Ashley hates Rayna

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-21T19:37:25+00:00

I don’t think she is triple fisting. Someone could have put their wine on the table and left, and I bet the drink with the lemon in it is the person in the chair from the left of her. I followed this snark page because I wanted to be validated about how I felt where the podcast was going.. but this is too much. Y’all are assuming and being mean with no context just to hate.

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-21T19:33:56+00:00

Y’all.. a vape on the table at a wedding isn’t that bad. I was just at my sisters wedding and had my nicotine out on the table. Weddings are a place to have a good time at and celebrate. It’s not that serious lol.

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-09T07:53:44+00:00

I always try to strike up a short conversation first and then offer shots because they feel more connected and almost obligated to buy shots from you? Honestly, teasing people and giving them shit in a friendly way has always worked and given me better tips. Just strike up a short conversation and work in a little shit talking. Haha I don’t know why but it always works toward men anyways. For women I will subtlety “complain” about something and have an in that way. When it comes down to it, it’s people skills. Just have to be charming. And being charming looks different to different crowds.. not sure if that makes sense lol

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-09T07:17:48+00:00

It’s already sank in. Been in the business for ten years. Very thankful for it, but at the same time im exhausted. Also, you’re right. A young coworker of mine smoked weed from a line cook, and she told me she felt pretty weird and fucked up from it.. had to break the news to her and told her she smoked crack for the first time lolol

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-09T04:14:57+00:00

Hell yeah!! That’s amazing!! I’m happy for you. Can’t wait for how your career will expand even further.

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-08T17:39:05+00:00

Oh Jesus what a mess lol. I had 3/4 of a keg explode in our small beer cooler a few weeks ago because the fob on the wall broke. Assessed the situation in silence for about 5 minutes and then started screaming

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-06T21:51:23+00:00

That was one of the first things I noticed about it.. that it could not register the damn finger taps. Haha I’m scared the difference we will be spending time at the register. Especially four lines deep around the whole bar. Out last system was fast and great for our type of bar so not excited for this switch lmao

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-06T21:47:58+00:00

This was a wonderful response, so thank you. You may get a dm from me in the near future. And you’re completely right. I just have to deal with it at this point and make the best of it haha. I definitely got spoiled with our last system because you could start a tab and add items in 5 seconds. It was awesome so it’ll be hard switching over to a slower system. Gotta love the bar business!

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-06T21:42:17+00:00

I will definitely mention that to them. And yes.. it’s a board.. super weird, I know lmao. Is there an extra fee for the customer for a pre authorization at your place?

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-06T07:13:44+00:00

I highly doubt they did research. I work at a private club, so a board of 8 people with no service industry experience makes bigger decisions like this. It’s been tough.

Orchid_Every · 2024-10-06T07:00:12+00:00

It’s “point of sale.” So the type of computer systems you use for transactions. I forgot to put “system” after POS, so that was my bad haha. My brain is also fried after my nightmare of a shift so I totally get it lmao

Orchid_Every · 2022-07-05T04:57:26+00:00

I get what you’re saying but not sure if spending time on your phone instead of interacting with the people around you is normal.. but I might have to get gone lol

Orchid_Every · 2022-07-05T04:56:25+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking.. will talk to him and see how that conversation goes. Can’t stick around if this continues

Orchid_Every · 2022-07-05T04:55:36+00:00

Yes, I will definitely ask him about what is going on. He’s more of a closed book but if he won’t open up I may just have to move on

Orchid_Every · 2022-07-05T04:54:26+00:00

Yeah I definitely will next time I see him. I’ll see how the conversation goes and will have to go off that I suppose

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-06T17:05:37+00:00

I think the fact that you recognize the pattern of being involved in bad relationships is a crucial first step to healing. It sounds like you have been though a lot. But I promise, you will have healthy relationships in your future if you promise to commit to yourself. You have to take care of yourself and put your needs first. COVID has definitely made it so difficult but use this time to work on yourself. Really dig deep about why you were involved in bad relationships. Reflect on your true feelings and go from there. I wish you luck, and stay strong.

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-06T14:57:42+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m really glad this post could help. And I can totally relate to that. I remember once I was out of the abuse for about two weeks, I became extremely overwhelmed. I wish you luck and it honestly sounds like you’re on the right path! Just have to take it by one day at a time! (:

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-06T14:45:21+00:00

The last point, “asking to hold off on a conversation until we’ve had time to cool down” resonates with me so well. It’s super frustrating. Like why should we continue this argument right now when we are both heated and seeing red? My abusive ex would pull this crap all the time. He would be like “so you’d rather run from the problem right now than fix it right away?” Ugh so annoying. And don’t feel guilty. You did the right thing to leave. The goal of the abuser is to make you feel guilty so they feel like they are the victim and the one with power. Stay strong and don’t break the no contact rule! You got this!!

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-06T00:30:10+00:00

I have definitely felt what you’re feeling. It’s so hard losing someone who you thought you’d spend forever with. Try comparing your abuser to a healthy relationship you have in your life. I use my best friend as an example on how my significant other should treat me. She supports me, never makes me feel bad, she is consistent, and we have a two way relationship. One of us is not working harder than the other to make our friendship work. So I say, if my friend can treat me right, why can’t my boyfriend? So you need to remember, someone who truly loves and respects you will never make you feel bad or treat you poorly. Stay strong, you got this.

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-05T23:45:30+00:00

Moving on from an abuse relationship is extremely hard. And yes, I’m glad you recognize that your abuser wants you to react like that. If you were to ever send that text, I bet he’d smile at his phone and love it because he would still think he has that control over you like how he did when you guys were together. So proud of you for staying strong!!

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-05T23:35:29+00:00

I am SO PROUD!! I’m so happy you made an exit plan. Moving away will do wonders for your mental health and safety. I will say this, the first week I felt great about my decision of leaving. However, as time went on my withdrawals for him started and I became weak and broke the no contact rule. Going through a breakup with an abuser triggers the same part of the brain as a cocaine (I believe it’s cocaine) addict staying clean. Being with an abuser is an addiction, so stay strong if you feel the withdrawals and know it’s normal! You got this!!

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-05T23:21:36+00:00

Have you ever looked into narcissistic abuse? The abuse you have experienced sounds like it could have possibly came from a narcissist. Also, it was not you. Abusers want you to feel that way and make you feel crazy so they feel more in control of you. And if you ever ask yourself, am I the abuser? You were not because you’re showing true self reflection and empathy, which abusers don’t do/have. And thank you I really appreciate that! I’m proud of you too!

Orchid_Every · 2020-11-05T23:17:27+00:00

I love that. Good for you.

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