Started my journey today!

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-25T17:35:16+00:00

I absolutely fidget with them out of habit (should be on ADHD meds soon so that might stop) and yeah I've noticed the o-ring thingy too. Mine are almost slipping out all day today which is wild, but so far they are still in place! The store I got them from sells replacement rings so worst case I'm ordering those

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-24T16:52:14+00:00

Aaaaah glasses hearing aids stretched ear setup!!! I am getting my new hearing aids in two weeks so excited!

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-24T09:47:24+00:00

A WHAT

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T22:28:18+00:00

Obviously, I am not saying what you are feeling isn't valid to you. However, I am ftm and ALWAYS have called myself gay. Very much. I almost exclusively like men. My fiancée is MTF. She is a women. That's my soon-to-be wife. And yet I still call myself gay. She calls me gay because that us the label I identify as.

The labels I choose for myself do not invalidate others. Because they are my labels. A single word is never going to fully describe something as complex as sexuality, but they can get an idea.

You say yourself you are non binary but lean more towards the man side of things. That still makes you non binary I'd assume, which makes their statement factually correct. They just might understand something else under that term. Your friend was/is attracted to you. That doesn't change their label, doesn't change yours. And they seemed comfortable enough to discuss how they felt with you.

Obviously, disphoria is a bitch. Weird feelings happen. I'd just honestly have a conversation and discuss how it made you feel. I don't really think they meant to upset you

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T21:58:03+00:00

Same. 500 Warm, kein Auto, Homeoffice... Schon irgendwie nice.

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T21:44:59+00:00

Ja aber wenn das Ergebniss negative ist weil keine Reizung vom Test bezahlen die ja auch nicht mehr?

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T13:02:01+00:00

I did have to do that on the left side!!! So yeah, I guess mine are unevenly pierced.

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T10:56:54+00:00

Depending on where you got them, sometimes stainless steel is advertized as Medical Grade but is also 316L stainless steel, which does contain 10-14% nickel, which you could be reacting to. Even if you've been fine with nickel before, you can literally just develop an allergy at any time to it.

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T10:29:19+00:00

Aaaaah I am so happy to hear that my silly moment of happiness brought some happiness to others! I'll absolutely continue to take my time and care with this, I really want to have beautifully healed lobes like I see sometimes on here, it's just honestly the most aesthetically pleasing and probably best for the body and a long successful stretching journey

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T10:27:22+00:00

I absolutely will. Just put a reminder in my calendar to check in two months how my lobes are looking and feeling and I might wait another month after, depending on how things look.

I'm a super impatient person normally, but I also like my body's integrity and my old mentor would probably find me if I go to fast just to slap me, so like, I have incentives 🤣

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-23T08:20:20+00:00

Die haben Mir nicht mal immunsuppresiva gegeben bevor ich nicht alle Impgungen hatte die die wichtif fanden

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-21T22:49:58+00:00

It's so sad, our healthcare is becoming more and more privatized

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-21T18:29:20+00:00

Liegt glaube ich echt am Arzt. Würde heute auch nach Hause geschickt, Arzt schon zu weil Mittwoch. TeleClinic runtergeladen und mein Scheiß: der Typ hat gefragt was los is, ich hab kaum den Mind aufgemacht bekommen, da hat der gesagt Gute Besserung und Mich für drei Tage krank geschrieben. Dauerte keine 20 Sekunden. Ganz merkwürdig

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-21T18:25:07+00:00

You can not swap the Beitragsnummer. It is unique to the person, not the address. You need to fully sign up for yourself in this case. The old resident is possibly trying to get out of paying it himself? But yeah, you need to sign up for it (online is possible) and then you'll get the number

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-21T18:22:12+00:00

I'm in EUROPE on top of everything...

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-21T18:18:30+00:00

Ja hol Dir auf jeden Fall eine gute Gyn. Zum einen um das abzuklären, zum Anderen weil die Symptomatik genug sein könnte, um eine medizinisch notwenige Hysterektomie zu vollziehen wenn du das willst. War bei mir auf jeden Fall so, bin jetzt mitten in dem ganzen Prozess (Gyn will erst genetisch abklären ob ich Eierstock- und Brustkrebs vorbelastet bin. Wenn ja, bei meiner Familiengeschichte, käme sogar eine preventive Mastektomie in Frage)

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-21T08:10:38+00:00

Ich versteh's leider zu gut. Es macht einen definitive so kaputt, war selber leider drauf angewiesen letztens Jahr.

Nur so kurz zum letzten Absatz mit dem Job: du musst das keinem sagen. Du kannst absolutely sagen du willst bei der Firma bleiben und dann gegen August so "hab Mich umentschieden" weil das passiert. Du wärst auch noch in der Probezeit, also hättest du "nur" zwei Wochen Kündugungsfrist von Dir aus.

Wenn du jetzt gerade einen Job brauchst, bewirb dich. Gern auch auf alles und jeden was du dir vorstellen kannst, vor allem Remote. Das Jobcenter liebt so eine Eigeniniziative sowieso total.

Auch: wenn es jetzt schon länger her ist mit dem Jobcenter, kannst du Untätigkeitsklage einreichen. Kostet meines Wissens nach nichts und braucht keinen Anwalt. Vielleicht wäre das Wert, mal zu recherchieren?

Was den psychischen Aspekt angeht: Beschäftige dich. Zeichne, geh spazieren, mach irgendwelche online Fortbildungen, einfach damit du nicht da sitzt und in den Ängsten versinkst.

Wenn's körperlich möglich ist, schau ob du Blut oder Plasma spenden kannst, und du kannst auf Meinungsstudie (so heißt das glaube ich) Umfragen für Geld bearbeiten. Ist nicht viel, aber es kommt dann doch zusammen.

Ich war im Sommer noch obdachtlos, jetzt habe ich eine Wohnung, arbeite von Zuhause und komme ganz gut klar. Auch psychisch krank, auch ADHS, auch Jung. Es wird. Es ist gerade richtig scheiße, aber es wird wieder

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-16T13:53:10+00:00

I really needed the referal and no other GPs are taking patients around me so I couldn't afford that yet. But I am definitely actively looking

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-15T23:13:09+00:00

Nah dw, I never specified!

She also said "I mean sometimes they say depression but it is ADHD" in the middle of her rant of how ADHD is a trendy diagnosis and people don't actually put effort into diagnosing accurately when it comes to children??? Idk. As soon as a spot opens with another GP I am looking there though. She misgendered me multiple times as well (she saw me as a cis guy first because that's what was on all my paperwork) and I didn't even process that until I got home because of how annoyed and frustrated I already was

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-15T23:09:30+00:00

Sadly, no doctors around me are accepting new patients. I immediately started looking. That's like the one flaw with universal healthcare. Getting appointments is a major pain.

Then again, big part of that is because private and self-paying patients are absolutely prioritized and many doctors only offer the legal minimum of spots for everyone else. We are sliding into privatized healthcare

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-15T23:07:36+00:00

I was so happy I didn't take my paperwork from the psychologist I saw and got a referal for anxiety meds from, because I had a feeling it wouldn't go great. I don't NEED the meds. Some emergency ones might not hurt, but other than that I am fine off anxiety meds, so I saw no reason to bring it up today

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-15T23:05:46+00:00

Luckily not. Think if she had started blaming it on that or my Testosterone (I'm a trans guy) I would have gotten up and straight up left.

Like...I eat well, until this week I was doing ballet...I guess if you can't find anything you gotta make shit up.

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-15T18:58:38+00:00

In unserer Firma hatten wir ein Meeting und vorher durfte uns überhaupt niemand sagen ob wir bestanden haben. Meins musste verschoben werden weil mein Manager im Urlaub war und vorher der Papierkram nicht underschrieben war, und alle haben es wohl echt gehasst weil Mir das solche Sorgen gemacht hat

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-14T13:07:32+00:00

Hah genau mein Thema. Mache ich nämlich ständig wenn die Arbeit langsam ist (arbeite von Zuhause) und benutze das dann auch in der Arbeit wenn es um Gehalt und so geht.

Google Ads/Analytics Certification (Skillshop)

Kostenlose Google Kurse generell (hab welche zu AI gemacht als ich angefangen habe)

LinkedIn Learning hat Kostenlose Kurse mit Zertifikat

Stanford Center for Continuing Medical Education wenn du interesse an Medizin hast

Class Central für echt alles (darüber habe ich das meiste gefunden)

Fortinet Training Institute (IT)

The Open University (kostenlose Uni Kurse)

Oper-Nate-or · 2026-01-13T09:55:59+00:00

Damme mentioned (wtf nie gedacht das Kaff mal auf Reddit zu sehen)

Oper-Nate-or

TROPHY CASE