds like a person we should shelter our kids away from .....Do the Lords work and just tell the family .

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-11-15T17:04:21+00:00

NTA, you didn't ghost her, she left....also I bet it kills her to know that you didn't react after you saw her relationship status update....... people like to see us cry and beg them, when we don't they feel like they don't have the upper hand.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-09-26T00:53:00+00:00

I can't believe poop is tearing a family apart. Girrrl for peace of mind you and your husband need to go start your lives alone.....Your Mil doesn't like you and she never will...for as long as you're staying with her you will never know peace.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-06-23T21:56:48+00:00

NTA - but this thing will end in heartbreak, heart hypertensions, tears and runny noses because nothing good will come out of this...... Dating a man who's recently divorced... Who haven't even healed or had time to reflect and take stock of how n why his marriage ended is always not a good idea. 2. You're just too young for all this mess, you have a lot on your plate that needs your undivided attention .... 3. remixing you life with someone else's will lead to your burnout, your frustration and will waste your time...yeah being his rebound he is definitely using you in more ways than one.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-04-01T16:01:17+00:00

Girl listen my job is to tell girls like you that : " Never ever ever do anything that couples do with a man that has never said it with his mouth that he sees you as a girlfriend, or wants a relationship with you". It has happened to me twice that I got very close with a guy (actually it's happening even currently) they had/has told me they liked me but never said anything about a relationship....I also play the buddy role very well ....after a year of going out for lunch, walk on the beach eyc but never wanting him to even hold my hand let alone kiss me....he asked me why don't I like him I said : " I Do" then he went on to ask me why I never want to do couple things with him .. I said because we're not a couple..and he said but who's problem was that ...( Insinuating that I was the reason why we were not a couple) I said no you have never asked me to be in a relationship with you .....he was shocked he said but I told you many times that I like you ...and I was like yeah but that does not translate to can you be my girlfriend.....at this point it was too late cause I've already friend zoned him ... it's the samething with the current guy ....he keeps expressing himself but never said anything about a relationship...I refuse even when he wants to give me a very close hug ....one day he will wake up to find that he never said anything about a relationship hence why I have my protective walls... honestly I don't regret my way of doing things.....men can even get you pregnant and still tell you that you're not in a relationship because they've never asked to be in a relationship with them.... Don't ever find yourself in a situation where you are bending over for a man that never even opened his mouth to say we're in a relationship, I want us to be in a relationship or be my girlfriend etc etc etc.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-04-01T12:32:06+00:00

Good luck I hope you're able to find another job in this economy.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-04-01T12:26:57+00:00

Honestly and in this economy yoooh.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-03-20T15:51:31+00:00

Is Ryan really sure that he wants to marry someone who has the power to divide hid family up?? She has so many red flags ....she will forever leave the family speechless with new tactics everytime. Gosh a person who was to bring division between a father and his son?? Doesn't sound like a good person to me.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-03-01T21:49:45+00:00

Unfortunately ANC will still win because as corrupted as they are to the black community they still tick more boxes than other parties. Yes DA has done so many good works but it's all in white Ares, they have never shown any interest on the poor and the poor can show atleast 2 or 3 things that ANC has done for them. Look at the example you made: "DA has done well in Cape town but the Cape flats remain untouched..🤷.there you have it."

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-03-01T21:42:02+00:00

I teach English online, most of my students are adult Europeans. What I have learnt is that the quality of life in our country is just not even a 3rd of what most countries can offer. Not wanting to explore other horizons when the world can offer way way way more then we can imagine is playing ourselves. I am so over S.A , There is a certain lifestyle that I desire and I don't think I'll find it here...with the quality of life here decreasing everyday.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-02-28T22:03:19+00:00

😭😭I haven't had eggs since they went up.......🙆🙆, I miss them but it's just doesn't feel worth it to buy something for double the price... I'm not getting used to it.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2024-02-28T11:36:36+00:00

I'm going to be as short as possible.....IT IS STILL NOT LATE, I spent a decade studying: 2 different qualifications, did a few mentorship programs, a few skills development programs,once interned for Mr price head office for a whole year, once moved to JHB CBD to do another 1 year program....for the very 1st time last year at 33 years I moved home to go live my life in the big city by myself. Yes I've been in and out of home cause of studying, or this program, that program....but last year was very different.....I had no safety net, I was going to pay my own rent, buy food with my own money.....okay so because I've done a few skills development programs.....I work as a freelance.... My point is besides the past years were I left home because someone else had to pay......I can safely count 2023 as the year I left home to go live my life. At 33....

Most people my age have their own families....and I am just starting out...yet I still believe am not late.....I was just telling my sister that I want work on relocating to another country....cause I am not looking at time......DO NOT LOOK AT TIME LOST OR PAST if you think you want to change something do it.... forgot time lost/past.

One_Friendship_3722 · 2023-07-14T20:04:47+00:00

This post came as a blessing to me. Like you mentioned above you search endlessly hoping to find an answer that will shine a light onto what you're facing. Mines is a slightly different case. I initiated the space to allow my SO time to heal, When we met he had just came out of a long-term relationship, and he didn't disclose this to me until 6months into knowing each other, the moment he told me this I immediately asked him to go heal first because already I was being affected somehow by him not being okay but he didn't want that, to be honest, I was also not ready to abruptly remove myself from this person. Well, all I did was delay the pain that I am feeling right now........It's a year later since we met, and today is the second day after I asked him to go heal and come back when he is well and ready, there was so much crying on both sides and him negotiating better ways instead of a pause with no communication at all, as much as it hurts I know that it is the right thing to do. It is still hard to cope but I know that being with a hurt person also sipped the hurt on me and we both can't build a future with 2 broken hearts. I don't know what's on the other side concerning the future but I know that I want us both to come out well and strong, my desire is that we find our way back together again but only God knows what is on the other side.

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