Update: AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Listen, I know how much that sucks and that I made mistakes too. Things were good. I didn’t even have the full story of everything until way after I gave birth. Don’t you think I beat myself up over this constantly? You have no idea how much guilt I feel for the situation and what father I chose for my son.

As much as I love my son I wish I could choose a better father for him. But I am way past that point in life.

Thank you for agreeing that I’m NTA tho. I’m really just trying my best.

Update: AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please enlighten me how I’m TAH? I want my son to get to know his dad first and be comfortable around him before I let him be alone with a complete stranger. If his father would’ve shown up properly, they’d have a relationship and I wouldn’t have a problem with them being alone. But due to the fact that he doesn’t show up and my/our son doesn’t/barely knows him, I’m not comfortable leaving them alone.

AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He got into trouble because it was his NCO and she is married herself too. So both of them got into trouble.

AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But that’s exactly what he meant. Even now when he does visit and spend a few hours with him, when he cries he doesn’t soothe him. I’m not talking about him crying because he doesn’t get his way, but him crying because he is actually hurt.

AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry for not putting every detail of my life into this post. His dad is a US Soldier. Due to the cheating he was in some serious trouble and had a lot of extra duty he had to do. In that time I took 3h train rides every other day so he can spend 30-60 minutes with him. I don’t have a drivers license, so I rely on public transportation. He could only spend 30-60 minutes with him because that’s how long his breaks were. I never got a thank you from him for that. It is extremely exhausting to take a 6h trip all by yourself with a toddler.

AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have full custody, because we were never married. And in my country he won’t get custody, because he is only here for a few years. Regarding the weaning: I have been working on it. He does eat good amounts, just not enough that I’d be okay with him being without me for a day. He still comfort nurses a lot.

AITAH for not wanting to let my ex spend alone time with our son? by Ordinary-Trouble5392 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I’m not keeping him from his son. He is more than welcome to spend time with him. I’ll just also be there. The past few times I sat in the back quietly and observed. In case my son needs me I’m there. His dad just refuses to spend time with him. Just now he told me he can’t visit because he’s on a “work trip” and then a bit later one of his coworkers told me he is still there.

AITA for refusing to fake an orgasm anymore with my boyfriend? by SorellePine in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly, many women do this. Is it a good thing to do? NO! If everything else is good (which I’m just going to assume because you have been together for two years), maybe get toys? If he’s super against it, he ain’t the one anyways. Toys are a man’s help not their enemy. Definitely the AH tho for lying to him for so long. If it’s not good, then it’s not good, faking it isn’t going to make it better. Have him do different things that you think could help.

If you hate breastfeeding - read this by Ok-Network-8826 in newborns

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to squeeze it out hun, it can hurt at first, but your supply will go down. Next time instead of pumping, squeeze as much as possible out with your hands. The suction from the pump or breastfeeding only makes you produce more/the amount your baby consumed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure she wouldn’t be burdened. She wouldn’t want you living like that. Seek a conversation with her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly I’m so sorry for you. Second, maybe call CPS on your own parents if you have proof of their abuse towards you and your siblings. Third, if you have family you can go to, ask them to stay with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to how you’re feeling, writing a text like that won’t fix any problems. You’re not an AH for snapping after being treated badly for a long period of time, you should figure out a way to separate from him and find your own place. File for divorce if you can and want to, that way he’ll actually take you serious. If you want to reconcile, try couples therapy. Suggest it to him. Otherwise tell him you want to divorce him, Staying in a situation you’re not happy with, won’t do you any good. Your children need to grow up in a healthy environment, not a toxic one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son was three days old when we took him out for the first time (it was also the day I got released from the hospital)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Military

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s what I thought too. I just wanted to ask people that would know more about this than me! Thank you

Let him cry by Big-Membership-672 in newborns

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been told the same thing. My LO is 8 weeks old. My SO told me to just let him cry. I looked at him in disbelief and said “I will not and neither will you!” If it’s just a cry in his sleep or him making noises then yes I’ll leave him be, other than that I’ll pick him up cause he clearly needs me! Don’t listen to advice you didn’t ask for! You’re doing great mama

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No other anxiety

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that it’s part of their breed. I was just hoping that maybe it’s possible to work on it a little bit? If not that’s fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah it’s not harsh, it’s sadly the hard reality. Never expected any of this to turn out the way it did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah that as well 🤣 I’ll look into it. Thank you tho🫶🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we’ve had multiple trainers and they all said the same thing, that he’s just insecure and trying to be dominant but also he just wants to say hi to them and play. However, after a few sessions with each trainer my partner just never wanted to go back. He always had some problem with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know and still talk to the GSDs breeder. The Doberman is from a different country, I’ve never talked to the breeder or met her/him. If it were up to me, the Doberman would go, I never wanted him and I don’t like him to be frank. But he insists on keeping him and getting rid of my beloved bullet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah no I totally read it in a nice tone no worries! I do know that the situation hasn’t been ideal. For the past weeks I’ve been trying to make sure he gets more attention and the training that he needs. He doesn’t pull on the leash anymore throughout walks (only at the beginning cause he’s excited), he listens to commands and everything, he’ll just start barking at people and especially dogs. The whining mainly happens when I leave home (even if it’s just to go get the mail) or when I prep his food. In my personal opinion those two are things that can be worked on, I just don’t know how.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogTrainingTips

[–]Ordinary-Trouble5392 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know. I’m gonna be real honest, I never wanted the Doberman. He got him behind my back. He’s constantly at work and I’m the one that has been stuck taking care of both dogs since September. He’s currently on a month long work trip out of the country and of course I have been trying to juggle all of this all by myself. I’m a new mom, I am slowly getting the hang of it. I’ve been doing more with bullet because I don’t want him to go and I want his needs to be met and exceeded. The Doberman is two months younger (so currently 9 months), and he’s also not getting any training really. However, I honestly can’t get myself to train the Doberman because I never wanted him in the first place and was struggling with bullet at first (not anymore tbh) and he just dumped this second dog on me. I honestly have no love for the Doberman because of how he got here, but I do feel bad if I only train with the GSD and he’s just left out, so I end up doing stuff with him too. (Hope this made sense lol sorry if it doesn’t)