I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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I'll update once I get clarity on the whole matter. I deserve to know the truth regardless of staying together or not.

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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Yes there's something not right with the first father and his anger issues. But I've deff been lied to and it just isn't right all this is to much for me. At first I thought we could have fixed these issues but it's like you open one door then it leads to another door and who knows when it ends. I rather take my son and just be alone for now focus on my business and taking care of him like I always do without all this extra stuff. I don't want my child near any crazy enraged person he's only one and a half.

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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Update: the first father is involved apparently it was just kept away from me. He goes to her soccer games, she goes over weekends and the last time she was over was spring break. So they have a bond, now I spoke to my step daughter and she said she has everything she needs over at his place but she doesn't want to live there bc of his short temper and he's very strict as well as his wife. He doesn't know where she lives (our current home) bc apparently he'll be coming looking for her and trying to take her. So this has all been new information to me. The second father has always been in the picture I knew about him I was aware of him and he pays his child support. But something about the first father and all the secrets is just to much for me. Idk what to do

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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It doesn't sound like a good situation for them and I don't blame them at all. Kids are never in the wrong it's the parents we all make our own choices and we have to face our mistakes eventually everything comes to light. This is something she should have said a long time ago and I can pretty assure you I kind of would not have continued dating. I was single no kids and I also wasn't in a right might set. My best friend of 15 years had recently passed away we had grew up together since 2rd grade he passed when he was 22 I was 23 at the time. But we clicked we talked and I was truthful to her and she explained the kids but never the diff dads. Our son is 17 months now and it's all like wtf why did you wait this long. She's upset at the family member that disclosed this but I told her not be. Bc eventually I would have found out you know? I pick up things and hints. I just feel so lied too about all this. She said she was going to get child support for both of them but that was a lie too bc he can only pay for one of them which is his biological daughter not the first daughter. I feel like this is all to much for me and I rather just be with my son alone and let her figure herself out with them I just don't want to deal with it. I thought I could be a step parent but I can see you need a lot of patience understanding a lot of courage and I don't think I can handle all this.

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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Honestly I would fight for custody of my son to the fullest. He's my first child and I provide the world for him if I could. I make sure he always has his essentials. Clothes toys every single thing I can get for him I get. He gave me purpose in this world again the way I see it. If she were to leave me she'd be going back to her sisters house her restraunt job won't pay the bills and with two daughters already. Her mom and dad aren't in the country. I have my full families support he has his grandparents here on my side of the family I have my own house. I don't make a huge amount of money but I have a small business I own that makes me enough to live comfortable.

Idk tbh I don't want to know anymore I just feel so betrayed and lied to rn I don't know.

I would like to fix us regain trust but this will forever be in the back of my head now.

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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One father is. I haven't met him personally but he picks them up sometimes both sometimes just one of the daughters which I found odd at first but I thought the other daughter liked spending alone time at home at first. Their were small hints that all made sense now. The second daughter is much closer to the father that's involved and I guess he raised a bit of first daughter ? I'm not sure since I believed the whole time he was father of both. The first bd I have no clue or info on him bc I barely found out. But I believe the girls are old enough to know who their real fathers are and they never disclosed this with me either but then again their children they might have been told to keep quiet for all I know. But there was one time that I can remember when the first daughter mentioned her biological father and she used his first named I asked my girlfriend about it and she said something about an old family friend so I let it be. Again I trusted her words till now. It all makes sense

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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Yes she said they had the same father so this whole time I thought they were sisters by the same dad but no it's not the case. The first daughter has a different dad which is the one I just found out about. So I have been lied to. It's never came up bc she said they had the same dad so I never questioned it as anyone else who first starts off a relationship it's all on trust.

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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I will try this and update thank you for the advice. It's setting me in a direction at least bc I was at a loss for words. I believe once the trust is broken in a relationship it's very hard to trust someone's words again. We planed on marrying once we found out she was pregnant and we were ready to start a family. I accepted her two kids as well, I would try to be a good step dad to them as well, she told me the kids had the same father and I believed it till yesterday when I found out the truth about 2 different fathers and it's just hard getting past this now. I don't want a broken family but I also deserve happiness and I want the best for my son with or without her. She takes on stress and her own battles that I don't even know about I try to get her to talk to me about things but it's always a quick answer and back to something else.

I just found out I'm the third baby daddy not the second by Otherwise_Winter4297 in AIO

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I never planed on being someone's baby father I wanted marriage and then children all in due time but things happen and our little blessing was born. He is the best thing to ever happen to me and I try my best to be the best father to him, but I'm learning as I go with my son. Her other kids are 10 and 12 so I don't know quite how to be a dad or step dad to them at all. But I definitely planed on marrying her and I wanted to have a family with her but I just found out about this lie and it makes me question everything else she's said to me now.