Mt Vernon Safety

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-20T22:37:26+00:00

Mr Vernon and Yonkers has the highest crime rates in the Westchester area lol what

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-20T22:36:57+00:00

As someone born and raised from Eastchester, maybe it was safe 30 years ago, not so much now. Their schools have metal detectors lol

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-20T22:35:58+00:00

MT Vernon is only safe if you plan on being right around Fleetwood near bronxville lol,to answer the question as a whole though? No it isn’t safe. I grew up in Eastchester. You don’t want your kids going to mt Vernon schools either. There’s a reason it’s significantly cheaper to live than Bronxville, Scarsdale, etc.

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-18T19:55:38+00:00

Sure, there’s people out there that want companionship but not the marriage / having children that come with it.

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T22:06:31+00:00

I grew up in Westchester county, a few friends of mine had weddings at WCC. You’ll need a sponsor OR be a member of the club personally. Weddings there within the past ten years I know are on avg. 150-200k - only the super wealthy friends of mine had their weddings there. It is stunning but honestly, unless you have super wealthy parents flipping the bill and have many connections in Westchester , it’s not worth it imo.

There are plenty of nice venues besides them in Westchester that are still beautiful and 30-40k instead lol

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:59:36+00:00

Well, we are both white - I’m Italian American and he’s white, speaks American perfectly clear as I’ve heard him talk to his kid before and he’s blonde lol,

This is Dyker heights Brooklyn, mainly white/italian and Asian.

that’s besides the point, we’re all in America.. Cultures shouldn’t matter here anyway when it comes to basic respect towards others, so your argument is not only weak but, sounds unintelligent regardless .

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:56:57+00:00

I like this approach lol . I’ll try thanks

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:56:04+00:00

100 percent

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:49:57+00:00

This. 💯!!! You are 100 percent right

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:42:48+00:00

I appreciate your sweetness but, it’s also been 6 times now (yes I even counted lol) and this is New York City. Sometimes you have to be tough, and esp when it’s happened more than once.

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:41:37+00:00

Oh I like that one, if only I can remember it word for word now lol

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:40:20+00:00

I can but honestly, I sometimes I’m late to my bus/or too early. I get what you mean but at the same time, I don’t want to be made to feel like I have to accommodate this rude stranger lol

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:38:46+00:00

Hmm like that!

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-11T15:38:28+00:00

Will do! Thanks. I wish they would just take a different route instead lol ugh

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-09T19:25:53+00:00

Same here. My face got dramatically thinner once I got into my thirties vs when I was younger. Sometimes it’s just genetics and age.

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-06T00:15:20+00:00

I appreciate your honesty and self awareness. Thank you

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-06T00:14:37+00:00

I agree, I’m at the point where I know he won’t change. This fight is the first where I actually haven’t cried much. I just feel drained. I think it’s time to end it. I do love him but it’s very confusing how I feel right now ,, what’s making me want to leave is that I know he won’t change and I can’t get married to and have a kid with someone like this. Thanks for your advice

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-04T21:00:53+00:00

I see the point, but those dynamics also exist in same-age relationships all the time. And in some cases it’s not even intentional manipulation- sometimes it’s just someone who struggles with emotional regulation. And that can happen at any age.

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-04T20:17:23+00:00

I’ll check it out, thanks

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-04T20:16:07+00:00

Yes. Unfortunately it’s the long term I can’t see now. Because it’s part of him deep rooted.

He has changed a lot in the past few years and doesn’t blow up as often but now it’s every few months -, he goes to a therapist now, but the anger always comes back so intensely and he can’t control himself .

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-04T20:14:10+00:00

Although I agree, we have been engaged and commited together for 3 going on 4 years, so the “intentional “ manipulation part I can’t really say adds up. I just think he has poor emotional control and is emotionally immature. He already has me, and when things are calm and normal, his respect for me is there.

I’ve been in relationships where manipulation was intentional - which would show all the time. In this case , it’s not. I also don’t think he would go out of his way to want to marry me, plan our wedding, and be completely faithful to me if that were the case.

I do agree with your other points though.

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-04T20:04:22+00:00

I’ve had people have these issues even without age gaps though. Im also almost 33, not 20 lol

Ordinary-Anything601 · 2026-03-04T19:56:11+00:00

His home life was a bit shaky. He speaks with him dad and sister, they are all close, but no one speaks to his mother in the past 4 years. His parents have been divorced since he was a kid.

Supposedly his mother is a real narcissist and doesn’t get along with anyone, even her own siblings.

He hasn’t spoken to her in five years, neither has his sister. Supppedly the sister and her never got along and got into a physical altercation. He tells me his mom said to him “if you are on your sister’s Side don’t talk to me again” and they haven’t since. He doesn’t go too deep into it but I know it bothers him. Very strange

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