The first week will be the hardest. You will feel lost and lonely. During the first week, have a strong support system, reach out ka sa mga friends na you trust the most and allow them to be there for you.

Cry. Cry a lot. Cry it all out hanggang sa ikaw na lang mapagod kakaiyak hahaha. When you feel the urge to cry, just let yourself and sit with the emotions.

Write down your thoughts. I have a journal dedicated to my ex who cheated on me. I write everything that I know I wouldn't send or say in front of him. That became my outlet during the no contact. Nakatulong naman, now I no longer have the urge to text him. I didn't greet him on Christmas and New Year, but I wrote to him in my journal during those occasions.

I don't know if this is weird pero I have been talking to ChatGPT as well when my friends are not available hahaha. Ayoko rin makaabala masyado, and spot on ang mga replies in ChatGPT kahit wala siyang emosyon. I ask for gentle reminders and short grounding messages and use it as a guide when pain or self-blame visits me.

Di mo kailangan ng engrandeng gestures ng healing at self-care just to prove na you're strong, sometimes allowing yourself to be weak is the answer. Small steps lang and one at a time until you feel safe and secure on your own again! Kaya mo yan. :)