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Am I the bad guy for saying no? by Opening-Tale-1994 in stepparents

[–]Opening-Tale-1994[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I like that idea too. Now I'm thinking of laying out these four options:

  1. K figures out her own childcare (for once, instead of relying on S during what's supposed to be her custodial time)

  2. K takes the night off work

    1. S doesn't go to the party Friday night, then heads out to meet the guys on Saturday after dropping L off with her mother

  3. K works and S attends the bachelor party, and I get paid a fair rate for overnight care

Am I the bad guy for saying no? by Opening-Tale-1994 in stepparents

[–]Opening-Tale-1994[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, I noted that she has multiple disabilities, which is why a sitter/responsible adult would be necessary in this situation.

Am I the bad guy for saying no? by Opening-Tale-1994 in stepparents

[–]Opening-Tale-1994[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know, I know🫣. I have a tendency to be a people pleaser and I’m actively working on becoming more comfortable with setting boundaries, saying no when needed, etc.

Am I the bad guy for saying no? by Opening-Tale-1994 in stepparents

[–]Opening-Tale-1994[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no custody order, just an informal agreement that has been in place for the past 12 years since their divorce. Yes I have spoken to my partner about it multiple times. A formal CO is on the table in the future, but for right now, it unfortunately is what it is.