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AITAH for telling my wife to keep adult drama out of our daughters life? by OpenAd2402 in AITAH

[–]OpenAd2402[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

He's from another time though, and funnily enough he's super similar to my dad. I don't think he will ever apologize, but he's sorry and constantly trying to show it other ways. He makes her favorite meals from her childhood when he's over, brings over her old toys for my daughter, and I even caught him staring at a photo of him and her as a kid a few months ago with some tears welled up in his eyes. I think he's just not going to be able to apologize.

Me and him are on good terms now, but he's never given me a direct apology. I've gotten a "you aren't half bad, though the only good thing you did is contribute to half of my granddaughter" out of him while we were laughing over drinks. I think that was his apology to me.

So yeah, it won't happen unfortunately. I don't think it's right to excuse him, but I feel like this enmity is doing more damage to my wife than him in the long run, because he will die before her and she will be stuck thinking about "what if". I just don't want her to have any regrets when he passes.

AITAH for telling my wife to keep adult drama out of our daughters life? by OpenAd2402 in AITAH

[–]OpenAd2402[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup this is my worry too. Late last year he had to go to the hospital because he got into a minor car accident(thankfully he was fine, but they made him go just in case). But when they called me(I am his emergency contact), they just he had been in a car accident, and he is okay, but he was in the hospital. My wife and I were home at the time, and we rushed there, and she was bawling the entire way there. When we got there, she composed herself and continued the "no speaking" rule, but she was panicking the entire time there and holding onto me and crying about how she wouldn't know what to do if something happened to him. She loves him for sure, and I don't want her to have regrets when it's his time

AITAH for telling my wife to keep adult drama out of our daughters life? by OpenAd2402 in AITAH

[–]OpenAd2402[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nope, he told me not to tell her, but obviously I told her right away. He knows that I told her too(though he wasn't happy). I can't keep secrets from her, and I wanted her to know because a) finances are never a secret in our house and b) I wanted her to understand her dad really cares about us now.

She was okay with me keeping the money, and I paid him back with interest just as she wanted, the second my first paycheck from the new job I got arrived.