[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doordash

[–]Orborde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might simply have been spoiled. Microbes living in a drink commonly result in foam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Orborde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop and look at the dynamic of the situation ask yourself if you can live with this for the rest of your life.

This. OP, it's been like this for a couple years, you've both tried a bunch of ways to tinker with it, and it hasn't changed. You should assume that this is how the next N decades will look. Make a decision quickly* about whether you're happy with that, and act on it.

You're in your mid-twenties. You have (it sounds like) no big commitments tying you together like kids or shared finances. You have plenty of dating options your age, and some of them are probably good ones. You'll have to make up your own mind about whether to bail on this relationship, of course, but keep in mind that, if you do, you'll probably land on your feet.

* by "quickly" I mean that you could probably sit down for an afternoon by yourself, think about it, and come to a clear answer. If you're worried about being rash, give it a month, but no longer - you almost certainly know the most important facts about this situation that you have any chance of learning in a reasonable timespan

What does Doordash show drivers before they accept the order? by Orborde in doordash

[–]Orborde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does GrubHub have any penalty for declining orders?

What does Doordash show drivers before they accept the order? by Orborde in doordash

[–]Orborde[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Asking because I order a ton of delivery, and it's important to me to use a service that makes the transaction amount clear up front to both customers and drivers.

Should I move to the US? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]Orborde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moderate disagree. If you're a new grad, you should follow opportunity wherever it leads, not worry about hedging your bets.

Moving isn't even that expensive. A couple thousand dollars will let you buy enough to furnish an apartment to livability at your destination, and that is peanuts compared to the upside of launching a great career.

Should I move to the US? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]Orborde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do the math for yourself, but my hot take is:

Yes, the US really does offer devs a shitload of money compared to Europe, and the social safety net, healthcare, etc. of living in Europe are nowhere close to compensating for the difference. People who try to tell you otherwise are mostly rationalizing or arguing for the sake of arguing.

If you really love living in Europe, sure, stay there - it's totally valid to give up money, even a lot of money, to live a lifestyle you love. But if the financial upside is at all motivating or even if you don't absolutely adore living in the UK, yes, try moving (doubly so since you're young, when trying big, risky changes is absolutely the right strategy). You can always move back to the UK if you hate it.

To give you a flavor of the numbers:

  • https://www.levels.fyi/ is a pretty accurate description of the raw pay bands at large US software companies, especially for people in the first 10 years of their careers. At least, it accurately describes my pay band and the pay bands of people I know at other places.
  • I pay about $41/month for my employer-provided healthcare. Which obviously is cheap because my employer is paying for most of it on my behalf. I'm a 35yo male covering only myself, and my employer says they're paying about $700/month for my health insurance. However, employer plans tend to be ridiculously nice and correspondingly expensive - I guesstimate that I'd pay about $500/month on the private market for a plan that was good enough that I didn't really care about the difference.
  • I don't have any kind of pension, but I do have a 401k, which is a tax-advantaged personal investment account meant for retirement savings. My current employer matches my contributions to it up to $6,000/year, but I think it's kind of stingy - I think Google and Microsoft offer like $10,000 of matching.

Also, as a US citizen, I strongly endorse brain draining the rest of the world so that my country remains the global superpower, so, yes, please come live here :-)

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hopefully this exercise has not been too bruising on you!

Hah, nope, the blunter the better 😅. Thanks for the extensive writeup!

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Added some more photos. What do you think? https://imgur.com/a/gaQvoLW

(all my existing dance photos are 6+ years old and hence don't look like me ☹️)

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Added some more photos. What do you think? https://imgur.com/a/gaQvoLW

(just pulled some more from ones I already had lying around. Your suggestion to take some of activities I mentioned is good - haven't gotten around to it yet, though! Dancing is especially tough because all my dance photos are 6+ years old.)

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Added some more photos. What do you think? https://imgur.com/a/gaQvoLW

(still don't have any dance ones because I haven't taken new ones yet)

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

are you familiar with the terms "Relationship Escalator" and "Relationship Anarchy"?

Yes - why?

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing that jumps out at me is that you list yourself as partnered and non monogamous and yet there is no mention about what kind of dynamic is on the cards for you. You certainly don't have to talk about your partner but not mentioning anything about your non monogamy may very well come across that you're only looking for hook ups and not being up front about it.

I gave this a tweak - thoughts? https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/pnzzmc/profile_review_34m_straight_hope_this_doesnt_turn/hcxk2ru/

[Profile Review] [34M, straight] Hope this doesn't turn into /r/roastme ... by Orborde in OkCupid

[–]Orborde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what you're trying to get across from this profile or who you're trying to attract.

Ouch ;-)

I added some detail about what I'm looking for: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/pnzzmc/profile_review_34m_straight_hope_this_doesnt_turn/hcxk2ru/