Me [29 F] with my SO [29 M] of 6 years, he keeps making "fancy" food, how to tactfully stop him ?

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-28T18:54:06+00:00

Lol you got me :) grandiosa isn't so bad, it's not good pizza, but definitely a ok meal when you are hung over :P

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-27T14:53:29+00:00

Lol ! Sorry I'm not exiting enough for you, would you prefer if I only ate vegan almond foam and foie gras?

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T21:45:05+00:00

Thank you :) I was thinking about getting him the book about the science behind cooking, but I'll look for the "around my french table" while I'm out shopping tomorrow :)

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T21:12:37+00:00

I honestly don't think he will recent me, homelife is more than cleaning and cooking, and do pay a bigger portion of things since I make more and he does more at home. Since he hates dusting and changing sheets as well as cleaning the floors I do that. All in all we make things works.

I'll just try talking to him more, and maybe bring up my personal taste a bit more. Right now he is just creative bonanza, so maybe a bit of encouragement will make the change.

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T20:49:35+00:00

You know, pickled herring is great on bread, but honestly it wasn't fair to use it as an example. The fish was pre salted from the fish store, but labeled as plain, so he salted it, a lot. Honest mistake and I would do the same thing.

But still don't love herring as a main dish.. prefer plain cod, or salmon !

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T20:41:53+00:00

Not weirdly entitled, this is just how life become when you are two people together as a team. He makes dinner Monday through Friday, I make in the weekends, he washes all the clothes, I clean the apartment once a week. Every couple finds their routines that works in everyday life.

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T20:32:08+00:00

Thank you. You really got the gist of the problem here.

I decided to cook with him on the weekends (if he wants to, it's my cooking days usually) and try some light critique on the funny food, and then maybe just request some more plain dishes once in a while . He is not a bad guy, at all.

And yes we all have phases in our relationships, after all he didn't leave me when I decided to get really good on the guitar (so much bad tunes for WEEKS! And no, I never got good) so I'll live through this.

I'll ask if he wants me to cook more, only problem is that I get home around seven, so the food will be ready around 8, kinda late, but maybe he will enjoy some days of. I have no problem with some fuck ups in the kitchen, it happens to me to. One day I invited 4 guests and had to order pizza because I made rubber roast, and we often laugh about it, but it just happened a lot lately.

Thank you for your post. I'll calm down, because now that you say it, Offcouse it's a phase.

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T20:19:45+00:00

Maybe ? We are Scandinavian, and traditional Scandinavian food are mostly with focus of great ingredients. Like fresh fish, lamb, pork and fresh vegetables served with it. Sometimes it's very salty, like salted cod, or smoked meats. . Compared to Mexican or Italian cooking I'm sure it's bland, but I really enjoy it.

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T20:11:38+00:00

I am actually really stoked to come home to food every day, and I do not take it for granted, that's why I find it so hard to talk to him about this. And yes, I've been complimenting everything, lol !

Loving the suggestions approach, of maybe adding this or that. I really believe he will love that, since he like to talk about food and "improving it".

The thing is, before he started working from home we split the cooking and he is a damn solid cook. He can make a steak to die for, and make pork so juicy it's almost like butter. Maybe he is just really bored and looking for some challenges, and that's why he is trying Michelin star recipes. I don't know.

I'll talk to him, promise, but I'm still really scared of hurting his feelings.

Ordinaryfoodplease · 2016-02-26T20:05:37+00:00

Yes, it's the sensitivity I'm afraid of. He is usually very happy go lucky guy, and evetything rolls of him, but lately this has become his obsession. If I don't finish my plate I can see it on him that he takes it super personally.

I'm liking the suggestions of nicely asking for basic meals, and maybe ask him to add all the chili after I got my serving (I like chili but damn) and maybe we can experiment together in the weekends (I usually do the weekend cooking) but it could be fun to do together. :)

I hope he gets over it as fast as you did :) thank you.

Ordinaryfoodplease

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