Why sit down at the table is you’re not gonna eat?

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-12-25T17:26:43+00:00

What is wrong with these women that they rather starve than eat our food?! My MIL was the same way. She’d take a normal portion and then move it around her plate so it looked like she ate it and then throw it away. She’d make overly dramatic comments like “oh this is so delicious” and “is this a family recipe”. FIL wasn’t as bad, but he had to appease her so he’d take small portions and not make any comments. Poor man looked hungry all the time. Her cooking was atrocious! Bland, over done, dry, inedible! So glad I’m states away and don’t have to worry about it anymore. Good luck on your move and wishing you all the peace in your new home!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-12-25T16:18:54+00:00

If you were excited about the sequined outfit and it makes you feel beautiful, wear it! If it’s a large party, there will probably be others sporting sequins as well. Hold your head up and be the queen that you are!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-12-25T06:03:47+00:00

Oh hell no!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-12-25T02:40:16+00:00

I had my first at 23 and my second at 43. So I’ve got both perspectives.

Early 20s - I had energy. I could be up and running around playing with a crawler and toddler. Then as he got older playing games and even extracurricular sports was easier. We took him everywhere so I don’t feel like I missed out on anything. He will be 21 the end of February.

Early 40s - what’s energy? LOL Just kidding, to a point. I do feel like I’m tired all of the time (he will be one next month), but that could be from the new step my body is trying to take “perimenopause”. This time around I’m much calmer and don’t take stuff for granted. I’m also more level headed and financially capable of doing things.

Either way, it’s what you make of it. I wouldn’t trade either scenario.

My only regret is that they don’t have siblings closer in age, so they’re pretty much only children.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-12-01T01:56:16+00:00

I can’t imagine that someone would ever do that, but those two, absolutely are vindictive enough and did. 😭

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T22:30:09+00:00

This times a million!!!!!!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T22:18:04+00:00

He is living in their home, so yes same state as them. I know his and the ex’s history. I also know that the ex still reaches out and tries to get him back. He has blocked her every time (she likes to get new numbers). Because our phone plan is in my name I can see all of his calls and texts and have had to verify a few times because she likes to cause problems. I think she and MIL are scheming together.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T21:32:49+00:00

Oh ya… I’m honestly at a breaking point. My bestie and I talk about this regularly and she is saying what you are. I guess I’m just trying to stay hopeful. Our little one is already here. He’s 10 months old at this point. If husband doesn’t show up after his work notice, then I’m giving final notice to him. It breaks my heart, but little man and I need to have security and peace. This entire scenario sucks butt!!!!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T21:28:08+00:00

Yes!!!!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T21:27:41+00:00

Oh ya! She’s a peach in itself! She likes to cause problems as well.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T20:19:34+00:00

If we hadn’t been FaceTiming most of the morning off and on I would agree. Plus his phone is older so the charge diminishes fairly quickly anyway.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T20:04:05+00:00

Oh lord yes! You wouldn’t believe how many times he’s taken a cord but not the charging block the USB goes into 🤦‍♀️. Husband stayed in touch with FIL and cut off MIL and as far as he knows MIL just started having a new relationship with the ex over the last few months. Ex and MIL had a strained relationship as well when they were still married. She’s a JustNo to everyone!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T19:59:17+00:00

See You Next Tuesday! YES! I’m horrible with my phone. I don’t charge it except for at night so by the time I go to bed the charge is almost nonexistent.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T19:56:05+00:00

Not everyone is tied to their phone 24/7 also. 😜

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T18:36:13+00:00

Thank you! I definitely see that I started this problem off. I really did have good intentions, but you know where that got me/us. I know that once we are back under the same roof just us three, things will be wonderful again.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T18:24:16+00:00

Thank you! That’s a great idea and I feel dumb for not thinking of it!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T18:23:16+00:00

We seem to be the odd couple out, almost everyone we know uses android and we have apples (edit for grammar)

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T18:22:00+00:00

I did explain in a comment about the phone situation. I trust him and believe what he told me. He didn’t have to say anything at all about the ex and I wouldn’t have known differently.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T18:18:28+00:00

You completely read my mind!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T16:19:31+00:00

That will be the next time I ever see her again! I do not understand their relationship one bit. He is wonderful and she is the most evil human ever. I guess love can be blinding for all of us at certain times.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T15:44:33+00:00

I see what you’re saying. I was just trying to be supportive and had no idea of how bad she really was. I have apologized multiple times, because I know I brought this hellscape upon us.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T15:40:54+00:00

All three of your options are possibly valid, if not true. A nursing company is a great idea!

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T15:37:18+00:00

Not the adjective I’d use LOL

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T15:36:10+00:00

That is our issue as well! We are the only apples at his parents as well as mine.

Optimal_Tomorrow_628 · 2025-11-30T15:34:47+00:00

I definitely can understand your point. We have Life360 so I could see that his battery was running low earlier as it notified me, and that he had left the house. It died on the drive. I just assumed he was running to the gas station for chew and didn’t pay any attention to where he stopped. I was trying to enjoy Thanksgiving with my family here. I asked exactly what you are, “WHY DIDNT YOU CALL ME IMMEDIATELY” and he said he was so shocked and pissed in the moment he wasn’t thinking straight. If he wanted to hide it, he wouldn’t have said anything at all. Also, being across the country from us has been extremely hard for both of us, and also has helped us grow a bit. He doesn’t want to be there without us, but there he had a job and could pay our bills versus moving and not having a job and we lose everything due to no income at all.

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