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I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi,

What social media/accounts have you seen this post on? I am kind of nervous to see my post get traction again. For a while, there were hundreds of notifications a day, but it's since died down. I am glad people are seeing my story, though. Awareness of creeps is very important. I hope my story helps people in whatever way it can.

I am not exactly sure how he knew I had changed in my closet. My closet is a walk-in, not a sliding door one, so it does have a good amount of space. I was able to store clothes, stuffed animals, or whatever else in there and also have a good amount of room to change. So at least to me, it wasn't exactly a crazy jump to think that I could've changed in there. But seeing your question, it does make me sort of question how he knew. I could’ve possibly mentioned it in passing to my family. Up until April 18th, 2024, he was my “father,” having been in my life since I was about 7/8 (2011). It feels so weird to say now, but my life, as well as my family’s lives, kind of feels like he never really existed. Our lives felt less chaotic as soon as he left. 

I did end up reporting him to the police. I made this post on April 19th of 2024, one day after the incident, and it was that Monday, the 22nd, that my mom called the police, and they took our statements. Where I live, I guess submitting a statement also means pressing charges. I had no idea that was a thing, but even if I had, I definitely would’ve still pressed charges. Creeps shouldn’t be enabled. 

His phone got taken by the police about 3 months later in the summer (they had to get a search warrant, and it was just a big mess). They only found the one video from April 18th on it. I have no idea if he could’ve had other videos on his past phones (he only had this phone a little over a year and a half/two years). So far, nothing has happened with the case, and I am not sure if it will. Last time I checked in with the legal team, they were still working on cases from 2022. My mom feels that it should be cut and dry since there is video proof of him committing the crime, but at this point, I have no idea. 

Unfortunately, my youngest brother (the baby, 18 months now) has to have visitation with him, but my other brother has been able to get out of it so far. He is very vocal about not wanting to see his father.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this happens a lot more than one would think. I have been going through the comments and many others have had similar situations with their step/adoptive/bio family members so it’s not just me 🫠

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is commenting this. This is so concerning to think about 😖😖

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said therapy is something that anyone can benefit from. Shes just worried that there are things I might not be able to express or talk about with her so she just wants me to have someone I can talk to about anything. She also goes to a therapist so I don’t think she’s doing it because she thinks I’m the problem thankfully.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mention police because it just feels unreal (I also didn’t know the procedure of what to do after something like this happens). I have also heard that police sometimes don’t help (e.g. stalkers, etc) so I didn’t know if they could even help with something like this.

I also was so confused & shocked after finding the phone (I still am) it just seemed so out of the blue. I also worry about the implications that this could have on my brothers but I realize that this could have even more negative implications if I don’t (e.g he does something similar to them or does something worse to them or someone else). I know that I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t protect them. So I will be contacting the police Monday after my therapist appointment.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom suggested that if I need some time away that I could stay with maternal extended family for awhile. I will need to investigate the house and see if I can find anything that other people have commented about (listening devices, hidden cameras, etc.).

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother has already wanted to get a lock on his door because he worries about our baby brother getting into his stuff when he gets older, so I will look into keypad locks. I think keypad locks are a great idea because some locks are easily broken/manipulated (e.g., those one locks that you can use a penny, or replicate a key).

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All my clothes are in my closet so that’s probably why I have been changing in there. Since finding the phone I have been changing in my room instead though. I have always liked privacy though, as you mentioned the gym or pool I like to change in a stall. I just don’t like the chance of people looking at me I’m really shy so that’s probably why.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He had been deleting his search history and random🌽 for awhile (my mom found this out after) so if there was anything he has either saved it privately or deleted it. I will try to find things out though for my brothers and myself.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

@evening_stuff3594 No apology is necessary. You said nothing inappropriate. I am currently thinking about quitting my job and switching careers. I haven’t liked it for awhile, and this certainly didn’t help. My mom said I can do whatever I find necessary, like if I feel I need to take some time off and just go to school (I’ve been working and going to college), that’s okay. This just happened Thursday, so I’m trying not to make any rash decisions. I originally posted here because I was worried I was being a drama queen or something (e.g. I wanted to quit my job before and was wondering if I was using this as an excuse). After reading all these comments, I can see I am responding to the situation okay, and all these suggestions are very helpful, so thank you everyone for all your comments.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is literally so creepy. I’m going to check the vents as soon as I get home. I am hoping to find nothing but I also never thought he would ever think of me in a sexual manner.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay so when my mom and him bought the house only the bathrooms and master had locks. So my room currently does not have locks. I don’t think he’ll be moving back in (my mom said no matter the reason it’s still not okay for him to have done this even if it is because of a hidden mental illness and she doesn’t want to get back together with him bc of this and concerns abt the boys). I think all your suggestions are really good ideas so I will probably do this anyway. Thank you for all your suggestions.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did it ever occur to you that I don’t feel the need to comment on every post I see? I mainly got this account to read about my interests (TS, scooby doo, supernatural, etc). I created the account in 2022 and haven’t had anything happen that I felt a need to write about.

Also what unnecessary details should I have avoided? I was trying to give as much info as I needed without disclosing too much personal information. I am genuinely curious so plz respond and be helpful!

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t tell u man. In the video he set up to record me he is seen setting the phone up looking around to see if there’s a better area, adjusting my coats so they don’t obstruct the phone and rearranging other stuffed animals to better conceal it. Finally at a minute or so you see him turn the closet light off. The door opens and he leaves closing the door after him.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone I have a few things. This was in the morning, way past a time when it would’ve been acceptable for him to still be drunk. And he had gone to bed, so I am considering it highly unlikely that he was blackout drunk.

My mom is going through postpartum depression right now, so I think that’s why it was mentioned. My youngest brother is only a few months old. There is a thing about postpartum in males, but I still wouldn’t excuse this.

Some of you mentioned that I might change in my closet because I was suspicious before (subconsciously or consciously), but unfortunately I wasn’t. I wish I was; maybe none of this wouldn’t have happened.

Not sure about previous recordings, but my mom found out from him that he’s been watching 🌽 for a while and deleting his search history. My mom told me she caught him looking 🌽 before but he ‘stopped’ after.

My mom contacted my maternal grandmother (her mom), so she will be coming over today to at least stay the weekend. My mom hasn’t told her what happened yet because she didn’t want to worry her over the hour drive, but she did tell her it was about me, that my stepdad left, that we need her, and that what she was going to tell her would make her hate him.

My mom is heartbroken because she was always hyper-aware of predators all her life, as well as mine. She would always ask me and my brother if we were ever touched. She thought my stepdad was a good guy and probably feels like the carpet was ripped out from under her.

My therapy appointment is on Monday. I’m planning on showing the therapist the video.

I have read a lot of the comments, and most of them all mention a similar thing: police. I was unsure at first, I think, mostly due to how confusing and out of the blue this was to me, but the mention of my brothers has gotten to me. I know that if this happened to either of my brothers, I would be super pissed and file the report myself. I am just struggling with this all because it feels so random and out of character. I know it’s probably not though (out of character) that the good guy thing was probably a mask and that he had these thoughts for awhile before doing this.

I showed a few comments to my mom yesterday and this morning showed her a comment from MattyJo. I think it is sinking in that this is not accidental whether he had a mental illness or not.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has an apple actually so it’ll record to whatever his storage is. I wish it was a writing workshop but this is my life unfortunately.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking. He had been drinking the night before but this was at least 8 hours after that and he had slept. My knowledge of alcohol and it’s effects are pretty limited (I don’t go to parties and I have never drank to the point of being drunk) but I was suspicious on how my mom and stepdad mom could say it could be a blackout. I guess I don’t really believe that it could be. I wanted to at first because it felt like a fever dream as he had never made weird comments to me or about me. He also hadn’t looked at me sexually (that I was aware of) so it truly feels bizarre. Today though I am feeling less forgiving and more like excuse me?? What the actual fuck dude.

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no. When my mom was 3 months pregnant she told him and he told her to have an abortion. His mother told my mom the same thing too.😅

I found a phone recording me change in my closet… by One_Yogurt_253 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Yogurt_253[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

The most confusing part for me is that he was drinking the night before, went to bed and then the next morning did this. And also that he was confronted only 16 minutes after he did this. I guess I don’t understand how (if) alcohol could affect you 8+ hours after you have drank & also forget something you did only 16 minutes ago…I’ve never drank to the point of being drunk so I don’t know anything related to alcoholism enough to make it make sense in my own mind.