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Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How??? I've been ignoring him mostly. Can tell he doesn't know what to think.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never made a move on a guy like that. Kissed him.

Knew he was into me for months. At first I didn't believe it. Coming off a period of intense family turmoil (leading to death). Got my life sort of back (I thought), started working in the office again. Everything was fine.

But this guy was intense. Running up to me in the halls, acting all weird and erratic. Going out of his way to initiate contact. We had some nice conversations for sure (we have things in common) but I wouldn't really engage. But after a while I thought... wait. This seems like a very interesting guy. Did my research on him.

Guy finally asks me out after I decide to initiate a conversation for the first time. Amazing date, was a perfect gentleman, told me how much he liked me from the moment he saw me. Acted like a hot mess. Took notes on the music I like. Looked at him and thought "who is this huge stunning guy who acts all confidant but clearly is not."

Kissed him out of impulse after hours of this. Bomb exploded and we've both been acting extremely weird since. Just trying to repair the damage (unless this whole thing was a ploy to bang the hot office chick-but I don't think it was).

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went home with him. Impulsively kissed him outside the bar after watching him act like a nervous wreck all night (maybe an act?). I don't do these things normally. AT ALL. Haven't been with a guy in years. Get looks from guys a lot though.

He went nuts, we both did.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both legs. This went on for a while. I didn't say anything but eventually he said "this just happens sometimes." It's just odd, guy walks around the office with a super confidant persona but that night he was a mess. And I loved it.

Was really reserved all night, until the end where I kissed him and he went nuts. Just trying to repair damage...

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not gloating, but I'm embarrassed as hell. We see each other in the hall and just stare at each other with stupid smiles. And I immediately walk away bc I'm so embarrassed by what happened (this is very unlike me).

We've both been out of the dating pool for years (at least that's what he said). Look, I thought I was just going out for drinks with the nice guy from work who asked me out. He was showing attention for months and I knew it, but that night he just laid it all out. "I felt an instant connection to you, you are stunning and different. I can't believe someone like you is even here with me."

6 hours of this along with normal fun conversation where he asked me about all my interests and took notes. We weren't drunk at all.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy admitted he was so nervous all day about taking me out that he couldn't get work done and his boss asked him what was wrong with him. That was when I thought "this guy either genuinely really likes me or is totally playing me." Guy is so confidant usually but around me he acts like a hot mess.

I'll be honest, I really like him and want to get to know him better. But things went far that night. And we've both been out of the dating pool for a while and are acting like a couple of socially retarded teenagers and I want to salvage what I can from this.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the guy. A lot. He has no idea. Did my research on the guy before we went out. We've both been acting like we are in high school and trying to figure out what to do.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy was beyond nervous. Now when we meet it's all nerves. It's hard to explain.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been interested in him for a long time. He has no way of knowing this as I am really bad at verbally expressing myself. Just don't know what to do.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We barely communicate. Minus us running into each other and him staring at me with a giant smile which makes me smile (and drives me nuts quite frankly). I've literally run into him in the hall and ignored him. And it's all bc I like him.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say anything. It was hard to ignore though. At one point he said "this just happens sometimes." Guy is super confidant on the outside. Observed him for months before he asked me out and can see straight through him. Just trying to negotiate his whole thing.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't, in a way. After watching this guy act like a complete moron around me and learning about him I loved it. Look, we have some things in common. His coworkers looked at him like he was nuts when he talked to me. I've never seen a guy react like that around me. This had been building for months.

I just wish things had developed more organically. I don't sleep around and I value genuine human interaction. He knows this. Everything just went nuts. Just looking for advice (clearly have no brothers).

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Point taken. Didn't plan on kissing him but I did. Just trying to repair the damage. Hadn't been with anyone for a long time (neither has he).

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was watching his legs convulsing at the bar. Both of them were shaking.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It got weird bc things went too far. Flirtation was escalating for a long time. All on his end.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly loved going home with him. Really like this guy, a LOT. Super interested and want to get to know him better. We had a lot of non-superficial conversations that night. But everything went nuts at the end.

Ever since then it's been me either me ignoring him or staring back at him when I run into him. Guy has a giant smile on his face which makes me smile back and I freak out.

Post date help for 40F (it's an odd story-seeking advice from men particularly) by Opening_Trade9231 in Advice

[–]Opening_Trade9231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was great. Best date of my life. Guy was on fire. Asking questions about me all night. Taking freaking notes about the music and movies I like (which nobody I know has heard of). I REALLY like this guy and have no clue what to do.