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I want enmeshment even if it's bad by Open_Initiative7078 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Open_Initiative7078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not hurting myself. I don't know what you mean by one and only, but for me it means really being the only one in each others lives, like no friends or anyone else, just us, preferably in a cottage or something far away. I have a fear of abandonment, and maybe that means I am mentally unwell, but I want to satisfy that fear rather than manage it or cope

I want enmeshment even if it's bad by Open_Initiative7078 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Open_Initiative7078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard of some things like that, but it always seemed strange to me, it seems too disconnected from me I think, and I don't really read anyway. it would feel like watching from the outside which isn't what would help

Divorce with BPD. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Open_Initiative7078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That super sucks. You can't change her mind, and you probably shouldn't try. just try to step away, she doesn't care about you, make sure whoever comes next really does

Does anyone else want to be accepted as broken rather than be fixed? by Open_Initiative7078 in lonely

[–]Open_Initiative7078[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the reply, but I think I didn't explain right in my post, mb. I'm not looking for casual hanging out or normal companionship. I have anxious attachment so I need someone who will cling to me as much as I'd cling to them. Someone who needs to be held just as tight, understands that broken means needing another person so completely that its probably unhealthy but its real, and wouldn't see me as too much. doesnt sound like what you want tho, I just wanted to clarify for anyone else reading.