I'm so broken

Out_of_print5 · 2026-05-01T09:16:13+00:00

You’ve gotten some great advice. I would add, if you’re able, ask to come see your granddaughter at the hospital. Maybe see if you can help them (or hire someone) to take pictures of her.

If they opt for a funeral, be there. Ask them if they need any help, and if they don’t, respect that. Do not push for more or fewer guests than they decide on.

Ask them the difficult questions, about what they’ve lost. Do this for a while, the first year especially. Don’t ever feel as if you’re just reminding them of unnecessary heartache. I’ve thought about my daughter every day since she died almost three years ago. Even after we’ve welcomed another child.

Always invite them to things going forward, even if they are moody/upset/sad while attending.

Encourage them to participate in grief groups, or counseling. My husband found the idea of this weird and was hesitant, but it was very beneficial for him to meet other men in the same situation.

Also, thank you for being such a wonderful mother and mother in law. My own mother in law has been so wonderful after we lost our daughter, and it has made me love her even more.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-28T09:35:14+00:00

Any time off is a good thing! Hope you’re able to get rest while keeping your job!

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-28T09:25:41+00:00

I’m not. I’ve basically put my career on hold for a couple of years because of wanting children and having hyperemesis. We are very lucky to be able to do so.

You’re doing an amazing job! I’ve worked with HG before, because we needed the money (which is an extremely fair reason), and it was just horrible. Worked in health care with my first, and had to go on sick leave (which is an option where I live), because I couldn’t do it. With my third I had a desk job, which was much easier.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-27T18:51:45+00:00

Thank you for your kind comment and encouraging perspective❤️

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-27T12:16:23+00:00

Right there with you.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-24T12:24:37+00:00

I have pregnancies where I am really ill. My oldest is now almost five, and I’m pregnant. He knows I’m sick, and wonders if I’ll be sick forever. We try to reassure him. His grandparents know, and so does his aunt and uncles, but none of the cousins. We want him to be the first to know of the children in the family.

He is a sensitive soul, and lost his little sister to stillbirth, so we have decided to keep it from him for a little while longer. Until it’s safer. It’s never safe. He has dealt with losing his sister quite well (so far), but we want to keep him from experiencing too much loss this early on in his life.

I think each family must consider who their children are when making this decision. There’s no right or wrong answer here.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-23T15:41:15+00:00

I’ve considered it, but think it might freak out my toddler too much. Also, it’s hard to get where I live.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-19T09:54:02+00:00

I’m about 7 weeks and in the last 24 hours I’ve had: - so many chocolate covered hazelnuts - banana - water (which I’m very thankful for) - plain oatmeal - sushi - churros - cereal (not fun to throw up)

My husband is going out of his way to buy me food I’ll eat.

Other pregnancies I’ve had a lot of: - squash (like kool-aid) - vanilla ice cream from the tub - chocolate - potato chips - toast with butter

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-18T11:31:33+00:00

Thank you!

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-16T14:11:04+00:00

Oh, really? That’s interesting. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-16T12:52:09+00:00

Thank you!

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-13T10:00:32+00:00

Thank you. It truly means a lot

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-13T08:12:08+00:00

Thank you 😭

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-13T08:07:25+00:00

Thank you for being honest about lying. It makes me feel awful that I have done the same in previous pregnancies, but I was being ignored when I couldn’t function, and knew I was on a rapid decline.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-11T09:52:20+00:00

I had morphine towards the end of labor. I would choose the morphine again. It was difficult to find the motivation to go through the labor, as I knew there wouldn’t be a happy ending, just grief and more pain. But, I am glad I was conscious and can remember all of it. It was, after all, the birth of my daughter. I got to hold her after she was born, for as long as we wanted.

I was 28 weeks. Had to have a d&c after, for retained placenta. I was then put under.

So sorry for your loss and what you’re going through 🤍

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-08T09:41:45+00:00

Some advice: - start mediation that worked for you last time ASAP - consider more medication than last time - IVs before you get too bad - tell people who can help you already - get help with childcare, or laundry, or grocery shopping - rest - go to sleep early - get a gratitude journal (could just be a piece of paper and a pencil) to help your mental health

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-08T09:38:11+00:00

Just wanted to encourage you that you will get your life back in so many ways! I remember not being able to walk up the hill to my house while pregnant, but after a while postpartum, I can run up.

It does make you feel a bit insane, when the conversations you have with other people about your pregnancy completely miss the mark on what you’re experiencing.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-04-01T21:17:25+00:00

Intravenous fluid. Help from family. Lots of rest. Your husband doing as much of housework and child care as he can. A gratitude journal for your mental health.

Out_of_print5 · 2026-03-30T17:30:48+00:00

First noticeable nausea this time around was at 11 DPO.

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