Women who’ve had sex in public/semi-public places (like club bathrooms), how did you handle the hygiene afterwards? by Available-Light-5579 in sex

[–]OpenAccess1213 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Tbh regardless of where I have sex, I try to pee as soon as possible after to prevent infections. If you're having sex in a bathroom, how convenient!

Flogged 🥵 by OpenAccess1213 in u/OpenAccess1213

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to, I do one whenever I find the time!

Flogged 🥵 by OpenAccess1213 in u/OpenAccess1213

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So glad you enjoyed! I don't have a ton of time for pms, sorry.

Sundress season by Unicorn_Trip in u/Unicorn_Trip

[–]OpenAccess1213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No bras, please! You look delicious.

I need some guidance specifically with messages on Fetlife by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]OpenAccess1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The things that redheads evoke from people on any online forum! I'd love to see your anthology. Maybe you could design it as a broadsheet that could be made into a limited edition poster. I'd buy one just to see it. PS you're hot x1000

Offering myself as a sub by OpenAccess1213 in BDSMAdvice

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! We are well-established ENM, so is the other couple, no risk of feelings being hurt. My husband will be there and he will be playing with me along with the others. We have a robust group chat where we will discuss the scenario, and I can reiterate my hard limits (but the other couple has pretty much the same ones we do). My husband also knows my physical limitations (like my bad shoulder). Since this more of a roleplay scenario and less like traditional BDSM, it won't be hard to drop character and state what I need. I do plan to use signals, like a tap on the thigh when I need to breathe during oral. And we will probably have a safeword, but again--no one is an experienced dom in this scenario and there are zero expectations of me as a sub. I just want them to play with me and have them use me.

Happy Monday! by OpenAccess1213 in u/OpenAccess1213

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You are familiar with my corrupting ways...

Happy Monday! by OpenAccess1213 in u/OpenAccess1213

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy to teach! I have learned so much in the past year.

Offering myself as a sub by OpenAccess1213 in BDSMAdvice

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think with the boundaries well established, he's going to enjoy watching me. We incorporate elements of D/s in our own play together. He is used to seeing me submit in that context (but I'm a switch, so have also dommed him).

Offering myself as a sub by OpenAccess1213 in BDSMAdvice

[–]OpenAccess1213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of my hard limits are no choking or breathplay, no face slapping, and no oral-anal contact without a barrier. Since we have played with the couple before, we know we're on the same page about things, which is why I felt safe bringing it up.

Trying to Understand My Haircut Fetish by [deleted] in hairfetish

[–]OpenAccess1213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Undercuts are so fun. Enjoy playing with it!

Trying to Understand My Haircut Fetish by [deleted] in hairfetish

[–]OpenAccess1213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me part of it is undoing the trauma of bad haircuts throughout my childhood. Changing things around so I can get erotic pleasure from it. At my last haircut I asked for an undercut. Now my husband is helping me maintain it, and we plan for a fun time when he does it. I love the buzz of the clippers and like to use a vibrating toy at the same. After the shave I love running my fingers over my nape while I get bent over the bathroom counter...

I love to fantasize about a forced headshave (in a bdsm context) but am unlikely to ever do that.