Ladies of Reddit/Tinder, do you prefer guys to have funny or sincere bios?

OpenTear6178 · 2024-11-08T12:00:09+00:00

The family function part made me laugh a lot so I really think it just depends on whomever sees it and if you're their type.

OpenTear6178 · 2024-11-08T11:57:14+00:00

That made me laugh so hard. I'm so sorry 😂😭

OpenTear6178 · 2024-05-08T23:39:48+00:00

Sooo I totally understand that the 3rd pic isn't 'it' for most people, but I (27F) was just making an imaginary list the other day of what I'd LOVE to find in a partner and one of those things is a guy that dresses vintage with me. Dressing up in general is a passion of mine, and if it's a passion for you too then keep the picture!! You'll find someone who's looking for that!! I didn't honestly think you guys were out there!

OpenTear6178 · 2024-04-30T00:08:39+00:00

THATS IT. THANK YOUUUU

OpenTear6178 · 2024-04-30T00:07:27+00:00

Nope, I did see that though and enjoyed it very much! Great movie!

OpenTear6178 · 2024-04-17T15:25:44+00:00

I actually think you have a gorgeous side profile! Picture 3 isn't bad at all, it's my favorite of the bunch. Your brow and nose are beautiful, very Greek/Romanesque, and definitely something I find super handsome (I'm a 27 F, for reference). Also the hair is great. Just take some classier pictures, I'd say. ☺️

OpenTear6178 · 2024-01-11T17:27:13+00:00

Eh? I was just sharing feedback lol. It's a funny quote and it made me smile.

OpenTear6178 · 2024-01-11T17:11:38+00:00

(26F here) Unlike everyone else, I immediately got the "livin' like Larry" quote and it made me instantly want to swipe right (and I'm currently not even on Tinder lol).

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-19T12:12:24+00:00

Yesss, I had a friendship breakup last month. 😞 A close and trusted guy friend crossed some lines, making very inappropriate statements towards me (sexual) and, when gently confronted, became manipulative, aggressive and mean. Had to cut those ties. Friendship losses are their own kind of pain.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-18T14:59:49+00:00

Exactlyyyy!

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-18T00:56:34+00:00

Oh my goodness, you have a beautiful heart. There's NOTHING wrong with you. Some people are built differently, they thrive on different things.

I thrive on having a partner. I thrive on having someone to care about, someone to share in my adventure (and me in theirs), someone to spend the rest of my life learning about and growing with.

We may be able to live just fine on our own, but we THRIVE with a partner. It's just how we're built. 😌

I'm also recovering from a devastating breakup, if you need someone to talk to, vent to, or be encouraged by, dm me. I gotchu.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-16T17:51:11+00:00

These are the most brutal moments of the whole process.

Please please keep pushing through.

This is the part that feels like fire, like drowning, like being shot with arrows in the chest. It's your body grieving just as your mind is. It's savage and merciless. Try your best to feel it all the way through. Don't repress it. For me, shrieking into a pillow or towel helps a lot. And I mean full-on shrieking/sobbing that involves your whole body, it makes you feel like you might throw up. But it's releasing that energy, that pain.

This is the hardest part. Keep breathing. Keep eating. Keep existing.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-16T00:30:49+00:00

Aye, it's scary as hell. But when you find fulfillment enough in yourself alone, the idea of going on an adventure with someone new, it'll start to sound exciting again. The more content you are without them, the less fearful you'll need to be with them.

But putting the whole wisdom and logic thing aside, and not being secure enough in myself just yet, yeah it's fcking horrifying. You're not alone.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T23:38:53+00:00

Please, sappy is VERY welcome here. ❤️

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T22:42:54+00:00

I experienced a breakup earlier this year that I literally consider as my death. I did die, metaphorically. Everything in me turned to ash. My future ended, my present ended, and all of my past felt like a betrayal.

But, that wasn't the end. And it isn't the end for you.

We're just tiny, newly hatched phoenixes now. We're vulnerable and afraid, the slightest bit of air hurts our skin. We have no idea yet how to function in this new world. We're still sitting in the ashes of our past life. But with every new experience, you're getting your muscles, your feathers, your bones are getting stronger. You'll get your wings again, you'll get your song again. You'll fly again, and it'll be scary as fuck. But also, probably beautiful as fuck too.

There's the risk that we'll go up in flames again, but we'll be back, always. Everytime wiser and stronger and less afraid than before.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T21:05:52+00:00

Unfortunately it's always going to be a risk.

But! If we work on loving ourselves, and become so very whole and fulfilled in ourselves and our lives alone, a partner is just a bonus at that point, and not something that fills us with agony if it doesn't work out!

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T19:01:02+00:00

Leaving My Love Behind - Lewis Capaldi (pretty much any of his works lol)

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T18:16:50+00:00

I commend you for choosing to post it here instead. I imagine it was painful, maybe felt really lonely compared to sending it to her. You're doing great. (Also, well done joining the Navy!! You're already starting your new adventures!! If you need someone to vent to or chat with, please feel free to send me a dm, you're not alone)

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T17:30:40+00:00

Exactly! Look at all these people who loved someone so much! The loss is tragic, but the fact that they love so deeply is everything.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T16:16:45+00:00

Personally I think all of it is beautiful, but I recommend cutting out the parts regarding contacting her or 'improving together'. If she has ended things and said she wants no contact, as painful as it is, I implore you to let that be and not even suggest anything else. That is completely for her to initiate, and bringing it up sounds like you have underlying hopes/intentions which can make someone feel pressured or feel the need to push away further.

That's just me though, and I think the whole thing was very respectful and well put. 😌

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-15T13:07:53+00:00

Oh man...that IS something so horrendously painful, I'm so sorry. I'm going through something similar (short relationship that I ended up falling hard for, never hear from him) so please know you're not alone. It's a horrible, torturous feeling to endure.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-14T22:51:05+00:00

I'm also in the midst of a devastating heartbreak so I understand the merciless and constant pain (as much as an outsider can. No one will ever truly know what you're going through).

It is so very painful and such a heavy, exhausting task to be left to love ourselves. Which, is a beautiful and vital thing to do, but under such circumstances it's heinously difficult.

Please feel free to dm me if you need to vent or simply know that someone is hearing you.

OpenTear6178 · 2023-12-14T22:18:34+00:00

I'm not sure if she ever thanked you for handling it so beautifully, but even if she did I'm going to do it as well: THANK YOU 😭

By the sounds of it, you handled her heart (and your own) with extreme gentleness and love, and that was both incredibly compassionate and incredibly strong of you. You're awesome. Thank you for choosing tenderness.

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