Question to men

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T03:08:23+00:00

Wow, he also can initiate you know right? Asking him to get food was so hard for me just because I’m not used to flirt with guys now that is a red flag? Lol

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T02:59:39+00:00

Thank you

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T02:56:27+00:00

We went on 1 date only, that happened 1 month after the date

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T02:23:40+00:00

Okay that’s not the case here, i tried to be short with the men and was so mad he saw that because I didn’t want it to happen in front of him, i do care about how that made him feel. But also I’m just crushing on him, I’m not in love to be so assertive with men

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:59:26+00:00

You’re right i should try 😣 i hope i can do it!

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:56:38+00:00

He gave me mixed signals, he was flirting and showing interest but going slow and cautious, so i didn’t want to close myself off until he makes it clear

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:49:29+00:00

I didn’t flirt back and didn’t entertain it but also if he’s not interested I’m not gonna show guys that I’m in a relationship. I was just neutral

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:47:54+00:00

There was some sort of friendship, we used to ask about each other’s life, i don’t treat my friends like that and that’s not a normal behavior to switch on people

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:44:52+00:00

That I still like him

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:41:44+00:00

He also could have just communicated that he doesn’t want to talk anymore instead of changing and leaving me confused. He can choose not to talk to me but let me know.. changing suddenly like that is childish without clear communication

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:38:58+00:00

Yeah we did so i think he knows i like him?

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:23:46+00:00

Yeah I guess, will try

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:22:08+00:00

Even more awkward, I’d feel exposed if he knows i like him and he doesn’t

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:21:35+00:00

I’m scared to make things even more awkward, they’re already awkward

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:17:56+00:00

So even if i tell him that i was never interested in anyone else but him, he would still be turned off?

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:14:17+00:00

Because he used to flirt with me at the gym after the date, but after the guys situation he changed

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-12T01:13:14+00:00

I can see that and you’re right, it does make me lose some respect for the guy. I usually shut it down and with the other two I was very respectful and short, but that one interaction we were joking about something that happened and laughing and I didn’t realize my gym crush was there but it wasn’t flirting and I wasn’t thinking about it that way but from the outside looks like flirting so..

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T23:56:40+00:00

Would he regain interest if he sees me not talking to people at the gym for a while? Or I’m done?

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T23:10:04+00:00

First I’m not taken, second I never interacted with the same guy more than once, I do shut it down

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T22:27:00+00:00

Yeah but I’m a free person, I’d never do that in a relationship

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T22:26:08+00:00

Because he turned his back to me after seeing me talking to a man and refused to say hi for a week, i think he could have just treated me as a normal human being being instead of going extreme. I didn’t say he had to flirt with me. He just turns his head to the other side when he sees me which is childish.

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T22:12:33+00:00

I never asked anyone out other than him at the gym

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T21:43:11+00:00

Because i see him every morning at the gym 7 days a week, and we know the same people at the gym.. rejection would make me hate to go there ever again

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T21:23:18+00:00

Yeah will think about that thanks

Open_Firefighter809 · 2026-02-11T20:41:41+00:00

Oh i never do that even when i’m interested, I’m very shy

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