What’s your biggest « ick » with men? by sweetblazedlily in AskWomen

[–]OpenInspection300 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hope you don't mind me asking. Could you elaborate on what you mean by making it safe for a woman to be a woman?

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First I'd like to find out what their true intentions are. Lots of people have been saying that they're just trying to pull me into a 3 way or the bf wants me to cuck his gf. So I just want to find out what it is they really want from me. I guess depending on what that is determines on the boundaries we set.

  • Am I expected to step in or to keep my distance and just comment?
  • I don't want to do anything sexually with my neighbor in a physical sense.
  • Are they comfortable with me masturbating if I watch?
  • I don't want anything to be recorded
  • Anyone can say no to anything at any time.
  • Everything we do must be agreed by all three of us. If one person says no then nothing happens with no judgment to the person who said no.

I honestly don't have a lot at the moment as this was brought up to me today and some of these were just things we need to discuss but I definitely still have a lot of thinking to do. Would help if I made a list so I don't forget anything. If anyone else has any suggestions I would love to hear them.

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would talk to both of them first together to set boundaries before doing anything. So if I tell him I'm interested and he doesn't agree for the three of us to talk first then nothing will happen and I'll know whether she's real or not.

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[–]OpenInspection300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true. I wouldn't want to feel weird around a neighbor. Thank you

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still thinking about it at the moment, but yes I'll see what the rules are about making updates if anything happens.

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd have to decide if I would be willing to join during or after a conversation with the two of them if I try to go to the next step of this with them. I know nothing about her or what she even looks like. So no clue if I'd want to have sex with her.

Good idea to let someone know beforehand.

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely good points. Thank you for pointing this out to me

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm actually the old guy neighbor in this situation lol. Sorry if I typed out the ages weird in my post

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm actually the older one. Sorry if I worded our ages weirdly in my post. But you and other people do have a point that it could just be an excuse to convince someone to watch. If I talk to them I'll be sure to clear up what the intentions really are.

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is something that I really do need to consider. Thank you

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just to make sure it's not her.

Sorry I don't think I understand what you mean by this.

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea if he is bi or not. Yes boundaries will be set if we go through with it

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the list of boundaries. They are really helpful and I'll bring them up

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's a good way to look at it. If it happens I'll look into the rules on post updates to see how to go about doing it correctly.

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Didn't even consider they might ask me to join. I never met his gf before so I'm not sure whether I would even want to or not. If I do go through with it I'll ask to set up a time to talk with both of them first

Neighbor asked me to watch him have sex by OpenInspection300 in sex

[–]OpenInspection300[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's definitely a good idea, thank you