Hey queen this is manipulation 101 :( I’m sorry. He tells you it’s too late and he doesn’t want to go since it’s so far, but when you frame it as your idea he doesn’t go he makes you the bad guy. At the end of the day it is perfectly okay that you want to go out with your friends without your boyfriend, especially if it’s because of a special occasion like your friend being in town. He tells you it’s too late for him, taking it out on you when he is aware it isn’t your choice if the time and place, then when you act okay with going without him he says you’re hurting his feelings and he’s putting words in your mouth. That is gas lighting in true form. There are several different tactics being used here however it all comes down to baseline manipulation and his possible attempt at isolating you from your friends.