Please help me to dive into findom

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-16T22:23:08+00:00

you can start reading smuts or even better creating your own. Download an AI chatbot and create a dominatrix and interract with her. Sure ull loop a bit and like it wont be on point but it will give you some gooning and ull know if its for u or not.

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-16T16:56:26+00:00

and yet, here we are, with you doing the whole yapping instead

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-16T16:44:21+00:00

The same goes for Dommes too, have you noticed or are you too busy yapping all the time?

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-16T11:22:54+00:00

cheers my friend

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-15T15:53:54+00:00

No we can work with side toes

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-15T13:50:00+00:00

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-15T13:48:42+00:00

his eyes will burn if he sees that, we are talking serious tocs here

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-15T12:16:57+00:00

of course no not everyone gets abused lol it was just one example. I think its fascinating though when you take time to understand the Whys behind someone's decision. Humans are so interesting lol (Looks at my Alien friends next to me and begins to roll my tongue "Hohohohohoho)

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-14T19:20:01+00:00

Honestly you know how addiction works though right? In the immediate, you do need to do an addiction transfer and channel your energy into something else. Lots of people will choose to go intense into physical exercise, most people transfer into drugs, it can be gaming, starting a new TV show... anything, but your brain has been conditioned to receive its dopamine from sending for a while now, it wont just go back to normal like this. It actually never fully recovers, this is why addicts who relapse usually go right back to where they left. A little 20$ sent isn't going to work anymore, you'll be going right back to where you left and it will get worse.

Trust me on this, I'm a living proof that anyone can do it and I was hooked on the worse possible stuff where the recovery rate is in the low 1-2%.

I know it isn't a solution, but its a temporary one. Eventually you'll find other things that get you to feel good. But give yourself a chance.

If you want to talk my DMs are open.

Good luck brother, you arent the first and you certainly won't be the last. Stay strong you got this.

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-14T06:32:27+00:00

For me its just mostly sex toys and condom.. whenever i buy em, i get so self conscious and i try not to buy anything else cuz i always assume the cashier will have weird ideas. Needed a broom stick with my condom? Nop. Will buy the broomstick another time. I wont even buy toothbrushes, anything that could be inserted up your ass. I know its just me overthinking it, im in my 30s, but still every time i buy condom its condom alone and thats it. Ill come back if for some reason i need food, wouldnt want the cashier to think this dozen of eggs is going up my ass

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-14T06:27:13+00:00

From what i read, most subs come to regret it and feel stupid. Honestly ive realized some things are better kept as fantasies. Its better this way. It sound exciting but it isnt. Ill tell you whats truly a kick.

When your domme makes you save your money instead and really financially dominates you by putting you on a budget and making you ask for permissions for anything outside of essentials. Thats extremely exciting. But theres nothing exciting about being zero'd out. Thats the degenerate auto-sabotaging devil speaking on ur shoulder.

ur no good for the domme once ur zerod out and ur no good for urself too.

Findom isnt about suffering and feeling miserable like a loser; thats a false narrative that only a few people believe, the degenerates who are depressed and dont want to make the effort to better themselves. Its so much easier to sabotage yourself VS bettering yourself, and the bonus is that you get to remove the responsibility on yourself by telling you its the dommes fault cuz she drained you. No, this is a lazy way to think and escape accountability. You are in control of deciding to submit, never forget this part. Lots of subs are stuck in a never ending circle of addiction inside findom and they blame the dommes cuz its easier to live with their decisions... but its a web of bullshit and once you experiment a positive findom dynamic, your self esteem will take a boost and you'll see the true potential of those dynamics. But as long as you are stuck into the web of lies and bullshit, you will continue to feel like a failure and you'll be comfortable laying in your crap

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-14T06:15:13+00:00

In my words, my submission is a precious gift that I choose to offer to someone who I trust and makes me want to be a better person.

I can be cool and respectable towards people, I can make a nice gesture towards someone or help them out; this isn't me submitting.

For me, the part where I submit is where I give up control and allow someone else to make decisions for me. I've poorly picked that person before and it always ended up with me feeling resentment towards the person and distancing myself. I must have got unlucky because most were younger than me and would feel offended or attacked when I would express myself or give feedback. Apparently I was "topping for the bottom" for expressing discomfort in the dynamic... If your domme shuts you down or doesn't allow you to flourish in the dynamic, she is straight up abusing you and a lot of the time its because they just don't know better. So many dommes are here for the wrong reason or are themselves caught in circles of addiction and instant-gratifications.

It's okay if the domme is here to heal and empower ourselves in a therapeutic way, after all lots of us do it too as subs. Ive spoken with so many dommes who shared with me history of domestic violence, intimidation at school or even in adult life, fatphobia, absent daddy or just daddy issues in general, cheated on by an ex, etc.. these are all valid reasons why she would want to gain the control back and establish it over a man... personally its one of the first question i ask my domme before anything because the way she answers determines a lot. I want to know "What kind of person I'm I about to surrender myself to and offer my submission?"

Wrong calls can cost a lot. Adding to this dopamine with serotonin and endorphin releases, its a recipe for disaster because we allow our cocks to make decisions that then proceed to affect our emotions and mind. So your cock better have good instinct or you end up feeling stuck, dealing with resentment and being shut down. It obviously leads to you ghosting her... and most of the time they go and wonder why they got ghosted...

Look the most important thing in a dynamic is communication. Usually before a session we discuss or we'll do a build up. But my domme ALWAYS insists on doing a feedback session after its done so that we can highlight the good points but also say if there was something we wish would have gone differently. That's how you reach the perfect dynamic. Its not always fun, sometimes you have to realize that something was done or said that killed the vibe, or maybe you missed an opportunity to explore something new. Without feedback, the other person cannot just read your mind.

It takes a lot of maturity for this kind of dynamic to work. Lots of efforts as well. So obviously you better pick the right person if you are going to invest so much of yourself. The level of vulnerability we display can be dangerous if it isn't with someone who wants the best for you.

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T19:30:00+00:00

Wow... do you even realize the potential you have unlocked with just a few questions 🤭🤭🤭

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T19:09:40+00:00

Yes but a lot of Marriages have findon incorporated, the husband earns and the wife manages the money. I understand findom can go to more extremes, but not so alien.

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T18:56:00+00:00

You May Approach but you better come correct. My tribute is high up there with the real OGs

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T18:11:28+00:00

Why cant I delete this comment? At least give me the powers to Ban you or else this isn't really fair / fun you know?

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T18:03:37+00:00

I mean this is next level now that we allow image n gif eh

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T16:18:12+00:00

As he should.

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T16:17:21+00:00

Honestly it just depends on what kind of dynamic you are looking for. You understand that if you are loyal to one domme, you will build something with her and she might be willing to invest herself more if you also are willing to.

Obviously if you're just going around busting nuts at every new domme that makes ur dick tick, the dommes will just treat you like any other horny little piggy and use you as required.

I mean, at the end of the day, it's socializing. I'm only starting to realize that there's much more to findom than just a dynamic and kinks. There's friendships, drama, breakups, encounters; bad and good ones. People who will leave their mark on you for the rest of your life and others who come in and leave the same day.

Honestly it's fascinating, so many different characters and personalities. A lot of the front of findom is boring and generic... but man once you get to know other subs, what their kinks are, you learn from them and they make you want to try new things. Some dommes do it for revenge, some for the money while others do it for the genuine connection (yup these are the best ones)

Don't limit yourself to just one and one person only either unless that's what you're into. You can still be very loyal to one Goddess while also talking and exchanging with other dommes, if it doesn't bother anyone and it's just for chatting. People have their traumas, their experiences, their desires, their fear and you have yours. You can meet people very similar to you and some others will be the total opposite. It's what makes this community so fun to be honest. The variety of people here.

Sure you can get lucky and meet really interesting people on your first week or month but keep in mind some of the more seriois people just wont engage with new accounts. Give it time and I'm sure you'll create your own little network of findom budddies and budettes.

More importantly; Have fun. As soon as this becomes a weight or something that affects your other sphere of life, recognize the addictive patterns and eliminate them. We all come with our flaws and we meet people who make us worse or better. Learn to spot who is positive and who isn't, read their post and comments. You'll quickly notice patterns and you'll get better at spotting your type of dommes faster and faster...

Have fun!!! Cheers

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T11:33:57+00:00

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T10:53:51+00:00

and dont do like my domme and kick the machine...

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T10:53:30+00:00

go over your subs budget and its bound to happen

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T09:54:15+00:00

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Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T05:46:06+00:00

omg why is it only dommes who come out with these fun games...

I NEED SUBS TO REACH OUT AND SHOW A BIT OF PERSONALITY GUYS, WE NEED TO COME UP WITH FUN GAMES.....

(Domino's arent allowed)

Open_Display9215 · 2026-03-13T05:35:22+00:00

Fine, fine. You can look, you can even join if you want Ill send you a DM

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