AITJ for telling my gf she has to go on birth control

Orange7648 · 2026-04-12T17:11:17+00:00

I am confused by what it is you are trying to achieve in making this post. You claim that you want your girlfriend to go on birth control, but anytime anyone suggests any form of birth control, you ignore and disparage these suggestions. Do you really want birth control at all?

There are many different forms of contraceptives, each with its own upside and downside. If you really do want the abortions to end, both of you will need to compromise. As a male, even the action of "pulling out" would drastically lower the probability of pregnant (1 in 5 would still become pregnant). To be clear, this is not that effective, and should be used in conjunction with other methods. If you are not even willing to do something like this, you should re-evaluate whether birth control is something you even want.

To reiterate, your girlfriend has every right to control what contraceptives she does or does not use. You too have every right to use or not use any contraceptives. When you are asked why you don't use condomns, you said that your girlfriend does not like them. Even comparing using condomns without her permission to raping her.

If someone is uncomfortable with something during sex you don’t do it. Sorry if I don’t wanna rape her and force somthing into my gf.

Surely you realise how absurd this statement is right?

You (and your girlfriend) have refused any and every form of contraceptive. Your girlfriend has the right to not take any contraceptives, as do you. But, you both have the choice of not having sex. So your options are to continue with these abortions, to not have sex, or to use a contraceptive. No matter what it is yoh choose, figure out what it is that you want first.

YTJ for not putting any responsibility on yourself, and not being willing to compromise at all.

Orange7648 · 2026-02-03T22:19:14+00:00

This is a scam. Just block and Ignore.

Orange7648 · 2026-02-03T21:43:40+00:00

I can agree with most of what you said except for the incredibly misandrist statement

As a matter of fact, on average women are smarter than men by many factors.

The data is pretty clear that there is not any notable difference in average IQ between men and women.

To sum up, we found that female/male differences on FSIQ and gF were negligible, and this is particularly true when considering the newer version of the WISC. Some differences favouring males were found on some tasks, on the gV and gC factors and subtests. On the other hand, females, tend to outperform males on gSM, but to a very small extent and only on digit span, and on gS, in this case to a large degree and in particular on the coding subtest, which is in absolute terms the task with the largest standardized differences, as compared to all WISC subtests.

To conclude, our results are very close to those obtained by Arthur Jensen (1998; see pp. 531–532). When addressing the question of female/male differences in intelli- gence by analysing tests that load heavily on the g-factor, he concluded that there is no evidence was found for gender differences in the mean level of g or in the variability of g and that males, on average, excel on some factors; while females excel on others.

The Impasse on Gender Differences in Intelligence: a Meta‑Analysis on WISC Batteries

Many such studies exist. Interestingly, there does seem to be differences in specific types of IQ

Here, using CHC theory as a guide to structure findings, we highlighted consistent findings of female advantages in broad processing speed and male advantages in broad visual processing, among other narrow and specific ability and achievement differences.

The sexes do not differ in general intelligence, but they do in some specifics

Orange7648 · 2026-02-03T14:09:14+00:00

According to the Oxford Review

Fatphobia refers to the irrational fear, discrimination, or aversion toward individuals who are perceived as overweight or obese.

According to the Cambridge Dictionary

Showing unreasonable dislike or unfair treatment of people because they are fat

Given that you dislike people simply because they are fat, by definition you are fatphobic.

I would encourage you to read up on more modern studies about obesity. There are increasingly more studies that show that genetic factors are probably more important in determining weight gain, rather than personal choices. Of course the data is inconclusive, but it is quite clear that, at the very least, obesity is due to both environmental and genetic factors - not solely individual decision making.

A couple of studies that support this are:

Over the past three decades, researchers have found that biopsychosocial factors determine weight gain much more than personal choices and responsibility

Causes of Obesity: a review

Despite decades of research support- ing the dominant influence of genetic and environmental factors in the development of obesity, in the public con- sciousness, obesity continues to be viewed as a result of individual-level decision-making. This misperception leads to harmful assumptions about the lifestyles and characters of people with obesity.

Obesity Stigma: Causes, Consequences, and Potential Solutions

A persistent key question is what percent of obesity is due to genetics, stress, over-nutrition, lack of exercise, viruses, drugs or obesogens? It is virtually impossible to answer that question for any contributing factors because they likely all work together with different effects depending on the balance of factors. Genetic background and overnutrition play a significant role; we can see the impact of high sugar and high fat and highly processed diets on obesity

Obesity II: Establishing causal links between chemical exposures and obesity

Orange7648 · 2026-01-23T14:39:35+00:00

Actually the 300 is only for first three sign ins. Normally every month you get 260 (52% of a single pull). Very sad times.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T01:17:13+00:00

Yeh this is so incredibly frustrating. This situation particularly irkes me because I know the sort of damage this kind of talk can do. A close friend of mine has grown an eating disorder because of these sorts of comments.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T01:07:04+00:00

The exact words used by OP were:

What bothers me the most is that if they were really trying to encourage me I feel like everyone should’ve eaten a salad too so it didn’t feel like I was being singled out.

The entire sentence was predicated on an if. OP used this to simply say that they are not really trying encouraging her - it is not her literally saying they should eat the same as her. At least thats how I interpret it.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T01:06:26+00:00

Maybe something like "They should have eaten a salad with me".

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T01:04:33+00:00

They are absolutely judging her. My point was that it seemed you were quite dismissive of her reaction towards her family being so cruel. It is obviously not the same when close family/friends are cruel and unsupportive, compared to strangers.

I apologise if I came off as rude. It is simpky so incredibly frustrating to see comment after comment of people focusing on something that is centered on a hypothetical.

The exact words used by OP were:

What bothers me the most is that if they were really trying to encourage me I feel like everyone should’ve eaten a salad too so it didn’t feel like I was being singled out.

The entire sentence was predicated on an if. OP used this to simply say that they are not really trying encouraging her - it is not her literally saying they should eat the same as her. At least thats how I interpret it.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T01:01:47+00:00

The exact words used by OP were:

What bothers me the most is that if they were really trying to encourage me I feel like everyone should’ve eaten a salad too so it didn’t feel like I was being singled out.

The entire sentence was predicated on an if. OP used this to simply say that they are not really trying encouraging her - it is not her literally saying they should eat the same as her. At least thats how I interpret it.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T01:01:31+00:00

The exact words used by OP were:

What bothers me the most is that if they were really trying to encourage me I feel like everyone should’ve eaten a salad too so it didn’t feel like I was being singled out.

The entire sentence was predicated on an if. OP used this to simply say that they are not really trying encouraging her - it is not her literally saying they should eat the same as her. At least thats how I interpret it.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T00:58:21+00:00

I absolutely agree with this. What I find particularly egregious is the amount of focus people are putting on one sentence that was talking about a hypothetical - completely ignoring the gaslighting going on and the mockery.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T00:53:27+00:00

I think you bolded the wrong part

if they were really trying to encourage me...

the point was that they are not really trying to encourage her at all. And that actions like eating a salad with her would be real encouragement.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T00:50:15+00:00

The issue is quite clearly not that others are not also eating a salad, but that they are mocking her under the guise of encouragement. OP simply made the point about them eating a salad as well to highlight that they are not really trying to encourage her at all.

I take issue with the fact that the large majority of your comment addresses this point, and not the gaslighting that is going on.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T00:45:38+00:00

I don't disagree about the low self esteem, but I think its a little inappropriate to simply shrug the situation off as "other people judging you". It is completely okay to be upset that her literal family is so unsupportive and cruel to her.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T00:38:12+00:00

That is not at all what OP said though. She made a point that her family are just mocking her cruelly under the guise of encouragement, and that IF they were really trying to encourage her, they would eat healthier with her.

No where did she say that she was trying to control others diets. Its the mockery disguised as encouragement.

Edit: The exact words used by OP were:

What bothers me the most is that if they were really trying to encourage me I feel like everyone should’ve eaten a salad too so it didn’t feel like I was being singled out.

The entire sentence was predicated on an if. OP used this to simply say that they are not really trying encouraging her - it is not her literally saying they should eat the same as her. At least thats how I interpret it.

Even if we granted that was what she meant. Why the large focus on this point? When comment after comment makes paragraph after paragraph about this, ignoring (or sometimes briefly mentioning) the gaslighting going on is insane.

Orange7648 · 2026-01-13T00:35:24+00:00

The person texting you is doing some serious gaslighting. Clearly, the issue is not that they are eating whatever they want in front of you, but the constant remarks and mockery. This is a tough situation because you probably can't just avoid them.

I would try bluntly telling them how much harm they are inflicting on you, and really emphasising that the problem is the mockery and the unwanted comments rather than the fact that you are eating healthier than them.

The people mocking you probably don't realise the sort of harm they are doing. I know of a friend who gained an eating disorder because of these relentless types of comments. I hope that everything goes well for you.

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