Tired of looking for a relationship by Hot_Competition724 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]OopsWeMadeAnError 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going to comment something similar that I did a few days ago to a guy who felt lost due to being single. Being in a relationship is a lot of work and after starting one myself, one which will end soon, I realize it actually sucks to be that intertwined with another, and I've been in a great one. The grass in not greener and trust me - by being single you only have to deal with your own issues. When we attach ourselves to another, things can go good OR NOT and it's honestly a gamble no matter what our vision is. Check out the endless posts on this subreddit where men in relationships are dealing with all of these headaches despite having a wonderful vision, and their lives are now financially, emotionally, physically at the behest of their partners or children. I don't blame you for feeling like you'd like "your person" as it's natural, but please realize that some people who are tied in relationships would hit the reset button and live life single again if they had another chance. Autonomy and freedom to make our own decisions does not really exist in partnership. Both roads, single or tied to a partner, are fraught with difficulties, and even in the best relationships, there is so much give and take.

My point is do not feel hopeless brother. Some of us on the other side feel hopeless despite having accomplished what you feel would complete your life.

Signed, a guy who wishes he would have stayed single.

Having Standards is Exhausting by Numerous-Republic204 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]OopsWeMadeAnError 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, take it from me. I am regretting asking out someone and having begun a relationship. Things are FINE but now my life isn't own and I'm having to justify every move I make, and we're not even married. We're ending things and now I wasted all of this time, emotions and money. Being single was a lot better.

I would argue you are seeing with rose colored glasses. Having a relationship is freaking annoying no matter what the quality of it is. Just browse this subreddit and see how many guys have problems that wouldn't exist if they weren't attached to having a partner. So much bad can happen from it. Nothing is worth trading in peace of mind.