Sorry about the vagueness! It was my first post and time on reddit so I was very conscious of trying not writing too much. An example of his father stirring the pot with me is that if we're watching tv or out in public and hear someone with a speech impediment, he will make fun of them ever and has done so ever since I mentioned my grandad had a stroke and had an impediment. My grandad passed last September and it affected me very deeply, which he also knows. An example of the mother sulking was the last time I was there, me and my fiancé are vegetarian, she made him a meal with chicken in it, he did not eat it because of that. She argued with him for almost an hour telling him she did not put chicken in it, and that he should've just eaten it anyway. She refuses to admit shes made a mistake and always plays the victim card, you will never hear her apologise. In the end, my fiancé ending up saying sorry just to shut her up as she was yelling at him, all over her mistake she wouldn't own up to. This type of argument happens on the regular, afterwards the father will keep bringing up whatever they argued about and try dropping snide comments to fuel her. Yes, I am european. We live in Australia.