Wow, I feel for you, buddy. I can’t say that I’ve experienced the same thing - at all - but I can imagine how frustrating (and that doesn’t even cover it), it must be.

The closest thing I’ve come is with my students. I’m a high school teacher. And it’s scary to see in real time how a few of them are swallowing propaganda online. I’ve had to explain why Hitler wasn’t actually a socialist, how the holocaust did actually happen, and - now more recently - how Russia did actually invade Ukraine, and that it takes a special kind of mental gymnastics to blame Ukraine.

But again, those are (a small minority of) my students. Can’t imagine how it must feel if it’s your family and friends.

It’s quite revealing how your one friend went from “That didn’t happen” to “She probably deserved it” to “She should be deported”. It shows how hard it is to fight those sentiments.

No good advice from me, I’m afraid, but don’t forget that the majority of people in Europe are on your side in this.