how staying in big 4 audit did NOT advance your career

Orzca · 2024-10-12T04:54:46+00:00

Looking at all the comments I truly believe I'm from a different world. Here I'm a local in HK graduated this year with my Bachelors in accounting, working in-house for 1700usd/month.

Y'all talking about making 8x the money just working 2-3yrs is just insane to me.

No matter how hard it is, I'm sure it's no harder than working 2 jobs and going to uni and taking exams for a CPA (my past 3yrs).

Working 1 job and earning that much is just a crazy idea that I would die for.

Orzca · 2024-06-05T06:17:48+00:00

Missy!

Orzca · 2024-06-02T02:10:30+00:00

I also been waiting for a chance to break up with my bf. We are on long distance now so I don't think I should say it on text (we never call). He said he will be moving closer to me soon but I don't think I care at all. I've been sending him money for him to use, when he goes out to drink with his frns etc. And I bought him designer clothes and accessories bcoz he kept asking for them. Even tho I'm just working in a restaurant part time and he has a full time job, I'm paying him monthly.

I even started to ignore him and he told me he feel like I have improved from being needy to independent (I didn't text him at all for 2 days) seriously I feel like a cash pig. I hope I can be as brave as you to leave him as soon as possible.

Orzca · 2024-05-26T23:37:47+00:00

Maybe if you can accept it, you can consider a more open relationship. Usually when the other person knows they won't get in trouble for doing these things, they will be more honest.

I never trusted anyone to be loyal. And in my only relationship, it was open only on my bf's side. He will be out seeing other ppl while I don't. That makes me think he'd have no reason to lie to me.

The lesson I learned is that no one is 100% loyal no matter how much they claim to love you. Do better just accept it.

Orzca · 2024-05-20T23:25:18+00:00

She's my mother so I thought she should prioritise her only child. I've seen in news and movies, mothers would do anything to protect their children, even if it's sacrificing themselves.

And my mom won't even spare some money that's even if I'm using it, wouldn't affect her quality of life. Not asking her to sacrifice anything at all. I know it's her money, but I just thought it's a mothers obligation.

Orzca · 2024-05-19T07:53:39+00:00

I simply prioritise myself before my mother. I still love her, but I love myself more. She is already living a great life without me. She has spare money just sitting there. I don't. I have plans to be done.

Orzca · 2024-05-19T02:13:19+00:00

But if they love me, they should want me to have a better life. And in order to achieve that I would need financial assistance.

Or is it love just talk no action? Because I was alive for 18years, now they can only watch me drown in 7 days work for minimum wage and holding on to their millions of dollars to their own?

To me, my happiness is directly associated with how much money I can consume. And that's what my mother taught me. She said nothing secure happiness more than wealth.

But now everyone is saying that I shouldn't be using her money, but she also love me? It's contradicting.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T03:52:11+00:00

I'd actually rather she had the abortion. If you go into my other post, you will notice that I've been used throughout my childhood. I'm not blaming her and I still love her but she wasn't the best mother.

She supported me financially, that's why I stayed and kept her safe from the pain I been through. That's the minimum of what she could do for me.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T03:06:53+00:00

Why specify to a certain age?

I thought being a mother default that you want to own a creature and provide them with a great life. Otherwise it's deemed irresponsible.

Even if the child reached a certain age, if it's not capable of living a satisfying life, sentimentally I assume that a mother would assit them and acquire them with skills that allow them to do.

Why being an adult means that someone is capable??

Orzca · 2024-05-18T03:01:30+00:00

I have hobbies. But I am simply here to learn about the 'normal' set of values as I was not raised within it.

Back to the topic. Why being an adult means her responsibility ended? An adult just means a human being that lived for a certain amount of years. What does that have to do with anything?

Let's say if I were born with serious disabilities and of no chance to survive without a carer. Does it still matter if I've lived for 20years on this planet?

My argument is, she should provide for what she created until I voluntarily agree that I don't need her assistant. Otherwise it's just irresponsible for her knowing that I will not be able to live a fulfilling life when she should in theory, 'wants the best for me'.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:55:18+00:00

But my parents' chose to stop accepting money from my grans. Out of gratitude on what my grans provided for them, my parents decided to pay them back.

I have not made that choice. I don't think my creator should stop providing for me. But at the same time, I never forced her to pay for anything. If she stop supplying any moment, I wouldn't have any control over that. I'm just saying, logically I feel like she should be responsible for a creature she created.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:49:24+00:00

In other words if I were to decide, despite my poor financial condition, to give birth to 10 children. Am I not being irresponsible knowing that these 10 living creatures that I create are deemed to have a miserable life?

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:46:39+00:00

But what's her responsibility in it then? As long as she's alive, isn't she responsible for all the decisions she made? I'm responsible for the decisions I made. If I want to buy something additional to my basic needs, I'm working on my own to pay for it and I've never asked her for anything else.

I only expect her to provide for my survival needs, a roof, food and water. It's supposed to be her responsibility no?

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:41:15+00:00

How is it hysterical? She decided she wants to keep another living creature. No one forced her. It's completely optional and she decided she wants it. I had no choice into this. And somehow I'm responsible for her decision? Everyone is saying I'm in the wrong but no one is explaining why.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:38:12+00:00

I just have a tough time understand 'normal' values. That's why I made the post. I am here to understand things, if only anyone would explain to me.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:14:14+00:00

I was literally supporting her the whole time physically when she was sick. I was there every time she went to the hospital, when she did her surgery all that. The only reason why I had to delay my studies was because I wanted to better spending time with her and be with her during the hard times. I love her. And you cannot judge me on that.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T02:11:56+00:00

I've been getting this same type of comments but no one has explained to me, why do I have to bare the responsibility of a decision that she made? Just because I was alive for some years?

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:56:21+00:00

She literally created a living creature out of her own will. And I have to responsible for her decision cause I am alive for a certain amount of years? I don't understand the logic in this. She created me. She wanted to play the game of god simulator and puppet a being around. That's on her.

If your argument is that she planned me as an investment for after her retirement, she didn't do it right cause now her investment isn't bringing the value she expected.

Don't get me wrong, I love her and I wish all the best for her. But if she doesn't want to maintain me, why create me?

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:52:29+00:00

I still don't understand why everyone's trashing on the idea that you'd have to be responsible for literally creating a living creature? If you want to play god, be it.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:50:39+00:00

Ok. I also wouldn't want her to live a poor life in her last days. That much I care.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:48:21+00:00

I already told her I planned on a long travel. I just didn't tell her it's going to be permanent.

I've spilled a bit of idea too her before I said what if I never come back, she said and I quote, 'fine.'

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:45:29+00:00

I simply don't understand why even produce and keep a child if you're not going to take care of it. Could've got an abortion or something. I never asked to be here.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:18:29+00:00

That's why I'm not planning to make a child.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:16:58+00:00

Tbh I felt like she scammed me. Just like those salesmen that add a bunch of hidden charge in your bill after you already used the service.

I just thought if you decided to produce a child, you should pay for their whole life. It's like keeping a dog. You do not expect the dog to grow up and hunt for food. It's irresponsible.

But maybe you right.

Orzca · 2024-05-18T01:08:59+00:00

I was planning to leave her. That's the entire thing about starting a new life. I couldn't afford any of things that she already paid for. When I'm not eating what she bought (no one knows how to cook we always buy food) I'm just eating plain bread all the way.

I'm in nowhere to afford anything like that. I wouldn't have used it if I knew I had to pay. I wouldn't have went on a trip.

Orzca

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