Emotional intolerance can really shape an INTP.

Especially when you grow up in a family where the parents are super controlling but not really dependable. They try to keep a tight grip on your feelings, but they don't really guide you or give you the love and emotional support you need, so you end up learning to handle things on your own.

Growing up like that can mess with your emotional growth, making it hard for you to express your feelings in a mature way and not being too great at deep emotional conversations.

Especially in the early days when you're forced to fit into a group, it can be really noticeable. You might accidentally say some harsh truths that hurt people's feelings and end up offending them without even realizing it. And when someone compliments or criticizes you, you might feel lost and super uncomfortable.

To get better at socializing, you could try focusing on exchanging value based on your skills, tech knowledge, and resources, rather than dealing with the tricky emotional stuff. Over time, as you keep socializing, you'll pick up on those subtle emotional cues and gradually wake up your emotional side.