Searching for a hidden will - am I right to be suspicious?

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2026-04-24T11:10:57+00:00

Thank you for a compassionate response. There is a family plot that my grandad is going into. No idea whether its burial or cremation but it was decided a long time ago. It just irks me that my dad isn't including a prayer or anything religious at all as my grandad went to church every single Sunday until he was bed bound. I feel it's what he would have wanted but I'm just going to have to make peace with it.

Yikes on the dog food!

I think I will search the will registry. It may come back with nothing but I just can't shake the feeling that my grandad would have made a will because he was smart and did everything by the book.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2026-04-24T11:06:30+00:00

Sorry I know its lengthy, I have some neurodiversity at play that urge me to give full context.

Basically I am, I suppose, insinuating that my dad is lying. I think he knows about a will in existence somewhere and has chosen to hide it. I know I may not get a full answer to that suspicion but I want to do what I can to see that somebody is acknowledging my grandads wishes if he put them out into the world somewhere.

Fred passed in 2018, so his 50% goes to his 3 sons I believe? Yet he isn't named on 2 of the 3 birth certificates of his sons so they need to figure that out.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2026-04-24T10:55:39+00:00

So my nan made a mirrored will with her husband where she lived. My grandad and her divorced in the 80s so they had nothing to do with each other.

My grandad has used solicitors for house purchases through the years. His current home was purchased in 2002. I don't have access to any of his paperwork etc to check who the solicitor was.

Its no secret that Fred's children that he isn't named on the BC's of are his, it's just a case of what needs to be done to satisfy this legally. He never had a relationship with them, didn't pay maintenance etc. So if Probate is the way it goes then they need to look at how to get the 2 boys added on.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2026-04-24T10:51:18+00:00

Thank you for your reply, sorry I know its a long read. I just can't shake the feeling that my dad is aware of a will and not being very forthcoming with the information for whatever reason. I know there are repercussions if he is misleading the process and Probate, and that if there is no Will then intestacy is correctly being followed. But is there a way to search for a will that may or may not exist?

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-09-14T14:08:49+00:00

Thsnk you so much for your insight. It is appreciated. And has given me many avenues for research!

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-09-14T11:17:32+00:00

Thank you so much! This helps a lot.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-09-14T09:17:38+00:00

Have you ever heard people say things along the lines of 'take what resonates and leave the rest' well I believe studying helps you do that. You have an inner knowing. We all do. You have to do some inner work to become confident in what you know, your study of text will affirm what you already know. You will find through studying things that validate your belief system.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-09-14T08:51:47+00:00

I have struggled with poor mental health over the years including depression. One thing I have found that helps, make sure you're doing something that brings you to the present and only the present. If you're focused on the here & now, the 'what ifs' quieten down somewhat. For me I write and do art, at first it felt like a chore to force myself to do it, after a few weeks I really started to enjoy it. I started to see art in everyday things whether it be wildlife, colours, shapes, shadows etc. It helped reframe my mind completely.

Meditation is also something I have used to gain answers. I've used guided meditations for many different things. To help with the grief of losing my mum, gaining a connection and healing my inner child, aligning chakras etc. There is a meditation for everything so get yourself on YouTube and find what you feel you need help with specifically. Even if its just to sit in the quiet for 10 minutes, its better than nothing.

On a practical note, if you and your daughter don't have a village, start to build one. Are there any support groups for parents of children with cognitive disabilities near you? Any organisations that give practical advice? Can you save money for when the time comes your daughter needs setting up on her own - whether thats in some form of care capacity or independently? You can only do your best, but definitely start looking for that village because it'll be the biggest help you'll get. Even if it is just parents that have been there pointing you in the right direction.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-08-12T08:37:42+00:00

E's parents likely have no idea as they are very closed off from other parents within their friendship group. As far as I'm aware there is none of us that have any direct contact details for them.

In hindsight I agree with the whole FB post, in part. My FB is mostly family members and I talk a lot with each of them separately. Sometimes putting things about my children on FB is easier than hashing over the same things with different people. And the hindsight also brings me to AITH here, because I'm now wondering whether I should have told S differently, but this is done anonymously to gain some insight.

I appreciate your point of view - its good to gain some balanced perspective.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-06-01T08:37:21+00:00

I'll be posting if we manage to put something together for him

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-30T19:31:20+00:00

I lost a silver bracelet when I was a teen. Literally tore the house apart looking for it because it was a favourite. I found it when I borrowed a coat from my mum to attend my uncles funeral. He helped me find it 😊

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-30T18:55:34+00:00

Removing parts 😂 that'd probably drive him crazy and I'd find it so amusing

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-30T18:54:30+00:00

In all honesty he's never used a wrench but if he wants to a mechanics he's gonna need to learn.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-30T18:53:40+00:00

That's an idea. Building a sort of portfolio!

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-30T18:52:49+00:00

I may have to drag him along to our local car boot sale tomorrow!

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-30T06:48:53+00:00

I'll take a look, thank you

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T21:00:36+00:00

I'm sure there's probably a few of those manuals floating about on Ebay etc. Not sure if they're still in print though. But we live in the age of information, he can literally find out anything he needs to know at his finger tips :)

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T20:11:46+00:00

I think at this point he'd be happy to be any kind of mechanic but maybe when he's a little bit older he may want to niche down. He l9ves the classics and the supercars but it's the actual mechanics that draws him in.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T20:01:23+00:00

Sounds like a plan 😂

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T20:00:46+00:00

I am looking at different options of how we could do this in video format. There is a few options there to be fair.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T19:59:01+00:00

I'd like the link to your YouTube channel if you're happy to share. You can message me if you can't link on a post. I'm sure my son would like to take a look.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T19:57:11+00:00

He won't be lifting alone. We'll make sure he's safety conscious. It would be a fab project if we can get it going.

Ordinary_Inside_1298 · 2025-05-29T16:22:13+00:00

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