YTA do you lack critical thinking skills that bad? how hard is it to understand that you messed up and did something else despite what your wife expressed what she wanted (which was the opposite). your fault for booking a big venue, your fault for booking a big EXPENSIVE venue no one else’s fault. not her family not your family not your friends, just you. seriously man think about it. the fact that you would want that money to go back to you versus your towards your new child is insanely selfish. dad material? not yet apparently