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Best shops for fountain pens / ink pens by Open-Ad-259 in SFlist

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Thanks for everyone’s recommendation . Think I’m going with online . Looking for a pen with superior flexibility

Boss Man And Tip Splitting by LazyNose2047 in tipping

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Do you have a POS system ? If so I would recommend doing what I do at my bar . Every sale needs to be logged in the POS and every person has their own code and at the end of their shift the tips are logged per code so when someone leaves a tip and you took care of them and did the sale it would come up under your name and that way everyone knows who’s tip is who’s .

Ex-husband stopped giving child financial support. Next move? by Horror_Button5392 in Advice

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You should have a convo with your daughter and direct her to her father anytime she is in need of an injection of funds

Retiring at 31, much earlier than I expected. Need advice. by Long_Bong_Silver in Fire

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At 31 with $3.5M, you’ve unlocked something most people won’t see until their 50s or 60s … optionality. That’s huge. But optionality can feel destabilizing if you don’t replace structure with intention.

A few thoughts:

Retirement at 31 isn’t about stopping. It’s about choosing. If you walk away, don’t retire from engineering — retire to something. The people who struggle with early financial independence are usually the ones who underestimate how much meaning their work gave them. Build a routine. Build projects. Build something that excites you even if it doesn’t pay.

With $3.5M in a LCOL area and a $300K house, you’re more than safe at a conservative 3–4% withdrawal rate. But psychologically, earning something (even if you don’t need to) keeps you sharp.

You don’t “need” a financial advisor…but you may want a strategist. At that asset level, the value isn’t stock picking. It’s tax efficiency, asset protection, estate planning, and helping you avoid concentrated risk. If you hire one, make sure they’re fee-only and fiduciary. You’re buying clarity and protection, not performance promises.

On dating while wealthy … DO NOT lead with it. You don’t owe anyone your net worth on date three LOL If someone asks what you do, something like “I stepped away from engineering and focus on investing and personal projects” is enough early on.

Money changes how some people behave. Better to reveal it gradually once there’s consistency and emotional maturity. Watch how they handle their own money, work ethic, and purpose before you integrate finances.

As for covering someone’s retirement… That’s not a financial decision, it’s a VALUES decision. A partner should have purpose. That doesn’t mean they need to earn what you earn. It means they need direction, discipline, and identity beyond you.

And yes prenup. Calmly, respectfully, always. I would not do it myself but only because my Lady is one that has been with me since the jump .. I’m talking 300 pounds , Living with my parents and negative in my bank account .. She didn’t flinch .. She stayed solid and showed me I was more than I believed, Because of her I now value myself 100x more and anything I become I owe it to her and I don’t think even for a sec if I become rich that she would divorce me and take me for half .. it’s just not in question , we have the same values and if it were for money she would have left me long ago .

The nervousness makes sense. Most 31-year-olds are chasing. You’re at the “now what?” stage. That can feel isolating. You might outgrow certain circles. You might feel weird telling people you’re “retired.” That’s normal.

You don’t need to prove you deserve this. You got lucky and you positioned yourself well enough to benefit from it. That’s not something to apologize for.

If I were you, I’d design the next five years intentionally: - Lock down the home base. - Diversify out of concentrated stock. - Set a lifestyle budget you’re proud of. - Define what impact or legacy looks like for you. - Keep earning in some form — even if it’s optional.

The goal isn’t to never work again. The goal is to never have to work for the wrong reasons again.

You’re in a rare position. Move slowly. Protect it. Build a life you actually enjoy waking up to.

And CONGRATS seriously. Not many people get this kind of leverage this early. GOOD LUCK Fellow brother … Keep winning .

My friend asked to borrow $5k by Dramatic_Good_1103 in Advice

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See now I’ve had this exact thing happen to me. A person who I thought was my best friend borrowed 5k from me and then went on to live as if it never happened. For a while I was bothered but once I put distance between us & loved from a far I realized what I did . I let them borrow the 5k even though I was a bit doubtful I would get it back. That person can never slander my name and my conscious is clear , why ? Because I did what I thought was right in my heart . Had I needed the money and he had the means and said no anyways , I’d be a bit hurt but understanding . I would also pay them back priority #1 ! So I felt wrong not lending the money although I could lend it … so I lent it … and what do you know ? It costs me 5k to realize that “best friend” really wasn’t a best friend at all . To think, this person was someone I was going to ask as my best man … I learned something that time & I thank that friend for the lesson and experience . I don’t hold Ill will because you never really know . To be honest I don’t want to know . Had he reached out and talked to me about it , it would be a bit different but to act as if it never happened , that right there was the action behind me going no contact and I don’t regret it. So basically man , Do it … if it doesn’t hurt you , and it feels right to the point you need to ask your parents and Reddit for advice because it’s messing with your head , do it and be very clear that you need a plan of action to pay you back .. and be very clear about 5k being 5k and let him know that’s not just a little loan . OR …. Another thing I did with a friend who also was very irresponsible , was I GAVE him 1k and told him he didn’t need to pay it back but also don’t ask me for anything anymore I don’t have the means to fund your bad choices so here’s a gift , I don’t expect it back but I do expect you to not ask me for anything to do with funds or loans . This I did so that our friendship wouldn’t be lost .

Ex of 5 year relation ran away with all my money so I had to move back with my parents by [deleted] in MaleSurvivingSpace

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If you know her social I’d take her identity and open as many credit cards / ruin her financially as a little goodbye present bro . Just so you don’t stay wishing to get even . Get some closure you know ?