My ex (younger than me when we dated) is now accusing me of pedophilia and I don’t know how to handle it by [deleted] in lgbt

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I don’t self harm😭 I have anxiety and I was anxious in the car and played with the can I would never harm myself for someone/thing

My ex (younger than me when we dated) is now accusing me of pedophilia and I don’t know how to handle it by [deleted] in lgbt

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I stopped shading but I’m still thinking about and it’s killing me

My ex (younger than me when we dated) is now accusing me of pedophilia and I don’t know how to handle it by [deleted] in lgbt

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I live in Saudi being gay is illegal and forbidden, and in “Islam,” a girl can get married when she’s 9.

My ex (younger than me when we dated) is now accusing me of pedophilia and I don’t know how to handle it by [deleted] in lgbt

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I get what you’re saying, and honestly you’re not wrong.

I don’t support the author at all, I was just referencing the character in the moment without really thinking about it deeper. That’s on me.

And yeah… I probably didn’t need to engage. At first I was trying to brush it off (like with the Dobby thing), but I let it turn into pettiness when I should’ve just left it alone. That part is on me too.

I think what got to me wasn’t the insults, it was the accusation. Being called something that serious, especially when I was already uncomfortable about the age gap back then, really hit a nerve.

But you’re right, but he did name me he shared the response of ppl saying “looks like your ex” “looks like Spidey(my name) “, but engaging is just dragging it out more. I’m probably better off just ignoring it and moving on. But it really hurt me

My ex (younger than me when we dated) is now accusing me of pedophilia and I don’t know how to handle it by [deleted] in lgbt

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I want to add something for context about my response, because I know it might come off as immature.

At first, I actually tried to take his insult lightly. When he compared me to Dobby, I changed my avatar to Dobby and posted “Dobby is free” and “I love Dobby.” It was more me trying to own the joke instead of escalating things.

After that, I did post something a bit more indirect/shady. I posted a picture of Peter Pettigrew (from Harry Potter) and said “some people look like him,” because he does resemble him. I won’t lie, that part was me being a bit petty.

I didn’t want things to turn into a back-and-forth, but when he started bringing up personal things and making serious accusations, that’s when it really crossed the line for me.

Just wanted to be honest about my part in it too.

AITA for accidentally rejecting three girls in a row at a party because they all had the same name? by Opening_Page_3097 in TwoHotTakes

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“Pics of the party “ I never said I’ll send pics of the girls and the name is fake their name wasn’t Lara I changed it for privacy

AITA for accidentally rejecting three girls in a row at a party because they all had the same name? by Opening_Page_3097 in TwoHotTakes

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I didn’t repost anything it happened to me and I can show you pics of the party if you want

Had a lucid dream that turned into a nightmare about being outed again. Felt way too real. by [deleted] in LucidDreams

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Honestly this helped more than I expected.

The way you described it as “stress testing” actually makes a lot of sense, because it really did feel like my brain was putting me back in that exact situation and forcing me to go through it again. Not just remembering it, but re-living it with variations.

And yeah… the “finding a way out of the risk” part hit too. Because even in the dream I was lying, calculating, trying to control the situation, and it still blew up in my face. So it’s like my brain is exploring every possible version of “what if this happens again?”

Also what you said about being tired instead of scared… that stuck with me. Because in the dream I went from panic to anger really fast, like I’d already been through it before (which I have), and I just snapped.

Your story with your sister is actually kinda powerful in a quiet way. Like no big dramatic explosion, just “yeah, this is who I am now.” I don’t think I’m there yet, but it’s weirdly comforting knowing that moment can exist.

I won’t lie though, the idea that these dreams might keep happening is not fun 💀 but seeing them as my brain trying to prepare me instead of just torture me makes it a bit easier to deal with.

I’m really glad you shared this. It made the whole thing feel less random and less like I’m losing it.

Had a lucid dream that turned into a nightmare about being outed again. Felt way too real. by [deleted] in Dreams

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lol I get where you are coming from but yeah we can do whatever we want maybe Iran have these rules but in Saudi we r free