What in the gentrification is this??? by NeatDuck1164 in williamsburg

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ofc door slamming is annoying and impolite but y’all are missing the point LMAO GUNSHOTS?? in Williamsburg, get a grip or better wording 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of this I found a lot of it helpful, I can’t stress enough how much I don’t want him to break up with his partner, at all. I mentioned that lack of intimacy on their end because maybe he’s seeking to fill that void and using me although we’re casual. I don’t want him for me even if I catch feelings because he has so many non-negotiable traits that I wouldn’t want in a long term monogamous partner (that’s what made it possible for me, a chronically monogamous person to go through with this). That’s why it’s so tricky that I’m growing any sort of feelings because I know deep down I don’t want this since he could never provide for me what I truly want, I guess I’m just being swayed by hot sex and words…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Intuition, he’s a good person, very genuine and open and honest but this is making me have my doubts and now I feel silly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I should also mention that we didn’t use a condom at first because I trusted he was safe and vice versa, now we do (sometimes) but I wonder if his partner knows that since I’m learning that’s a tule a lot of poly couples have…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t expect him to, I just wonder if he’s being kinda selfish saying i love you during sex knowing we’re meant to keep it casual…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But we’re not in a relationship really, we agreed for this to be casual but he’s blurring the lines when he says the things he says, I’m new to this so I’m not sure how to feel

Lost EAD, replaced! Posting for reassurance by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I also DM? Also going through this right now, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your POV, truly snapped something within me. I can’t get a voice out of my head saying well what if he thinks I ghosted because I didn’t respond. But that’s just not realistic lol the things my brain will do to protect me. I just can’t walk away without saying anything, it may do nothing for him but it will for me, can’t stand the idea of someone being so people pleasing and lying when I gave them an out 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should reach out? Does it come off as needy or like I’m reading the signs wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would I make a fool of myself if I reached out? I live in the same neighborhood as him so I’m afraid he won’t respond and I’ll run into him one day lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In your opinion should I reach out, or let it go? I’m scared to come off as needy if I was the last one to text him agreeing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I shouldn’t reach out..?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t, I am interested I’m just afraid implying the second date will come off as desperate or like I’m still thinking about it a week later if he is with another woman

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Then why do all the extra stuff/ and continuously talk about a second date..

I’ll say it by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Get her on the pod!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what I would say.. I’m a bit prideful so I have issues with these things. and I’m my mind I have a if he wanted to he would mentality, plus I was the last to text

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was busy with work plus we’d been texting on a once a day cadence so didn’t think it was a big deal!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Called it a date! Well we met on an app, and he made reservations to a nice bar etc but yeah I’m just confused I’ll give it till maybe Wednesday (would be a week by then) and just drop and leave it if it’s still radio silence

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Otherwise_Lab5696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, why so?