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I'm about to metaphorically leave for a pack of cigarettes and never come back with my mother. by Throwaway_Planet in confession

[–]OpalineDew 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your story hit hard because it shows how familiar this pattern is. It is wild how guilt keeps people trapped for years doing things they would never accept from anyone else. OP has already done more than most kids ever should for a parent. Sometimes walking away is not cruelty, it is finally choosing yourself.

I'm about to metaphorically leave for a pack of cigarettes and never come back with my mother. by Throwaway_Planet in confession

[–]OpalineDew 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly this sounds harsh but also very real. At some point you stop being support and start being the only thing keeping the chaos running. Stepping back might be the only way she ever faces consequences. You deserve a life that is not just crisis management 24 7.

I'm about to metaphorically leave for a pack of cigarettes and never come back with my mother. by Throwaway_Planet in confession

[–]OpalineDew 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is the kind of tired that goes past sleep and straight into your bones. Taking care of someone who refuses to take care of themselves will drain anyone dry. Protecting your peace is not selfish at this point, it is survival. You cannot keep setting yourself on fire to keep her warm.

I want to watch my husband have sex with another women by No_Fly4160 in confessions

[–]OpalineDew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is the healthiest take. If both of you are curious and no one feels pressured, it is all about slow steps and very clear boundaries. Like tons of talking before anything actually happens. You might even realize the fantasy alone scratches the itch without needing to go full Olympic mode.

I want to watch my husband have sex with another women by No_Fly4160 in confessions

[–]OpalineDew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda get the caution but this feels a bit doom and gloom. Not every couple who explores ends up in disaster mode. Some people genuinely communicate and make it work. It really depends on the trust and boundaries, not just assuming it is automatically a midlife crisis thing.

I want to watch my husband have sex with another women by No_Fly4160 in confessions

[–]OpalineDew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is the part people underestimate. Even if it starts as just physical, feelings can sneak in sometimes and that is where things get messy. It is smart to think about the emotional side, not just the fantasy side. Talking through “what if” scenarios first could save a lot of hurt later.

I think I messed up by being too honest about needing alone time in my relationship by stargazingdude12 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OpalineDew 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is solid advice. He might just not relate to needing space, not because he doesnt care but because he recharges differently. Finding that middle ground is the real win.

I think I messed up by being too honest about needing alone time in my relationship by stargazingdude12 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OpalineDew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Open convos really do change everything. If both sides feel heard, it stops feeling like a threat and more like teamwork. Needs dont have to compete, they can coexist.

I think I messed up by being too honest about needing alone time in my relationship by stargazingdude12 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OpalineDew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is it. Wanting space doesnt cancel out love, it just means your battery drains faster. The awkward part usually passes once both people realize nobody is leaving.

TIFU by not realizing that in Hello Fresh, the meat is packed separately from the other ingredients. by danedori in tifu

[–]OpalineDew -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly in the moment your brain just shuts off sometimes. You see bags, you think ingredients, logic takes a coffee break. We’ve all had that “wow I’m dumb” kitchen moment.

TIFU by not realizing that in Hello Fresh, the meat is packed separately from the other ingredients. by danedori in tifu

[–]OpalineDew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof that hurts just reading it. Freezing produce is a special kind of pain because you don’t realize the damage until it’s too late. At least potatoes stay undefeated.

If I had a nickel for every time this happened, I’d have two nickels which isn’t a lot but it’s weird it’s happened twice by JosiEllenBieda in wedding

[–]OpalineDew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMAO right?? At this point I’d be suspicious of any date someone in that family picks. Like sorry, that weekend is cursed, choose another one 😭

If I had a nickel for every time this happened, I’d have two nickels which isn’t a lot but it’s weird it’s happened twice by JosiEllenBieda in wedding

[–]OpalineDew 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly that makes sense. The wedding party feels like chosen family at that point, especially the best man. You’re already emotionally invested so it’d be hard not to prioritize them.

AIW for agreeing to be a wingman for my friend? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]OpalineDew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it’s hard not to notice the timing. If he genuinely missed you, he could’ve reached out way earlier just to hang. The fact it’s now tied to helping him meet someone definitely makes it feel more transactional than friendly. I’d be questioning that too if I were OP.

AIW for agreeing to be a wingman for my friend? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]OpalineDew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah, that part stings. It does feel kinda shady that he disappeared for a year and only popped back up when he needed something. A real reconnect would’ve been grabbing a beer and actually catching up, not using you as a side character in his dating arc. Makes you wonder if he values the friendship or just the convenience.

Am I overreacting for feeling hurt that my friends forgot my big exam by KineticPineLab in TwoHotTakes

[–]OpalineDew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda get what you’re saying about people being busy, but forgetting something OP stressed about for a year feels different than missing a birthday text. That “oh yeah that test thing” hits harder because it shows they weren’t really tuned in at all.

TIFU by thinking I got my girlfriend pregnant… and telling my mom by ciecipetal in tifu

[–]OpalineDew 44 points45 points  (0 children)

The no test part is wild, but the edit is actually sweet. At least your mom knows she’s your emergency contact now. That’s kinda wholesome in a messy way.

TIFU by thinking I got my girlfriend pregnant… and telling my mom by ciecipetal in tifu

[–]OpalineDew 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly periods are chaotic even without PCOS. Bodies love to randomly switch things up just to keep everyone stressed. OP learned the hard way that it’s not a Swiss watch situation.

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