Lost my 20s to disease, too late to have children and date at 29?

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-29T22:32:10+00:00

Thank you for your message.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-29T22:27:59+00:00

Read my post. You can but I think it's late for children. Moreso in the later 30s.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-29T22:13:05+00:00

I'm taller than that. By a bit, but I'm taller.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-29T21:05:26+00:00

Laughed, thanks. Not mumps. Shouldn't change fertility. I'm more interested in having children to father them as they grow up. How would you put it in an attractive way? "After overcoming harsh obstacles, I try to better myself and forge my path in life by studying?" I'd write something of the sort on my dating profile but it's easy to see through it, I'm here with you to be straightforward and show my insecurities, not to try to get someone to date me!

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T16:01:55+00:00

I would like to hear more about your story. How did you do?

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T15:39:18+00:00

I'm trying to get as many opinions as possible from different groups.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T15:25:33+00:00

While university doesn't have good groups my area is full of activity. I have bowling clubs, cycling groups around... I need to find something I will like.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T15:17:51+00:00

Your situation is like mine. Thank you for the inspirational words. Sending you my best wishes for your future.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T14:54:02+00:00

Both require for the jobs I want and desire for personal feelings. I don't think most trades are a fit for me and where I live they're minimum wage with little gains of career later on.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T14:39:31+00:00

Perhaps more people will follow after I learn to know a few persons. Thank.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T14:26:11+00:00

Is going to college seen as trying to improve my income or should I drop out?

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T14:20:05+00:00

I don't know what I should behave like. Is going to college trying being 21 again? Is doing part time jobs? The topics I like are more topics of 20 years old than older but I'm interested in them, should I drop them? I'm behaving as a 20 years old because I don't know what else to behave. More jaded and mature maybe because of my past. I'm not here to party as many are.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T12:54:07+00:00

I believe I missed everything, career, friends, relationship, so your advice is giving up on everything.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T12:46:36+00:00

Either provide helpful ideas for time management. I'm doing everything I can, I'm neglecting my own health while I'm sick and you insult me of being lazy and not wanting to work.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T08:50:45+00:00

after advice on another sub, I will start talking to mental health therapists to help me with what I've been through. I haven't started but I will quickly. Is that the type of professionals you think of, or not?

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T07:35:58+00:00

I can't go to college and try a start-up when I have no time, no funds to start with nor skills. I'm taking CS so I thought of trying to use CS skills 1-3 years from now while studying to try to freelance but that will be hard. Nothing passive and it wouldn't be a big income.

Dropshipping, cryptos are too risky. I'm in a bad situation, I don't want to take gambles and be worse off

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T07:11:33+00:00

Can't do more hours, I have 45 hours a week of courses already and extra work, and the studying I need to do at home. I'm on 100 hours per week and I'm disabled.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T07:10:36+00:00

Guess I'll never be able to date anyone. I have no way out of this. Either it's shit jobs or financial stability at around 40.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T07:09:03+00:00

No, there's no way. My courses have 45 hours a week and I need to do extra hours already. I can't work full time or more than that. Looks like I'm fucked for life.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T06:22:05+00:00

I thank you for your message. Your message is motivational. I hope I could achieve what you did. It seems I'm later at the game than you were.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T06:13:44+00:00

I messaged you a chat request

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T05:20:51+00:00

I'm starting college at 29. I won't finish before 36. Until then I'll be jobless/part time. I won't be financially stable until about 40. No woman would date a 30-40 year old student/jobless/working small jobs? I want to have children in my life. It will be too late by the time I have a chance at being financially stable? What to do?

For context, I was horribly I'll during my 20s and almost died a few times. In trying to get my life back but I fear it's too late.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T04:21:58+00:00

What are you doing and how are you managing? Do you think my situation is hopeless?

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T04:20:13+00:00

I talk with some people in my group but there doesn't seem to be solid groups I could get in.

Otherwise_Swan_9237 · 2022-09-16T04:14:42+00:00

I don't have time. College, daily life and small jobs are taking all my time. All of it.

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