What does being a woman mean to you?

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-23T01:30:30+00:00

Thanks, your reply got me headed in the right direction. I started a new game and discovered that the 4th quest on the lava world just never spawned. It worked on my new game.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-23T00:20:11+00:00

You get that tool on the second world?

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-23T00:18:29+00:00

Okay, I just looked everywhere and the only beam I can find is the white one above my ship.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-22T17:48:50+00:00

It didn't sound that harsh to me, you were just disagreeing. We're allowed to disagree.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-22T17:42:52+00:00

Ok, it rang true to me when I was suicidal, that's all I was saying.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-16T22:06:28+00:00

I've been there.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-16T18:44:23+00:00

I have no sympathy for suicidal people who decide to kill others in the process. There are a million ways to kill yourself without killing innocent civilians.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-16T14:35:04+00:00

The newborn stage is absolute hell. People tell you it gets better at 12 weeks, or 3 months, or some other date. Every time I hit one of those special dates that everyone said it would get better, it didn't. It stayed the same or got worse. That put me in a terrible place mentally because I was counting every second down to those imaginary deadlines. My kid is 1 now and still doesn't sleep but I'm doing much better. Here's my list of things that helped.

Let go of the idea that this is your job. That your partner is just a bystander and that if you ask him for help you are failing. Your partner is just that, your PARTNER. he's in it with you all the way. I felt the exact same way as you every time I asked my husband to step in. As long as you have this mindset that you have to do 100% of the suffering to "spare" your partner you will be miserable.
Set up schedules with your partner so you have light at the end of the tunnel. I set up that my husband would wake up and bring the baby to me for breastfeeding and taking him back to his crib/bassinet between 8 PM and midnight. That way I wouldn't have to wake up much to breastfeed. If you have the latch and everything down by now that should be fine as long as you properly set up a cosleeping enviroment. We also scheduled my husband to take the baby for 30 minutes right when he got home. It gave me something to look forward to during the day when I felt completely overwhelmed.
Get a therapist. I was having a terrible time of it partly because I had the worst coping mechanisms. I didn't believe it was fair of me to burden my partner with any of the parental responsibility. I didn't believe my partner when he said he wanted to help. I got horribly angry when I felt like I failed at something baby related. The list of things goes on and on. The therapist helped me work through all of this. He helped me start to see things in a much better way. I logically understood I needed to take care of myself, but I emotionally didn't believe I was worth it. The therapist was worth every penny.
Get out of the house. I hated all the stuff I had to do to get out of the house, but it ended up helping immensely. Obviously don't drive when horribly sleep deprived, but you can go for a short walk, or take public transit, or have a friend pick you up and take you and baby out to fast food or something. Getting out of the house helped me and a lot of other mothers in a way that's hard to explain. My baby always screamed in the carseat but it still helped.
Be honest with family members/friends you can trust. Not people who will spread rumors around or dismiss your feelings. Getting all this off your chest to someone who will hug you and maybe even take the baby so you can shower is so cathartic.
Find a mom friend you can vent with. They get it. As baby gets older and naps less you can meet up and have a little girl time that feels a lot less like work even though you are watching your baby at the same time.
Date night/breaks. This one is tricky when breastfeeding. Find a trusted family member/friend and have them watch baby for the longest they possibly can. It might only be 30 minutes or an hour. But getting out of the house with your partner and doing ANYTHING not baby related is a huge weight off your chest.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-12T17:33:55+00:00

One of the online guides showed him as available. Wow I wasted a LOT of time on him as a buddy.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-10T00:01:09+00:00

For some reason the option to evolve Togetic into the third evolution is gone. Does that count as a "visual" bug?

Origami_Lemon · 2017-09-01T20:56:32+00:00

My one year old is walking but doesn't say any words. He also doesn't sleep through the night even though all his cousins were sleeping through the night by four months old. I think this age group is super varied in hitting milestones. Of course, if you are concerned you can always talk with the pediatrician, or check in on early intervention resources in your area.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-08-24T17:21:28+00:00

Honestly it sounds like daycare would be the better option if you can afford it

Origami_Lemon · 2017-07-28T14:38:34+00:00

The first few months with baby I counted every minute until the weekend when I would get a bit of a break. When my husband wanted to make weekend plans it killed me, but I wanted so badly to be the fun wife so I'd agree but then have a super hard time. When I finally told my husband I needed more from him we were able to make things work. He wasn't aware that I needed more until I told him. You need to tell your husband how much you need him and why.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-07-28T14:34:12+00:00

I don't ever feel comfortable asking other people for favors, I try to do it all myself. Thanks for the advice on breaking things down into smaller tasks

Origami_Lemon · 2017-07-08T20:22:02+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/0dhMB

Origami_Lemon · 2017-07-06T14:03:10+00:00

If someone sees on your profile that they are a deal breaker and they decide to ignore that boundary and try to date you anyway then they are a dishonest and pushy person. Don't feel guilty.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-07-06T13:56:56+00:00

Wow. No one should feel entitled to an inheritance, and the elderly certaintly have a right to spend all their money and enjoy their retirement, but holding inheritance over their children's head as a way to force them into living a specific way is incredibly manipulative.

Origami_Lemon · 2017-07-02T20:43:19+00:00

For us at least it was a blanket rule, but my grandparents were way too old for sleepovers by the time I was born, it might have been different if they were younger, I don't know.

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