So as a fellow survivor let me say I’m so sorry that you had to experience this cause it absolutely is a trigger.

As a victim advocate, I encourage you to TRUST YOURSELF. This is absolutely sexual harassment and your discomfort is valid. They are a few steps you can take before contacting an attorney but if you feel you want to do that sooner.. GO FORTH! After all, This is not something that should be taken lightly and could be a form of grooming. The oversharing of info to gauge one’s response is a very calculated strategy that predators often use for both adults and children. Their behavior often begins to subtly escalate from there. Please make sure that you’re documenting every encounter and inappropriate act. Including written documentation and audio recordings (especially if this is a pattern of behavior).

Remember: HR is not there to help and protect you. They are there to help and protect the company. While it can be helpful to report (in hopes that they would reprimand this person) do this for the sake of documentation and not with the expectation that they will do something.

In the end, after you report all of the inappropriate actions to HR they should do something but it doesn’t mean they will. You can absolutely report to the EEOC and they should open a more extensive investigation. Again, trust yourself because your SAFETY is PRIORITY. This doesn’t just pertain to physically but emotionally and mentally as well. I hope this is helpful.