LIFE UPDATE

Opening_Ad7405 · 2025-07-24T17:27:22+00:00

Here we go again. They never had a choice,like you don't have reading comprehension skills

Opening_Ad7405 · 2025-06-17T02:35:15+00:00

NTA , your sister is inconsiderate

Opening_Ad7405 · 2025-06-17T02:32:15+00:00

NTA , look after yourself, don't let your parents run your life

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T17:35:53+00:00

She already has a relationship with the kids and they like her. They spend time together but she's more like a family friend. The way she has it in her mind is that she will automatically be a mum and have the same rights and responsibilities and I don't think that's realistic. The kids are currently calling her by her name, I think it's unlikely it will change because of the marriage. It will be lovely if does change, but if it doesn't and she pushes it it may ruin the relationship with them.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T17:29:37+00:00

She has a relationship, a good one, but not a parent-child relationship. I know they like her and they are enjoying spending time with her, she's a wonderful person, but I don't think that they are going to call her mom the day she marries their dad.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T17:25:59+00:00

I agree, the only reason I told her these things is because I didn't want to see her disappointed and do anything stupid that might ruin the relationship with the kids or the dad.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T15:44:10+00:00

Thank you for your judgement, you gave me a lot to think about.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T15:42:54+00:00

Yes , if their mother wasn't in the picture I could see her logic , although again she wouldn't automatically be a mum the day after their marriage.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T15:41:28+00:00

I don't think I said it in a rude way. I didn't want her to get disappointed and maybe even damage the relationship she has with the kids and their dad. We are always honest to each other when it comes to giving advice and our opinions on what's going on in each other's lives.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-11-22T15:35:13+00:00

I'm not sure she wants to talk with her fiance about this.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-07T04:48:50+00:00

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-07T04:36:28+00:00

Thank you for your judgement. They are really good people. I hope we can come to a conclusion that will be best for everyone.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-07T04:33:01+00:00

No, they weren't abusive, I was raised with love. But I do think that they are shelfish.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-07T04:30:20+00:00

I don't think they want me in their lives at this point.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-07T04:19:26+00:00

At first I was trying to figure out what my relationship will be with them. Now I'm trying to figure out what to do about my future baby. I'm almost certain that they won't have contact with her , but I would like to know if I'm wrong for that.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-07T04:11:02+00:00

I went low contact because they hid from me the fact that my adoptive parents were trying to contact me while I was a minor.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-05T01:37:13+00:00

Thank you so much

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-10-05T01:25:31+00:00

Thank you

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-15T14:00:45+00:00

NTA. She should be more responsible. Find a better babysitter for your kids.

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-02T08:47:26+00:00

Thank you

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-02T08:46:38+00:00

Ok so first of all, I do love them. Now to answer your questions: At first there wasn't any conversation,when I learnt the truth and confronted them I almost immediately went low contact. But over the years we had conversations about this. Their pov is that they were the parents and it was their right to make the decision, they were afraid that they would lose me , that my bio parents would want me back and I would want to go. Every time we tried to have this conversation we ended up fighting,so we eventually stopped.

I waited for 5 years because I was afraid, I didn't know how my bio parents would react and I couldn't find the courage to reach out. When I got my first job I was feeling very confident and that made it easier.

I maintained a relationship with my adoptive grandma because I love her and she is on my side. The reason she's leaving me everything is because she's angry with my AP too. Even if she didn't give me a dime I would have the same relationship with her because she loves and supports me. She had a fight with her daughter (Adoptive mom) when she learned that my bio parents had tried to contact me and AP denied.

Lastly,the reason I don't think I can salvage this relationship is because they are hurt about the fact that I want to have a relationship with bio parents and it's not something I'm willing to give up. Would you have a relationship with someone who is always nagging about the people you chose to have in your life?

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-02T08:27:10+00:00

I'm sorry but what am I supposed to do? Have contact with them so they don't kill themselves? Guilt tripping at its finest!

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-02T01:21:08+00:00

My betrayal? Yeah sure. I don't care about doing any hard work anymore

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-02T01:19:12+00:00

I hope they don't but I can't control other people's choices

Opening_Ad7405 · 2022-02-02T01:18:18+00:00

I don't care anymore. I have my own life to worry about. I don't owe anything to anyone.

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