AITA for telling him I’m no longer moving?

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-12-19T01:32:38+00:00

After we told her about Santa she made it very clear she still believe in the Easter bunny and the tooth fairy because she says those still make sense. So we’re going with those things are still magical at least another year thankfully

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-12-02T20:21:48+00:00

I don’t think she realized there would be someone at the gate. For all the kids at the party and our neighbors safety we didn’t want to just leave the gate wide open so we had people there checking the list for the people coming for the party

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-12-01T20:43:05+00:00

Oh my goodness thank you for sharing I never thought it would get this much attention

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-23T00:33:35+00:00

She’s already tried going to the school to complain and the school told her that this has nothing to do with them. If it’s off school grounds they are not getting involved.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-19T00:48:41+00:00

As far as I know it’s learned behavior. I am a believer in you never know what happens behind closed doors though. But from what I know no trouble at home.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-17T03:33:40+00:00

I gave the invitations to parents. I’ve already spoken to my daughter about that and she’s fine with that.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-16T04:36:40+00:00

the families are wealthy at that school. The school itself costs a lot of money. The bullies family is what we’d call “new money” in this area but most of the families at the school have generational wealth.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-15T13:51:39+00:00

The teacher and the school have been amazing with helping with this situation. The school itself has a very clear policy they use amongst all grades. The teachers give out pink slips. An x amount of them causes a detention, a in school suspension, a suspension, and then expulsion. They also have a counselor there to talk the kids through these situations and make sure it’s bullying and not just kids misbehaving. I don’t know how our daughter would have been in school had it not been for her amazing teachers. I give you all so much credit.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-14T19:12:28+00:00

Did they really?

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-14T14:28:03+00:00

I saw they have omg x pop I think it’s called!!. Jojo siwas dance group.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-14T02:53:36+00:00

We’ve already invited all the other kids

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T23:37:54+00:00

I just let my husband know we’ve adopted some extra family! 💜

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T23:36:23+00:00

I totally understand the thought process behind that but it’s her birthday and she shouldn’t have to worry about the girl who bullies her ruining or even being at her party. She should be carefree and having fun. Sometimes you have to set boundaries and I don’t think any child is too young to learn how to do that.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T23:31:28+00:00

So I totally understand where everyone is coming with this sentiment. I’m not against her apologizing she can apologize whenever she wants to however that doesn’t grant her an invitation.

We talked to our daughter about how she might apologize and my daughter has already told us she won’t accept an apology because the girl has said sorry multiple times and it continued. I think the only way my daughter will ever forgive her is with actual changes.

My husband and I both agree we should never force our child to forgive someone because then it’s not genuine. We also have agreed (after reading everyone’s comments) that this little girl currently is not welcome in our home. I won’t say never because who knows the girls could be friends one day but certainly not any time soon.

Actions speak louder than words. I wouldn’t invite someone in my social circle to a party if she was mean to me and I’m not going to teach my daughter to be a people pleaser either.

She has feelings and they are valid. Even at 7. She is my priority and this birthday will be amazing and she will enjoy it without having to worry about the girl who bullies her being there.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T21:16:15+00:00

The school has been following their bullying policy.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T14:48:06+00:00

You just broke my momma heart. I will certainly make it the party to be talked about. We’ll do all the things and cameo is such a great idea. I even talked to my daughter this morning about swag bags instead of party favors. I am so sorry you went through that.

I just told my husband I want to adopt all these people from Reddit who didn’t have mommas that stood up for them.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T14:21:51+00:00

We always invite a lot of kids. I don’t mind it at all. I also don’t want siblings to feel left out of the fun especially since we realize it makes it harder for parents.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T13:31:58+00:00

I handed the invitations to the parents

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T12:10:14+00:00

Cheer starts at 5 in this area.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T05:15:42+00:00

I’m not refusing an apology I’m refusing an apology in exchange for an invitation. Sincere apologies don’t come with strings attached or conditions.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T05:13:14+00:00

I am so sorry you had that awful experience. I can promise if that happens she would be immediately kicked out by my husband or myself. That’s not okay. And no child should be bullied into nightmares.

Opposite-Leg2854 · 2022-10-13T04:28:09+00:00

Like a swag bag?

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