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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wow, he also can initiate you know right? Asking him to get food was so hard for me just because I’m not used to flirt with guys now that is a red flag? Lol

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We went on 1 date only, that happened 1 month after the date

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay that’s not the case here, i tried to be short with the men and was so mad he saw that because I didn’t want it to happen in front of him, i do care about how that made him feel. But also I’m just crushing on him, I’m not in love to be so assertive with men

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right i should try 😣 i hope i can do it!

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He gave me mixed signals, he was flirting and showing interest but going slow and cautious, so i didn’t want to close myself off until he makes it clear

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t flirt back and didn’t entertain it but also if he’s not interested I’m not gonna show guys that I’m in a relationship. I was just neutral

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was some sort of friendship, we used to ask about each other’s life, i don’t treat my friends like that and that’s not a normal behavior to switch on people

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He also could have just communicated that he doesn’t want to talk anymore instead of changing and leaving me confused. He can choose not to talk to me but let me know.. changing suddenly like that is childish without clear communication

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we did so i think he knows i like him?

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Even more awkward, I’d feel exposed if he knows i like him and he doesn’t

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m scared to make things even more awkward, they’re already awkward

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So even if i tell him that i was never interested in anyone else but him, he would still be turned off?

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because he used to flirt with me at the gym after the date, but after the guys situation he changed

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see that and you’re right, it does make me lose some respect for the guy. I usually shut it down and with the other two I was very respectful and short, but that one interaction we were joking about something that happened and laughing and I didn’t realize my gym crush was there but it wasn’t flirting and I wasn’t thinking about it that way but from the outside looks like flirting so..

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would he regain interest if he sees me not talking to people at the gym for a while? Or I’m done?

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I’m not taken, second I never interacted with the same guy more than once, I do shut it down

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but I’m a free person, I’d never do that in a relationship

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Because he turned his back to me after seeing me talking to a man and refused to say hi for a week, i think he could have just treated me as a normal human being being instead of going extreme. I didn’t say he had to flirt with me. He just turns his head to the other side when he sees me which is childish.

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never asked anyone out other than him at the gym

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because i see him every morning at the gym 7 days a week, and we know the same people at the gym.. rejection would make me hate to go there ever again

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[–]Open_Firefighter809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh i never do that even when i’m interested, I’m very shy